Communication is KEY to sessions that hit it out of the ballpark...so men, (& ladies), SPEAK UP!!!

Good point LB..BTW..damn you are fine

Good point LB..BTW..damn you are fine Originally Posted by EastDago

thank you!

I think Yummy makes a great point. Communication is vital to any type of interaction. Of course, there are many ways to communicate, and LB may be inferring to some non-verbal forms of communication. Nevertheless, the easiest method, and the one that takes most of the guessing out of the equation, is plain old, honest, verbal discussion.

Oh....and Yummy and LB are both fucking hot...ijs.

I think Yummy makes a great point. Communication is vital to any type of interaction. Of course, there are many ways to communicate, and LB may be inferring to some non-verbal forms of communication. Nevertheless, the easiest method, and the one that takes most of the guessing out of the equation, is plain old, honest, verbal discussion.

Oh....and Yummy and LB are both fucking hot...ijs. Originally Posted by Molay

Yes! They both are! I def see where LB is coming from, and it works at times. Communication is not limited to verbal communication and it's great to utilize other methods. Overall communication is important due to the fact that a provider may think she had done well in the session, wakes up the following morning, logs on to ECCIE, and sees a "NO" review. This happens sometimes. Then again, gents lying and hyping her up during the session claiming he enjoyed it happens too...

Okay, Yum Yum and LB need to create a Latin sandwich with one of these gents...can I watch ?? hehe

LB you seem to have an excellent bedside manner. The trick is tuning into both verbal and non-verbal cues to guide you. And I agree, the longer one does this, the easier it is to read these cues. It's also important not to sit them at a table, in handcuffs, under a spotlight, and do an interrogation...unless its part of a fantasy LOL.

Communication is pretty important - most dudes are pretty clueless and having some suggestions on things to do/try are always helpful!

Hmmmm...I haven't been a Latin Sandwich since Chislaine and Carmela Leal...

Communication is pretty important - most dudes are pretty clueless and having some suggestions on things to do/try are always helpful! Originally Posted by jbravo_123

Reviews are good for this. If they are interested in something they've read about in my reviews, we can give it a whirl :-).

Now does spontaneity and creativity have a place in this short window of time? Absolutely, but it usually occurs after mutual trust and respect have been established.

This thread made me cum. True story.

I often let loose via pms. If a provider doesn't like that then it is usually a sign we won't get along.

Gentlemen, if communication was a barrier, would you consider returning for a repeat visit if you felt a second chance would be a different story? Originally Posted by YummyMarie

Just be yourself. Be natural. And don't be concerned that you might be judged.

....its been a delightful surprise when reviews speak highly of how much they enjoyed the show. Originally Posted by YummyMarie

Indeed...indeed.....though it does pose the interesting question...how in GOD's name were you able to listen to what the reviews spoke?

And, as many have wisely pointed out....communication is the key to ANY relationship.

Just be yourself. Be natural. And don't be concerned that you might be judged. Originally Posted by LexusLover

Totally agree.

I have a slightly different system than Val, but after a gentleman is screened I give him the opportunity to get more vivid with his desires. Also, if they express an interested in communicating via email, text or phone before we meet, I love that. It builds anticipation and allows me an incite to what they want or expect.

Of course I can take the hint if they are talking dirty and grabbing my hair too

Of course I can take the hint if they are talking dirty and grabbing my hair too Originally Posted by OliviaHoward

Love this!

What if I come in and I say, hey Yummy I am broke? How far would you go?

My very first session as a provider was just about one year ago, so I've been reflecting lately about what makes my most successful sessions so successful. The one thing that it comes down to IMO is communication.

For example...a gentleman came in and we started to chit chat. He said, "I'm as freaky as they get..." So I made sure to put it on full throttle with him. I didn't ask if he wanted DATY or DATO, I just plopped right down on his face and made him dine like it was his last meal. If we had never had that conversation ahead of time, what would the session have been like? Would I have been confident enough to assert my inner vixen with him? Probably not.

When a man tells me he's stressed out or sore from working so hard...out comes the massage oil and my pampering side.

Not every person wants to swim in my wetspot, so I am conscious NOT to drown him unless he tells me that he wants to be drowned) per his fantasy of being with a squirter).

At times, I feel guilty when I pull out my toys and go to town on myself, but its been a delightful surprise when reviews speak highly of how much they enjoyed the show. But that's why I ask ahead of time if they are interested in toys.

If a man's goal is to make me cum, I love to know that, because there is technique involved and I don't have any qualms with coaching a willing gentlemen through making me orgasm.

If you are a man that has to do all the work at home in bed and you want someone to take charge, tell me. Otherwise, my natural inclination is to be a an open-minded submissive playmate.

So bottom line, how many of my sessions could have been improved if either I or my friends had expressed their needs and desires more?

Men, if you've ever had a session not go the way you had hoped, ask yourself if you gave her the needed information to make your fantasies come to fruition.

Ladies, if feedback on your service is only so-so, was any of it due to not investing time in understanding your client's needs via questioning or exploratory conversation?

Gentlemen, if communication was a barrier, would you consider returning for a repeat visit if you felt a second chance would be a different story? Originally Posted by YummyMarie