Ok, I actually had watched part 2 of that before.
When I noticed a trend of gents asking for rate specials and discounts about 90% of the time, and I had never experienced it before, I wanted to see who or what was affecting the reality of that type of thing never having occurred too much. So, the actual connection, while nothing psychic to discover, I immediately concluded, some One (s) were responsible for the turn of events, other than myself. LOL It ain't rocket science, folks. Then I kept getting all the foul language and here we are.
While I can appreciate a gent saying, hey I got a great rate, she ran a special. I can not in good Conscience watch as gents encourage other gents to use our generosity against us, whether unwittingly or not. I'd love if others didn't see what I say as complaining, but rather see what I say as explaining and defending, because I have no reason to complain. I didn't create the fall out of generous advice amongst the gents. I'm simply pointing it out and the implications of what may not turn out to be such great advice.
My ex husband used to call it complaining when I asked he pay attention to the kids, help me with the house, or even the lawn. I wasn't whiny or pushy or naggy, to each his own, ya know? but I did try to explain that I was worn out. He accused me of nagging. I tried 3 more times over a 2 year period, but he always accused me of nagging. There was no yelling or fighting or wordy durds used, just me asking. After 2 years, I divorced him, because I knew he couldn't see and I wasn't gonna fight. Maybe if I had, I'd still be with him, but I was just too tired. For more that ten years he asked me to come back, but I just couldn't. He claimed that he now understood what I was saying. One of the hardest things I ever did was divorce the man I loved. I hurt him deeply, and that ain't my thing. I've finally forgiven us both and moved on. Thing is, He couldn't comprehend how deeply he hurt me by his perception of me complaining. But how does one explain to another their perception is not quite right on such things? Admittedly, I've gotten a bit feistier with age....LOL
Now I added this story, because I just watched that movie Ms Knight suggested and thought I might be able to help others connect the dots. I've been on a mission to get folks to think for themselves concerning this issue, because not only I, am being affected by misdirection. If it was just me, then I'd know to clean up my act. Several threads out and about and the ladies are trying to tell some of the really nice helpful gents, who are responsible for our predicament, to please understand, this is not the best kind of advice for the ladies, even if for the gents. Help a lady out, cause while independent, we depend on the Hobbyists to protect their own interest, (that would be the ladies) If you want us to be able to do what we do, have some compassion, look at the bigger picture of some of your advice, please.
I've been accused of being narcissistic by a gent, and I suppose it's because I relay my messages through my own personal experiences. I see others, but their perceptions are not mine, so I don't suppose I could use Harriet the Hooker's life experiences, to get my point across quite as well as I can, when I use my own. Most ladies prefer ya not know such personal things, and many gents prefer not to know. That's kewl. But the message wouldn't be quite as meaningful if I just made the statement, Stop Asking for Specials, cause then gents start explaining why it's their right and I should just accept that. Yeah well, it ain't that easy, cause it ain't just me being affected. It's your ATF, and a whole lotta other ladies. So no Mr B, I am very giving and considerate of everyone. Just because you perceive it as narcissistic and say it as such, doesn't make it so. Try looking again, tilt your head, ya might like what ya see, hon. If you are unable to bring yourself to, I totally understand. I say that a lot you know.....I understand. LOL
And for goodness sake, will some of the gents who claim to never haggle, feel free to contact me....LOL
Not many of you around anymore! Ijs.
And if ya must curse on this thread, then please, feel free to do so. I wouldn't complain, but it does in fact, affect me. I subject myself so I shouldn't say nothing, yeah, I get that too.....LOL. Anywho.... Others have and no one melted. I've shared some personal things of me, and it doesn't scare me a bit to do so. It makes me human and personable. After all, I and all the ladies do provide the most personal service available to men, and one that Many of us, do enjoy! And that also is a fact. The ones who don't enjoy, well, maybe give it another think, why they don't.
Thanks....MM