Sex with SO vs sex with a provider

Do you maybe feel that you're doing something wrong.. Maybe having seconds thoughts as you're beginning your session with a provider... Most of us here are single or on here bc our SO doesn't satisfy us at home, but seems like you don't have that problem. I think after a couple of times that tingle in your belly goes away and if it hasn't by now you might not belong on this site! That's just my thought! Originally Posted by Diznutz

Is this mofo using my avatar? What the fuck?

The SO never does BJs anymore and if I'm lucky I get a position(1of3) and that's maybe once every month or three.

The rest of the time she's all like....

Originally Posted by redman1501

Damn. Poor snake. That's gotta hurt.

That's just a distraction. Scene 2 (not shown) has the snakes tail going up his.....

Sneaky creatures.

Awwww, thanks for that sentiment, Kendall! Hope to meet you someday! (maybe THN can introduce us! ) Originally Posted by jimmylbob

Any friend of THN's is a friend of mine

?? Huh? That's weird! I've never had an SO who doesn't want to have sex with me. Originally Posted by samantha thom

That is usually not the issue, normally the SO does not want to be touched by the fucktard.

?? Huh? That's weird! I've never had an SO who doesn't want to have sex with me. Originally Posted by samantha thom

Of course you haven't. You're a hot woman. He'd have to be dead to not want to have sex with YOU!!!

WOMEN NEED A REASON TO HAVE SEX , MEN JUST NEED A PLACE.

Billy Crystal

OK, maybe this has been covered, but...

When I'm with my SO, I'm rock hard in 10 seconds. And I can perform like a pro. 30 min, 45 min, no worries on finishing before she does. Its like that for 10+ years.

ON THE OTHER HAND... When I'm with a provider, it takes a minute or two to get going. And on the rare occasion where I did partake in FS (just a couple of times over 5+ yes hobbying) or even during a BJ - I'm ready to pop in like 1 or 2 min.

Anyone else experience this? Seems like it should be the other way around. The only time I get rock hard is when a provider does something that activates the dirty part of my mind. Its weird how much of this is a mental hobby vs just being a physical release. Originally Posted by sirliamscross

It could be because you are familiar with your SO. And with the provider, we are strange. With your SO, you can relax. You become rock hard with her more because of the emotions involved, possibly. With the provider, you normally plan ahead and are looking forward to it which is why some guys may pop quicker than with the SO.

Wait!!! SOs have sex? Originally Posted by pyramider

Some of us do want to have sex with our SOs but still enjoy variety.

If my SO took care of business at home I wouldn't need to fuckin hobby... Originally Posted by corona

I would love to take care of my guy's needs every day, however work and kids make that impossible at times.

That would be impossible for my spouse because I like variety. Even if I had the most perfect woman ever to pose for Victoria's Secret, I would still want a different girl the next year. Originally Posted by Jewish Lawyer

This is why I'm in the swing lifestyle with my SO.

You are accustomed to the feeling and response of your SO. A provider is a new feeling and sensation that can accelerate the functions. If your SO pulled a new move on you or did something different, my guess is you would react more quickly.
Originally Posted by OldGrump

+1

If she pulled a new move I would HAVE to ask where she found out about it... Originally Posted by Prolongus

When I was married, we found a Cosmopolitan in our kid's room and we decided to try out a couple positions.

This thread is probably more entertaining for the single guys than it is for the married guys. All it does is confirm why we are single and what we are not missing.

Isn't there an old saying - When the ring goes on the finger the cock stops going in the mouth.

Just curious , do any of your SO's give you DT/BBNQNS or greek?

I think there is another old saying - The best pussy is STRANGE pussy.

You providers don't act shocked you've got to admit you like seeing a strange cocks. Originally Posted by atf searcher

I started doing Greek with my ex when we were dating. Never got into oral until after my divorce. LOL. He didn't care for it.

Well, I guess my situation is weird. My SO is still as attractive to me as the day we met. Her libido has slowed slightly, but not drastically. I guess I just like to meet new girls and hey, who doesn't like BJ's?

Maybe it is all mental. Maybe I feel guilty. I actually hobby with permission from my SO, but I can't help but feel it's a combination of lack of familiarity and guilt that keeps me from really enjoying myself.

My SO is very supportive and encourages me to explore my sequel desires. I guess I just need to figure out what makes the big head as turned on as the little head. Originally Posted by sirliamscross

There is something very sensual about having the SO know. But I've also been told that it can be a turn on getting away with something behind their back. My preference is having him know.

WOMEN NEED A REASON TO HAVE SEX , MEN JUST NEED A PLACE.

Billy Crystal Originally Posted by atf searcher

Not all of us need a reason. But just need the partner. LOL.

If my SO took care of business at home I wouldn't need to fuckin hobby... Originally Posted by corona

That is so fucking sad and so fucking true.

I'm with Will Boner and Worldtravler, it takes a while and a lot of activity before I can get hard. Then sometimes (not all the time, of course) I can go the full hour without popping with a provider. With real world GF or SO, I'm good to last 10 mins. For me its the cover. As soon as that goes on, everything changes. I hate it. That's why I look for providers that will allow BBBJNCBS after taking it to limit with CFS. Half the time boner will wilt when cover goes on. The main reason I go to providers is they will do things I really like, or fantasize about. But in reality, it rarely measures up. This may sound very weird but I hobby more for the adventure and excitement. I'm an adrenaline and danger junky. This is a very small part of the crazy shit I try. Other stuff is more physical like sky dive, base jumps, speed of any nature, etc... I tend to be very ADD about stuff. Here today and gone tomorrow. So ladies, take my money while I'm here. ;-)