~Ze~ YOU ROCK! Great answer and stated well and clearly.(Post 22). I think that's what most of us were trying to say, we, (I), just didn't say it nearly as well. I asked her why. If it was that funky smell issue men can get because all that fun equipment they have is stuffed into tight underwear and pants all day, and they can't always tell, because his nose is way up there! Some new girls don't know they can insist on a shower, or just get a warm soapy washcloth and do it themselves. If it was a medical issue I couldn't have stated it better than Dianaares_x, especially with the additions from L.A.(Post 26). I will just say that it's very rare to get HIV from BBBJ, but if it's happened even once then it's an issue.
And frankly, she doesn't have to have a WHY! The only WHY she needs is "I don't want to do that, so I don't offer it". I feel the same way about Greek, and it seems like it's gaining in popularity and a lot of providers are starting to offer it. I just wanted to offer any small insight I might have to whatever her main concern was,as I had to study all STD'S in school, and I've cared for patients with HIV, AIDS, syphilis, (very rare these days), gonorrhea and herpes. Never caught a thing but I know what they look like. Of course, in a new infection you can't tell and some people are asymptomatic.
I definitely respect her decision, not that she should take a vote! I clearly stated to the OP that it was her body, her business and she shouldn't do anything that she doesn't want to.