Why Providers and not Affairs?

The existence of a Lilanna Mob???

Boy it is amazing how some people's opinion of themselves are sooo over inflated, lol

Of course it couldn't have anything to do with the fact that when an individual makes
Silly comments...people will re-act accordingly???

Rather than "the Mob" theory!!!

It is very hard to take people seriously when they cannot be bothered to read. Questor I'm looking at you for this one too, maybe instead of getting offended you actually try to see my point.



No one on this board can pick that woman up at the bar. I picked Mya deliberately because she is an objectively beautiful woman. And if you can, I ask again.......why do you hobby? Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Why do we hobby, well.....

IT'S NEVER FREE!!!!! but when its only cash its easier.

No one on this board can pick that woman up at the bar. I picked Mya deliberately because she is an objectively beautiful woman. And if you can, I ask again.......why do you hobby? Originally Posted by SillyGirl

I disagree with this assessment. I couldn't, as I have no game. I would bet many dollars that there are quite a few guys who could easily pick that woman up at a bar (if she were receptive to being picked up -- for all I know she is 100% lesbian in her personal life, or otherwise opposed to being picked up by guys in bars.)

Do you claim that no guy could ever pick up Mya? Of course not, as she has surely had a boyfriend in her life. So you must be claiming that a guy who could pick up Mya would never want to pay for sex. I don't believe that. There have been too many examples of people who get caught with escorts who promt the question "Why would he need to pay for sex?"

That's the wrong question. The right question is "Why would he WANT to pay for sex?"

You enjoy having multiple expensive women that you then have to go and get MORE expensive women because you apparently can't get any of them to.....what? do blow jobs? stop fussing and make you a sammich? Why have a mistress that DOESN'T satisfy every desire?

So instead of getting all offended (ahem half this thread) why not look at why your mistress is so inadequate that you have to pay yet another woman to do what the mistress should have been doing all along? Originally Posted by SillyGirl

We must have different definitions of mistresses. To me that means a woman with whom a man is having an affair. That woman is not a slave. She is not a toy. She may not be an expert in providing more exotic services in which a man may wish to indulge on rare occasions (again, services which I am given to understand that you do provide very well). Those are reasons to see a professional escort.

If by mistress you mean a kept woman, who performs those services in exchange for a stipend or other compensation, then that's just another word for a hooker.

Lilianna, I am not attacking you. I have praised you in every post in this thread. I just don't get why you don't see my point. You should be talking about how much your service is worth and how "free pussy" can't compare to a professional.

Just becasue something may not have a "price" (monetarily) doesn't mean it is free. Originally Posted by jackie@sintropolis

Exactly.

+1 KC

I wanted to chime in, but didn't think I would be articulate enough to get your words down without causing more drama. I'm a good man and I'm a good looking guy and don't have much difficulty getting into a relationship with a woman. When I do, I give it my all and I don't play nor have I ever cheated on a significant other. The hobby offers me a chance to have some intimacy (and release) without any real drama PERIOD in times when I don't have the time or inclination to put in the effort (which ain't small) of a real relationship.

No, I'm saying that for whatever reason (MARRIAGE included) if you can arrange to have quality pussy for free, why pay? Originally Posted by SillyGirl

I'm not married... and luckily, I'm charming enough to get it for free on a regular basis. Pull hot tail at the club? Yeah, but honestly... I stopped doing that years ago... why? Women who hook up with guys from a club, I have found, have a mindset which is not favorable to short term or long term relations... if they want to stick around... they want to be your girl. If they don't, they probably hook up with guys like that on a basis regular enough to make my hooking up with them not really any sort of conquest in the slightest.

For the longest time, however, I have been more attracted to married women... or at the very least, women who are in relationships. Why? Because, they are fun, they're willing to experiment, and they don't want complications. We have our fun and if they have a family, they're not looking for a "serious" commitment... just someone who makes them feel sexy again and likes to fuck as much as they do... and is at least good enough in bed to make it worth the risk of getting caught.

Currently, I have a girl who does anything I want within reason. Our sexual hunger is on par with one another. I don't have to pay her anything and we always have a lot of fun... she's who I spend most of my time with... might as well consider her my girlfriend even though she isn't. I have another girl who is fun, very attractive, and is even more open minded sexually than the first and gives the best head of any woman I've met to date... what she wants is for me to spend time with her without the distractions of my regular life... Girl #1 and girl #2 know about one another and so far have not caused any negative drama between the two. I also have a sugar-baby... She's young, doesn't ask for much other than someone to hang out with some time and some financial assistance if and when she needs it. I have another girl who simply likes to suck my dick... she's very attractive and is skilled. What she wants in exchange? To get out to the city from time to time and to have a hot load of cum to swallow when I see her.

Why pay for it if I've got that kind of game? I like variety. Of the women I mentioned above, each one of them would probably be my girlfriend, get married to me if I were to ask after a respectable period of time, and settle down with me to start a family. I want all those things... but, none of those girls like to share. They want me and only me and want me to only want them. I'd like to want that... I just don't. Also, I'm the kind of guy who likes immediate gratification. I sometimes want what I want when I want it. My play partners have lives and schedules and shit they've got to do... well, when it is monday night and I want to have sex with an attractive woman... I'm not going to call one of them up and say "hey, I need you to ride this dick for me tonight so I can get some sleep," espcially when it is so easy to find a lady you know, are comfortable with and is agreeable to the idea that meeting me will be a win-win situation for them and they'll walk away with some money for their trouble. I can't go wrong there. And the best part is that they, the good ones, respect your privacy. They don't get in your business if you don't invite them to and they don't cause problems for you in any way. They do what I enjoy in life the most and all they want in exchange is some walking around money.

If you've read this far you're probably bored. But you have also picked up on something... you always have to pay for it. Nothing comes for free. Each woman I've mentioned on here that I see in the hobby or outside of it has their "price" and "rewards". If you're not making the pussy payments you don't get the pussy. It is bought and paid for with cash, time, chores, favors and things. The girls who do it with anyone for nothing... well, they've just not placed any value on what they have.

In closing, I get bored too... kind comes with that liking variety thing. When you're with the same woman all the time your technique gets stale... you do the same shit all the time with her--because it gets her off and it gets you off and then she can get to sleep and you can watch Battlestar Galactica on Netflix. Providers however, can inspire you to want to do something new... to get a little freaky. These things can have a trickle down effect. What you discover with a provider can then be turned around and be put in to practice with a meer mortal woman with less experience. She'll be impressed and you'll keep her happy. Next thing you know you'll just be known for what you can do and you see the providers to help sharpen your skills. Or, because they're fucking hot and you just want to...

Tank
Step your game up...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1i7CcbaGF_8

It is very hard to take people seriously when they cannot be bothered to read. Questor I'm looking at you for this one too, maybe instead of getting offended you actually try to see my point.



No one on this board can pick that woman up at the bar. I picked Mya deliberately because she is an objectively beautiful woman. And if you can, I ask again.......why do you hobby?
Originally Posted by SillyGirl

You picked the wrong girl... If I saw her at a bar, I wouldn't try to pick her up... why? Not because she is "objectively beautiful" in your opinion... it is because she's not my type. I'd probably wouldn't give her a second look at a club or bar for that reason alone. And how do you know this is true? Because I've not once tried to contact her in any way shape or form.

I think some people are over thinking this stuff. Men aren't as complex as all that. Some of us just like new pussy.

While yes, I do the shallow girlfriend-for-the-afternoon thing, I think of myself more along the lines of "professional mistress" (no, not the whips-and-chains-lick-my-boot type, although......) because I've developed and sustained in-depth friendships over time with a select few of the gentlemen I've entertained. We've discussed lives, relatives, pets, careers, and "other" hobbies; emphasized over tragedies and great moments; vacationed together; I've brought them presents from my other adventures in travel and/or for birthdays, Christmas (I've even helped gentlemen pick out gifts for their wives during the holidays), and our personal "anniversaries" just like any lover would, and vice versa. There's been emotional connections with intimacy, and that has been fulfilling for me. (Not that I don't enjoy living out the forbidden fantasy of throw-me-down-and-throw-the-money-on-the-bed-as-you-leave.)

I believe it possible to have a caring, non-familial, physical relationship with more than one person at a time, and I respect the gentlemen who've chosen this option over leaving a spouse whom they otherwise love but perhaps don't sleep with anymore for whatever reason.

Maybe "courtesan" is a better definition per WordIQ, "A person paid and/or supported for the giving of social companionship and intimate liaisons to one or more partners." Damn, what a dream gig I have! Don't wake me from this one, please.

love the response Fancy...

SG, I definitely see a reason, but now I need an excuse to go to KC

And despite the fact that I have not made any personal attacks...........only voiced an opinion...the Lilianna Lynch Mob may now commence! Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Come down to Houston...I'll fuck you...promise...

No one on this board can pick that woman up at the bar. I picked Mya deliberately because she is an objectively beautiful woman. And if you can, I ask again.......why do you hobby?

Because I can......But okay lets say I don't/can't whatever. I don't want to buy the cow when I only want the T-bone steak. Why would I want to when, with out any problem I can find an equally attractive woman (who for alot less trouble and granted more money) I can get the exact same thing. I do what I do because I want to. not because I can or can't. I get what I want on MY time and MY schedule.

Um.......why the fuck not? You enjoy having multiple expensive women that you then have to go and get MORE expensive women because you apparently can't get any of them to.....what? do blow jobs? stop fussing and make you a sammich? Why have a mistress that DOESN'T satisfy every desire?

Yes I enjoy having variety of women. I can afford it so why not. Do I need more than one car? No but I have the others because I can and have the money to spend. My mistress satisfies certain aspects of my life. Why do I have more than one channel on my remote? For variety.

So instead of getting all offended (ahem half this thread) why not look at why your mistress is so inadequate that you have to pay yet another woman to do what the mistress should have been doing all along?


Who said she is inadequate? What is a mistresses job? To satisfy every sexual desire? Why do you think that? My mistress and I work in the same field. Outside of work we do see each other but not often. Do we end up in bed every time we meet? No! I care for her deeply but, she is free to walk just as I am. She has more to lose by outing me than I being outed by her.

It could be your just trying to pigeon hole everybody in to one set of assumptions. You cant do that with humans it doesn't work.

I've had mistresses. I've had affairs. I've obviously had escorts. None were "free". All cost me something. I travel. I'm old, fat & ugly. And yet I've landed girls from bars regulrarly enough to not have to pay every time I'm on the road. Sure. Most girls that'll fuck a married guy on 1 meeting, without being an escort, are batshit crazy. But that's not exclusive to "free" girls.

I pay because it's inderstood that that's all there is. Affairs too often involve too many emotions. Mistresses become lazy. But having a "contract laborer" around insures my continued patronage is based on performance, not lazy expectations.

Nice response Sens & Simply