Are there any guys out there who actually keep their appointment?

It's certainly easy to see who is self employed and who is not LOL. I mean let's face it, a provider is going to lose more from a ncns, especially if she has to procure an incall, get a baby sitter, get her nails done...yada, yada..etc..and she ends up in the red. I've been ncns a time or two. I'll send one message...Sorry I missed you, maybe another time. It's not a big deal IMHO. I've saved what the provider loses. The only thing I've lost is time and I just can't get too worked up over some lost time. She on the other hand has lost revenue.

Made a post last night and it vanished

There it is...LOL

...Everyone deserves a second chance. Originally Posted by Wolfhound

Only on a cancellation do I give a second chance. No one deserves a second chance for a NCNS no matter how good the lies are.

It's certainly easy to see who is self employed and who is not LOL...The only thing I've lost is time and I just can't get too worked up over some lost time. She on the other hand has lost revenue. Originally Posted by malwoody

I agree its easy to see, for the self employed time has value. When I get NCNS'd its more than just lost time. Its about setting schedules, driving 2hrs to KC or STL, etc. When it happens to a provider she may or may not be out expenses, particularly if hotel etc. are sunk costs for other appointments.

Only on a cancellation do I give a second chance. No one deserves a second chance for a NCNS no matter how good the lies are. Originally Posted by Fsn57

Whatever Dude...I was not speaking of second chances but rather who loses the most revenue. A second chance has nothing to so with lost revenue on the first chance. Of course your attitude does not surprise me as you're convinced all providers are liars. Perhaps you should re-read my post.

I agree its easy to see, for the self employed time has value. When I get NCNS'd its more than just lost time. Its about setting schedules, driving 2hrs to KC or STL, etc. When it happens to a provider she may or may not be out expenses, particularly if hotel etc. are sunk costs for other appointments. Originally Posted by Fsn57

But that lost time etc is your choice. You have chosen to interrupt your cash flow etc in the pursuit of entertainment. I daresay if you faced losing the kind of coin a provider faces you might make other arrangements. Surely there is an hour or two somewhere in your schedule where you can minimize or eliminate your loss of revenue. Of course I could be wrong, for all I know maybe you have to rent an incall, get your nails done, babysitter etc..

If you live that far away you need to manage that up front and let her know that it is important for you to know if she cannot make it because of your distance. Communication is key on both parts

Whatever Dude...I was not speaking of second chances but rather who loses the most revenue. A second chance has nothing to so with lost revenue on the first chance. Of course your attitude does not surprise me as you're convinced all providers are liars. Perhaps you should re-read my post. Originally Posted by malwoody

The second chance response was quoted from the post prior to yours, not from your quote and was therefore not a response to you. Perhaps you should re-read that post and reply

If you live that far away you need to manage that up front and let her know that it is important for you to know if she cannot make it because of your distance. Communication is key on both parts Originally Posted by BigDeal

Exactly the reason it is managed up front and communicated as such. Usually scheduled several days in advance. What your suggesting is exactly what happens. Yet, this has no bearing on when they NCNS. You seem to be under the misunderstanding that the provider that NCNS gives a shit about anybody else's time, schedule or arrangements. They are all made aware when the appointment is set of the efforts made, but they NCNS anyway. Why does one imagine that communication is going to solve the issue of a basic lack of respect for the other person's time whether they be provider or client?

But that lost time etc is your choice. You have chosen to interrupt your cash flow etc in the pursuit of entertainment. I daresay if you faced losing the kind of coin a provider faces you might make other arrangements. Surely there is an hour or two somewhere in your schedule where you can minimize or eliminate your loss of revenue. Of course I could be wrong, for all I know maybe you have to rent an incall, get your nails done, babysitter etc.. Originally Posted by malwoody

I don't disagree that its my choice to spend time and money on entertainment. I was just pointing out that its easy to see who is self employed and who isn't because for the self employed, time is worth money.

I'm not trying to suggest that NCNS is OK for either side. Both sides have something to lose when the other NCNS. I have never NCNS a provider. Nor am I saying all or even most providers NCNS (only a few have NCNS'd me, generally I get a cancellation instead when something comes up) But when a provider who has a cancellation policy NCNS a client, it rings a little hollow.

Only cancelled one time, ever. Came down with the flu the day before a traveling provider came to town. Too late for her to fill the time slot so I went by and paid her for the appointment. My choice, didn't feel right about her losing money on something not her fault.

Regarding cancellations i try very hard to give everyone the same courtesy i would want in the even of an emergency or just unplanned RL events no cancellation policy, no guilt trips, no hatefull messages just an apology and if your free next time I'm in town you can make it up to me by scheduling(and keeping) an appointment

I usually add a half hour to your next session on me if I had to reschedule. I never cancel if at all avoidable.

I don't usually make a big deal out of cancellations but NCNS tick me off. That is just disrespectful.

Kc was the worst with ncns for me in a long time ! What's up KC