We have providers; what about your SO?

It is a fool to argue with a fool. I see that again you didn't not fully understand what I was saying, or bother to consider what I have brought to the table for discussions sake. I will just excuse myself now. Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

+1

London, I like to believe I'm contributing to saving marriages one bj at a time. Don't piss on my cheerios here, lol.

Shorty, when are we going to Vegas? Originally Posted by heidilynnla

No worries babe...would never try to convince anyone to do anything lol. I am in charge of only MY life.

No worries babe.....I am in charge of only MY life. Originally Posted by London Rayne

You seem to be doing okay for yourself....would you mine being in charge of MY LIFE for a while?!?!

Not bad for 30 and I owe no one a thing lol. Sure Ed, call me lol.

Let me say this London: you and I are a lot alike. But in civvie relationships, BECAUSE of this industry, my focus is not whether or not he can be faithful, but if he can respect me enough not to do it so recklessly. I already know you have the capability to cheat, I just don't want to know you're doing it. Girl, I'd rather teach my man how to cheat on me than to sit here and deal with the in's and out's of a cheating spouse.(not really but that's how serious I am.)

And I believe you. Not all men jump with every lustful thought. But do we have to keep checking his phone calls and emails to make sure? No. Do we want to think he's hiring a prossie every time he goes out of town for work or goes out with his friends? No. We want relationships based on trust, and in order to do that, being all up in his business is a no-no. They say curiosity killed the cat. If you look for something you'll find it. And that's true. Do we want the headache of having to look and find out he's a member of ECCIE and the only reason you don't know he's been trickin' is because he only sees $50 hookers? No.

*sigh* Then herein lies the problem. I vote stay single. LOL

Conclusion...

All men cheat
All men are dogs

... and ...

All men patronize prostitutes..

right? I kid I kid!

Very well said as usual Tiffani, and I refuse to check up on anyone. I won't drive myself nuts worrying when I know I am doing all I can do to keep a man happy. I also will never force someone to be in a one on one relationship if that's NOT what they are cut out for...see how easy that is? I simply look for men who feel the same way as I do, and they are out there. Of course all men might "want" to hit that, but they don't all act on it. I know not everyone is wired the same, which is why I don't stress myself worrying about what other people do...let em lol. I don't have to live that same way.

How many guys here have you heard say this, "If my wife or GF did x, y, and z, I would never be in the hobby?" By that statement it's an implication that a woman who keeps her man happy at home does not have to worry about him cheating, but I seriously don't believe there are that many women not giving it up lol.

I know wanton sluts who do whatever their man wants, and they still get something strange...others are simply content if their one love is the one doing them.

I never had issues with men cheating...it was always the other crap. It was like they thought I should be grateful they were not running around on me and coming home every night....some days I wish they had not bothered lol.

I simply look for me who feel the same way as I do, and they are out there.

I know wanton sluts who do whatever their man wants, and they still get something strange...others are simply content if their one love is the one doing them.

I never had issues with men cheating...it was always the other crap. It was like they thought I should be grateful they were not running around on me and coming home every night....some days I wish they had not bothered lol. Originally Posted by London Rayne

I think that's just your hotness factor. Hell, if you told me not to cheat, I wouldn't either LOL!

But the same rings true for me. My ex was not a cheater, but he needed a fucking life! Every time I left the house I was the cheater. And we didn't live together! I left so fast his head is still spinning. I have one dad, and I have one child. I have no time to babysit an adult.

Conclusion...

All men cheat
All men are dogs

... and ...

All men patronize prostitutes..

right? I kid I kid! Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Yep And if they don't they thought about it.

That's being a little too harsh. There are some good ones out there, but you have to find someone whose belief system matches yours. Someone who's not a big baby, and stands well on his own. You want to be confident in his decisions. THAT's the hard part.

Ladies,

For 20 years of my mariage, I never have any thought about other woman, never seen any escort, provider until I was "forced" in this situation: work away from home, SO refused to join me blah, blah ...
I got in to "hobby" because I am lonely, I have my "need" and "self-serve" is not my thing.

I don't consider it is cheating, recently I was "fired" by my ATF because I was "too close for comfort", she misunderstood me eventhough I tried to explain ... I don't blame her, I understand in the provider's line of work, attached, possesive is a no no ...

In short, I am paying you gals for filling up my empty "hole". I still commit to my marriage, my family. Believe it not, several times my SO said to me: One night stand is OK for me as long as your soul is belong to me and your money still sending home ... ha ha. I will never fall in to her "trap" to admit anything ... lol

Ladies, not all men cheat, not all men patronize prostitutes untill ......

Conclusion...

All men cheat
All men are dogs

... and ...

All men patronize prostitutes..

right? I kid I kid! Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Tiffany Cums. . . There's no point in answering you because our beliefs are totally opposite!!

Heidi. . . Whenever your ready sexy!!

Yea honey, and I am not a hooker either. I just post my naked body and rates all over the internet because I want to "save marriages."


Adj.1.cheating - not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend" two-timing, adulterous
unfaithful - having sexual relations with someone other than your husband or wife, or your boyfriend or girlfriend; "her husband was unfaithful"

Tiffany Cums. . . There's no point in answering you because our beliefs are totally opposite!! Originally Posted by shorty

Yet you just did. LOL

I started hobbying because I was in an essentially loveless marriage. She was adamant about not having sex, but swore to cut my cock off if I cheated. Quite the conundrum, eh?

I finally came to the conclusion that I only have this one life to live, and I don't want to live it like I've been. The ladies I see now are doing a phenomenal job of fulfilling my needs without any drama at all. I love it.

Hello my fellow hobby brothers.

I have been going over this for a while and decided to open this thread up to hear everyone's opinions.

As hobby lovers, most of us have a S.O. We always try to take as many precautions as possibles so that our loved ones (or SO if you will) dont find out about our fantastic hobby since it would spell DOOM to the relationship.

Now my question to you my brothers is; what would your reaction be if your spouse were to frequently visit multiple male providers!?!?!

Eager to ready your responses

~VG Originally Posted by virginguy

I would say good.....let's do it together! There's already an invitation to resume swinging on the table, seems to me it would be easier for her to just accept it than to see providers.....I offered her a threesome with a guy of her choice, all she has to do is take it if she wants it.

This almost sounds like a question a "wife" would ask.....