Here we go... Is this alert-worthy?

From the "board" perspective it's not alert material (dumb maybe) but not against any of the rules....your body your choice. Originally Posted by surfindick

Well it says alerts are anything that can endanger anyone. RIGHT?
WHAT IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN AIDS?
Not to say he has it or wants it?
But hell....

Well it says alerts are anything that can endanger anyone. RIGHT?
WHAT IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN AIDS?
Not to say he has it or wants it?
But hell.... Originally Posted by Majichands

Should we post an alert everytime a provider gets pregnant? You don't get that way from eating ice cream.

And please know that I'm not defending bbfs as an intelligent choice to make. I don't engage in it inside the hobby, as it's a risk I'm not willing to take. However, I do believe that any discussion should be rational and logical, rather than hysterical and uninformed.

Fact: Many providers offer it that would never admit to it on the board.
Fact: Many guys engage in it that would never admit to it on the board.
My Opinion: These are often times the people who are most vocal about how they would never, ever do it.

caitie mae wrote.....

The inquiry asked if I offer bbfs or know anyone who does.

See I want to know about any guy that asks that because I won't see him. His risk level is soooo much higher if he's out doing that and I just won't risk it.

I had a tard in chat ask me if I did BBFS and I told him Not only no, but I will never see you because you asked me that. He backed up and said, "Oh I just wanted to be sure you didn't do it before I scheduled." Really? You must have had some run ins with some pretty dumb women thinking that will work. I don't care if that excuse is actually the truth. If you even breath BBFS in my direction, off to the black list you go. I've not kept myself disease free for 8 years by taking risks like that. Some risk is inescapable, but that one is just ridiculous.

So Caitie, for me, yes it's alert worthy. Originally Posted by LovingKayla

according to what caitie wrote, i was going to say that since all he asked was if she offered it or knew anyone who did, maybe he wanted to cross her off his list if she did offer it [not that she might answer that way].

not an exact comparison, but kinda like this...
"excuse me, do you serve t-bone steak?"
"yes sir, we do! the best in the land!"
"thanks, i wont be coming in as i'm a vegatarian."

as opposed to ...
"hi, i'm a vegatarian and choose not to eat meat nor support restaurants that serve it. do you serve beef, pork, chicken, wild game, fish?"


but, according to kayla's viewpoint, if i even asked about bbfs, i'd be off her list forever!!

so, it sounds like one of those "damned if you do, and possible damned if you dont" situations. and one that requires very discreet inquiries AFTER one has been screened. and maybe not even the.

so, i now see kayla's viewpoint even better.

and i hope others do as well.

Again, I'm not a doctor, but it appears to me that the same risks exists in DATY and BBBJ. The risk in unprotected intercourse is unwanted pregnancy. I know providers who do, who have and who will. I know hobbyists who partake. It's an individual preference, but to blow the siren on health risks of unprotected intercourse while ignoring the same obvious risks in oral sex seems capricious.