Mediation

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Your so right!!

Every area is different and I'm beginning to NOT like it at all!!!

Ugh!!

And some people get the Royal treatment while others sit on the sideline. Makes me mad!!

I'm still waiting on my BFs name to be removed from these forums!!

And that's OLD news. Ur for months it has set there while someone else gets it removed in a matter of minutes???? What is really going on??? Originally Posted by Sydney Pure

Did you RTM, Syd? I sent several PMs and used all other forms of communication possible to reach the mods so that the info could be removed quickly. I don't think anyone turned a blind eye to your plight; I just think maybe it was drowned out by the other drama in the thread and therefore forgotten. I can't imagine the moderators not addressing the issue had you brought it to their attention. . . Originally Posted by Sexy_Brittany

It was taken care of within minutes of being brought to my attention . . .

My intention in posting this thread in no way reflects on any personal opinion about recent dramatic events. My intention was to focus on the impacts to our community at large from these events. With that said I have some further reflections regarding the dialogue thus far:

1. There will always be fights and drama in the world and especially in our little sphere.
2. Other than those with an agenda to harass or punish, no one wants to see things escalate at the levels they have. It hurts reputations, wastes time, threatens people, etc., etc.
3. There is ongoing controversy about the way the Board is being moderated.
4. Moderation is not mediation and Moderators should not be expected to do so. They usually have vested and personal interests since they often participate actively.
4. Mediation reflects nothing regarding being adults. Mediation is used more and more frequently among adults in adult situations. Witness the NFL arbitration, mediation in family disputes, mediation between courtroom situations, and on and on. Mediation is the modern replacement for fighting and grudges. It is a good thing.
5. The problem is not just this recent incident... as many people have pointed out. It has happened many times before and seems to be poised to happen many times again.
6. I totally understand people's needs and desires to protect themselves from lies and allegations, and in the current environment I realize they are compelled to respond to public accusations to protect her/him self.
7. Perhaps I miss the point, but airing grievances (such as not providing references or passing out bad information), to an arbitrator prior to it blowing up, in no way minimizes or reduces the severity or importance of the allegations of the grieving parties. In fact it will provide a platform to deal with the issues directly rather than passing threats back and forth. I am not suggesting this to Backdoor issues, rather I am suggesting this to help resolve issues.
8. I am in no way suggesting how this could be implemented. I am sure it will take money and resources, but that money and those resources are now being spent dealing with recurring issues that may not easily resolve themselves. Much better to deal with the issues early on, proactively.
9. This would also alleviate some of the responsibility and burden from the Moderators, as they will simply identify when an issue is getting out of hand and send it to arbitration. They will not be stuck in the middle of moderating among people they know and with whom they may have intimate ties. --- This will help resolve the ages old 'who you know' gets you privileges aspect in the settling of arguments. Penalties and points could be assessed by the mediators when they find that one or both of the parties has broken rules. And additionally they could further assess points when the recommendations are not followed.
10. So silly as the idea seems, I see no other better way of dealing with the many issues that appear to be arising. I admit, I am a dreamer and forward thinker, so sometimes my ideas appear in the sky.

Though it may sound good on paper, or computer screen, a "mediator" for conflicts such as has taken place it's feasible or practical.

IMHO the ladies make a very valid point here. Sharing reference information, amoung other information, is very important for the ladies safety but it is also important to me. I have recently read several posts about how to get started with no references, it's not easy to do. I personally put a lot of effort into getting references so I could see top tier ladies. I feel like a part of the agreement between the lady and the client includes her willingness to give the client a reference for future visits. If she is unwilling to communicate with other ladies and give a reference she has done the client a disservice.

Could things have been handled differently.......perhaps, but I am a firm believer that when a problem crops up, handle it........period. As a tike there was never a hesitation to firmly apply the board of knowledge to the seat of learning. There were times I had to stand in the corner and times I wish I had gotten to stand in the corner. This life we choose to participate in is full of pitfalls and it takes a community effort to avoid these pitfalls. One wild bovinae can stampede the herd, and the boss mares will discipline the unruly in a herd.

If a lady chooses to give her money to management, though it's sad it's her choice. It's my choice who I visit with, provided our schedules mesh. It is never OK for management to threaten or try to intimidate a lady in any way. As a human being how do you think you would feel if you were threatened by someone? Fortunately for one of us I've never encounted a manager.

My grandmother was a wise lady and she had several saying one of which was, "this too shall pass".

Maybe it is my warped mind but after reading this entire thread and the other related threads I can only think of one thing! Everyone needs to get some hard cock or some great pussy as soon as possible!

Maybe it is my warped mind but after reading this entire thread and the other related threads I can only think of one thing! Everyone needs to get some hard cock or some great pussy as soon as possible! Originally Posted by Centralarnewguy

Ain't that the truth!!!

Maybe it is my warped mind but after reading this entire thread and the other related threads I can only think of one thing! Everyone needs to get some hard cock or some great pussy as soon as possible! Originally Posted by Centralarnewguy

We're thinking alike, Centralarnewguy! I made that hard cock offer to one of the ladies earlier today. We both feel better.

From my point of view, I do not want to see the ladies argue, fight or anything other than treat me with a good time while we are together. Believe me, I know what all of you ladies are talking about with trading references. I was on the waiting list for a while before a reference went through when i started. It must be done! You owe that to me as part of the service I am donating for, you must see that too. If you do not, well, I won't see you.

As, Mr Chan hinted to earlier in this thread, nothing about this is legal or completely safe and a certain amount of ugliness will always be part of it. I'm sorry ladies have to worry about pimps, time wasters, harassment from other providers, and LE but its a chosen path. Top Tier ladies and gentlemen IMHO get this and do not drag too much of it into the light. Spirited defense of your rights or beliefs are welcomed and unfortunately personal attacks will happen. I'm a big boy with thick skin, and I can handle myself just fine. Will I choose not to see a provider based on my opinion of her? Absolutely. Will you choose not to see me? You absolutely have that right.

BTW, enjoy.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFUEgFdP5zE

I completely concur with Brittany. Despite the fact that no one wants to hear about hooktard drama, Fuck that, yes we do! there are problems occuring back channel that affect our ability to hobby---and these problems directly & detrimentally affect hobbyists, too.

If I can't get a reference because someone is playing games with me...then I can't see YOU. And that's pretty fucked up. I wouldn't do that sort of thing to anyone else...why should I tolerate it? It would be nice if y'all would recognize what's really important here.

Perhaps we handled it improperly by challenging the culprit. Perhaps. No one is perfect. I was frustrated with the situation and the person responsible for it. I addressed it. I don't think I need to apologize for having a brain or a spine. Brain? Spine? We ain't paying for that baby. We want tits and ass and nothing else!

Maybe y'all would have preferred we just layed out the facts? How about just laid out, spreadeagle? But I wonder...would the reception have been any different? The end result? I honestly doubt it.

I'm open to hearing the opinions of the general consensus... How would y'all have preferred that we handled it? Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

Out of Bounds, I have officially changed my MO.

From here on out, I'm providing nothing but hooktard drama, brainless and spineless tits and ass, & assuming the spread-eagle position whenever physically possible.

You're killing me.

Just let the mods do their jobs.

All of them are issued a special keyboard when they take the job.

From here on out, I'm providing nothing but hooktard drama, brainless and spineless tits and ass, & assuming the spread-eagle position whenever physically possible. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I'd pay damn good money to see that. Spineless ass and tits are my favorite. Spread-eagle position is just icing on the cake.

I'd pay damn good money to see that. Spineless ass and tits are my favorite. Spread-eagle position is just icing on the cake. Originally Posted by Sexy_Brittany

Britt, you know damn well that you're my ATF & you can have any of that whenever you want it, completely gratis.

Britt, you know damn well that you're my ATF & you can have any of that whenever you want it, completely gratis. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

Can I watch?

Britt, you know damn well that you're my ATF & you can have any of that whenever you want it, completely gratis. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

but but but...you told me I was your favorite! ....

but but but...you told me I was your favorite! .... Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

Well, of course you are! A girl is allowed to have more than just 1 ATF.

I think it's time for you & Britt to start competing for my affection.