More Expensive??....Dating vs. Seeing a Provider

Managing to do both (see civvies and providers) is the real fun. You just have to have enough game to get laid with the civvie (it may take some time). In the meanwhile, you can get some NOW sex with a provider by making a couple calls. Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Exactly!

I'm not sure whether it's reasonable to compare a date with seeing a provider, unless you are strictly comparing the outcome ending with sex. I've seen providers and done the online dating thing and dating is not really all that expensive, although the odds are that you won't have sex on the first date and also that you won't hit it off well enough to go on a second date. However, if you do make it to a second or third date, sex will be pretty certain and unless a guy goes way overboard, he won't need to spend a lot of money (but will get the other possibly unwanted side effect of a relationship or at least his date expecting a relationship.)

On the other hand, if you want to spend several hours with a provider, as if it were a date, it's going to run a lot more than her rate for a one hour session (unless you start dating her, in which case, see above about dating).

ok, here is the thing, you go to a happy hour or a nice lounge, ou see something you like, eye contact is everything, if it feels right, you move in, so you buy her a couple of drinks, during which, you have some nice conversation you know the saying " conversation rules the nation" after you talk it up a while, why not grab a bite to eat after you leave, you exchange numbers, have a few conversations before you make plans to see each other again, that way you will have an idea what to expect, so you may be out 100 bucks that first night you meet, and that's being generous, if you have good convo, when you do go on the initial date, you have increased your odds of getting laid by 1000, guess that's why i'm still a hobby virgin, i will find time to pop my hobby cherry, you guys talk about drama, everytime i get on here, there is drama...lol... don't hate the player, learn the game....ROFL

I am not in the position to date but from time to time I have a shot at some civilian pussy. It always starts with "let's just be fuck buddies" and very soon turns into "I want more". Even if it is less expensive you never know what is on the menu and civilians have VERY limited menus.

Civilians bore me to tears. What does a guy who was in the Military from 17 to 24 (and most of that time in the shit) have in common with some civilian who fits the "profile". I know only one civilian that has the profile, college, married to a Dr, big house, etc. that I get along with. We had a one night and have stayed friends.

Yeah, Yeah, I have crossed the line and had affairs with providers and will probably do it again. Jack is hopeless.

Dating is way cheaper for me. I've found a ton of fun things to do that don't cost much. $400 date night? Crap, there must have been a ring in there and a bended knee.

If you start plunking down that kind of money on a date, I believe she is going to see you as a "provider" (not in hobby terms) instead of a guy to date and have fun.

I see a provider when I have an immediate itch to scratch. I think it's fun "expanding" a civie's horizons on occasion.

Typical Date vs. Seeing a Provider

Originally Posted by Kelly TNT

That one's pretty funny Kelly, but how about this...

Being married for 5 years (Sex daily for the first month, dwindling to "On Your Birthday" at year 5)

vs.

Weekly Appt with a Provider.

Wife: Half your net worth... If not more!

Provider: $300/hr * 52 times per year * 5 years = $78,000

So: If you are worth more than $156,000... find a provider, not a wife.

I always say seeing a provider is the better deal if you are only wanting a good time with no strings attached. Let's be honest, an affair is just too damn messy and no one wants a "Fatal Attraction" let me cook your bunny ending. Dating is expensive and women often misread a guy's signals. Seeing a working girl is a pretty sure bet against any miscommunicated signals!!!!

Well, to add to this thread; On average a couple would go out on a date about 5 times before "she" decides she wants to take the relationship to the next level.

I find that rather odd. I've been single my entire life and I'm 52, so I've been dating for a long time, In the last 25 years, I can't think of a time that sex didn't happen on date number two.

Even if it is less expensive you never know what is on the menu and civilians have VERY limited menus. Originally Posted by LuckJack

You must run into some pretty conservative civilians. The only two things I've found to be even somewhat iffy are NQNS (maybe 1 in 5 won't) and anal (probably about 50-50, but that doesn't really interest me).

Basically, dating is not hobbying. I started hobbying because I thought dating was a hassle, but I went back to dating because hobby sex didn't do enough for me to be satisfied with it. Being able to see a provider made dating easier, but in general dating and the hobby are not substitutes for each other.