Sugar Daddy/ Sugar Baby Dating

I have been in 3 SD/SB relationships and as Jaycee stated - they were all completely different in every imaginable way.

SugarBaby #1 - First time into the SugarBowl for me and I was lucky to find a SB who had been doing this for a few years. She was a double PhD from Cornell in Education and Psychology and she was just having fun in life. With her it was a simple PPM (Pay Per Meet) setup where I gave her $300 everytime we met at her place. She would meet me at the door in something sexy (with something sexier underneath), she would have dinner already cooking, we would sit on her comfy couch and just talk about our weeks, she would be very touchy (knowing my love language was touch), and then we'd have dinner. We might cuddle on the couch for a little bit after, have fantastic sex, and once every few times I visited she would ask me to spend the night. This went on for a few months, and I saw her about 3-4 times a month. Each meeting lasted anywhere from 4 hours to 12 hours. It definitely helped me get through my divorce and she was very sweet and kind. We ended it when she decided to move west (known before getting into the arrangement) and we still chat every month or so for a little.

Second SB was a viking chick, drop dead gorgeous, who never asked me for anything at all. It was very strange, she lived in the middle of nowhere and invited me to her house for our first date. We had dinner, cuddled, and talked. The second date at her place I cooked dinner and she made herself my desert. Again never asked me for a dime. I asked her multiple times what arrangement she wanted and she said it was fine the way it was. I finally was able to give her $500 to take on a trip with her friends to the desert, along with some photography equipment for her IG page. She took the gifts almost begrudgingly. Again - she never asked me for anything but I felt I was taking advantage of her good nature at the same time. How was this a SD/SB arrangement I'll never know. I broke it off because I just wasn't sure she knew what she wanted and there may have been feeling developing that wouldn't be good for the relationship.

Third one was with really cute woman, under 5' tall but proportionate. We came to an agreement for a monthly allowance, she met my mom shortly after, then I met her mom and best friend, then she met my daughters on a video call and my aunt when I took her to Florida to see the beach for the first time. I bought her a number of different experiences, makeup lessons, makeup, dinner with a german chef at her home, the trip to Florida, all food/drinks, everything was paid for by me. I had no problems with that. What I did have a problem with was her bratty attitude that I wasn't buying her enough things and that she should be paid extra for the trip to Florida - that she helped plan I should add. She didn't work, I was paying her rent, and when we originally discussed the arrangement travel was included with the allowance. Of course she never said anything during our trip but waited until we returned to dump it on me all at once. So we definitely split then and I learned that I never want to deal with another bratty woman. Life is too short for that shit!

Now? What do I think of the SD/SB relationships? They can work with the right people as long as there is very open communication before and during the arrangement. If you let shit fester it will come out and likely end your relationship.

Personally I'm going to dump the SD/SB relationships and spend that money of trips to Columbia, DR, Costa Rica, and Mexico where I can spend an entire week with two beautiful women who want nothing more than to please me and have fun with me, "wife experience", for the same amount I'd spend on two PPM's ($600) with just the original SB I was with.

That's not to say there aren't great women up here but the cost to have that relationship in the US is 3 times as much south of the border.

Hope this helps some people. DM me if you have questions and I'll answer as best I can.

If anyone’s looking pick me!

They tend to work as long as both parties follow through with the agreement.

I am moving back to New Orleans and I am tired of the provider hunt. I am looking for an arrangement but it seems to be a no no to ask about ladies on Seeking on the NOLA board. The site is so full of spammers and I have questions about some of the possible ladies on there… don’t know what to do other than just go fishing in the deep water if spammers and Onlyfans salespeople

looking for an arrangement but it seems to be a no no to ask about ladies on Seeking on the NOLA board. Originally Posted by Viking2020

seeking is now considered a dating site, so posting info about chicks who aren't actually escorts would be crass, dont you think?
Also, managing seeking is irrespective of what city you're in. You operate in it the exact same way no matter what region you're in.

The site is so full of spammers and I have questions about some of the possible ladies on there… don’t know what to do other than just go fishing in the deep water if spammers and Onlyfans salespeople Originally Posted by Viking2020

you've been in this game a while and you still cant spot the obvious fake accounts?
if they only have 1 photo, its a bot

if they only have professionally shot photos and don't fill out their profile,its a bot

if they ask for money upfront (emergency, deposit, etc) just tell them you have rules that prohibit this....or just drop them immediately




If you have a pic or two it helps. I had a very direct profile,that if they read it it was very intriguing to a woman's mind. I doubt the majority of them read profiles, though, so I wouldn't sweat it.


If you mention, donation/ppm/moneyetc - it will get flagged and you'll get banned and have to get reinstated. This is about trawling - cast a wide net

-message every vagina 18-40 on that site within 100 miles

-you can use a blanket reply to get them to message you, but you will get flagged as a spammer (and get your account locked for a day or two) if its over 20x

"baby girl,love the vibe of your profile. I guarantee you've never met a man like me. I know just how to keep you smiling"

something quick,brash - that forces them to say something back.
-once they reply with a message get them off the fucking site and texting as fast as possible

"OMG! its ____ I was waiting for you to respond! I would love to get into specifics on how well we're gonna compliment each other. I'm (name), text me at 504-666-6666. This site likes to censor"

Now that you got them off the site and texting, PUSH for a meet.
IF they're seasoned pros, they'll state a PPM rate upfront
If they're noobies, they'll let you choose the rate
Always drive/lead/push in every response. These broads (especially the young ones) crave it


In one month, I had a little over 80 texting me and I determine if they're about ppm or some type of relationship thing. Most want the ppm. I explain

"I normally host at my house in ___. That way you can see what I'm about, vibe & make things work for one another. All I need is an attentive woman I can enjoy. I'm a pussycat, I enjoy giving massage and extended oral pleasure. U down, sweets?"

9 out of 10, they all say "yes, that sounds great"

I started out being on sugar sites such as seeking and a few others.I had something happen where I needed to look for alternative means of financial support.I had always had a job. I'm an AirForce veteran, but because of what happened, I needed to go back to school for a career I could enjoy as well as not so hard on my body. So I went looking for a SD since I'm still reasonably good-looking, young enough to be attractive, but old enough to be mature. Everyone I met appreciated that about me. However, I never found what I was looking for. I ended up just doing a bunch of PPM, and a few potential daddies, but in the end no one i was dealing with even had means to call themselves daddies.I never received a monthy allowance, never received any gifts.I realized i was basically doing what a provider does.After I decided to just call it what it was, I found out why. I was on an escort site, and underneath the ladies pictures it said "tired of escorts, try a sugar baby." So i feel like i was gefting the "run off" of those sites. There are also so many guys on those sites that are my age. I was looking for an older man. I appreciate their company more than someone my age. The only potential relationship I had presented to me was the role of a 2nd sub for someone in Puerto Rico. He flew me down fhere for a few days. When i came back, the arrangement i thought we had worked out, wasnt that at all. He wanted to humiliate me by having me sleep with random men, with NOTHING in return. I just couldn't do it. Not a single thing for actually doing some things i wasnt ok with. So when i realized he was just being a bully as opposed to a Dom or Daddy, i ended it very quickly. So now I'm a provider, just getting started.Im trying to make enough money to go back to school because I can't do the type of jobs I'm used to, or enjoyed doing.A lot of people think that because I'm a disabled vet that I have a bunch of access to programs and grants to put me through school. Not true. There are things that would help, but I still need regular income,and what is offered doesn't come close to covering everything. I actually enjoy being a provider, which totally shocked me. I would have called you a liar if you told me I would be doing this one day. I would try again if the right person came along,as I'm sure I would make one quite happy,but I'm not going looking again.

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the Great time spending with sugar daddy Originally Posted by liamhenry

I'm not understanding this response please enlighten me