Bengay- How many of the providers that you've seen do you think would have done a session with you if they knew you had herpes? I'd be willing to bet very few if any.
Originally Posted by blackmaleindallas
Pretty much all of them would see me. Mainly because the ones I see are "experienced", and either already have it or have accepted the reality that they are constantly being exposed to it anyway. many even admitted they cant catch what they already have. I prefer that latter group... it is like sharing membership in a secret club. ..a very large secret club.
At first, I used to always disclose HSV status but people didnt seem to mind... have not had anyone refuse. They may Inspect to see if it is not active, or insist on a condom, but never refuse.
After having it for so long with so few outbreaks, it is tempting to just say fuck it and not tell anyone but I usually disclose. Mainly because I do not want to be like the person who knowingly gave it to me.
I mostly do the above but not always. Sometimes I just prepare in advance by taking valtrex a few days prior. I still always disclose if I plan to see someone regularly bc if they already have it, I don't need to prepare in advance.
Dont count on HSV+ providers taking the same preventative measures however. most will not. Many just figure that if you are in the hobby, you either have it, or will be getting it from someone very soon.