ATTITUDES ARE EVERYTHING

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  • L.A.
  • 12-01-2013, 09:41 PM
Well said...yep, let's be bitchy and whine to each other about our positive attitudes. Originally Posted by LilMynx69
Are you a provider? You seem like a provider and you've been on eccie for a long time but you don't have provider status so was just wondering what's your story?
Not meaning any disrespect I'm just curious.

As to the original topic it's kinda funny.
I had a provider that I later saw many times and still chat with her on text (she moved) who thought I was an asshole when I first contacted her. It was the way I came across in my PMs to her. I certainly meant nothing bad and once we met face to face we hit it off and had some good sessions.

There have also been some providers on here that seemed to have a great attitude and I went into the session with high hopes only to leave really disappointed with our lack of connection. There have also been some that are real short and to the point with their responses and makes me wonder if they are really interested.....lol that one turned out to be my current ATF.

I guess I'm saying board personas are one thing but you really can't determine how a person really is by this (or any) board.
Are you a provider? You seem like a provider and you've been on eccie for a long time but you don't have provider status so was just wondering what's your story?
Not meaning any disrespect I'm just curious.

As to the original topic it's kinda funny.
I had a provider that I later saw many times and still chat with her on text (she moved) who thought I was an asshole when I first contacted her. It was the way I came across in my PMs to her. I certainly meant nothing bad and once we met face to face we hit it off and had some good sessions.

There have also been some providers on here that seemed to have a great attitude and I went into the session with high hopes only to leave really disappointed with our lack of connection. There have also been some that are real short and to the point with their responses and makes me wonder if they are really interested.....lol that one turned out to be my current ATF.

I guess I'm saying board personas are one thing but you really can't determine how a person really is by this (or any) board. Originally Posted by L.A.
If you're truly interested, I invite you to read my other posts. They are accessible via my stats page on my public profile. Then, if you have other questions, you can PM (if I haven't reached my 50 max PMs). I didn't realize I need to qualify myself on each and every post...I'm thinking that would be awfully boring for all...

That said, you are correct about board personas not always aligning themselves with real life personalities. Sometimes they match...sometimes they don't...
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  • L.A.
  • 12-02-2013, 05:50 AM
I didn't realize I need to qualify myself on each and every post...I'm thinking that would be awfully boring for all...
Originally Posted by LilMynx69
Nobody said you needed to qualify anything on each any every post...you saying that is being a little dramatic. I was simply asking a question.
I'm not going to read thru 370 posts to try to figure out why you're a provider without provider status and no reviews on a review website.
If you don't want to answer it then don't.
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........ I didn't realize I need to qualify myself on each and every post...
.... Originally Posted by LilMynx69

You do not know the half of it having to qualify or proof yourself every time you post! I have done it and even though they are reading it in back and white, the trolls and naysaysers still say I am FOS.
Nobody said you needed to qualify anything on each any every post...you saying that is being a little dramatic. I was simply asking a question.
I'm not going to read thru 370 posts to try to figure out why you're a provider without provider status and no reviews on a review website.
If you don't want to answer it then don't. Originally Posted by L.A.
I'm not a provider. I don't have any reviews because I'm not a provider. Did I clear it all up?
LOL, I live how everyone without reviews has to explain themselves to everyone else. The review gestapo..... Out in force again.
You do not know the half of it having to qualify or proof yourself every time you post! I have done it and even though they are reading it in back and white, the trolls and naysaysers still say I am FOS. Originally Posted by NearHauteRed
Yes, it can be frustrating. When my interest is piqued by someone here, I usually pop over to the threads they've started link and get a rather good feel for them.

I get PMs everyday from people who do this, providers and hobbyists, with questions for me or asking my advice.

I'm sorry if I sound overly dramatic, but my situation is rather complex and I feel like I'd be hijacking every thread if I constantly brought it up. That said, reading my brief profile really gives a careful reader all the answers they need without wading through my posts ad nauseum...
LOL, I live how everyone without reviews has to explain themselves to everyone else. The review gestapo..... Out in force again. Originally Posted by pfmtony
I could see if I was advertising, etc...why no reviews would be an issue, but I'm clearly not.

99% of the time I get wonderful treatment here and in all my time on ASPD, but every so often I hit a bad spell. I've told my story very specifically here...it's easier to search for than reviews...

Ok, I'll stop now ;-)
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I'm not a provider. I don't have any reviews because I'm not a provider. Did I clear it all up? Originally Posted by LilMynx69
Nothing wrong with a female signing up on the board and not being a provider or having provider status. What you have to realize is that there are unwritten rules that change as the game players play so you will never be right and do not ever question the vets that have been around for a while. What you will discover is, instead of a tight knit community looking to have fun and enjoy adult entertainment, you have a few clicks of people on this site, including providers, that want to play cyber bully, question every thing you do/say and find something wrong with it so they can gloat when they tell you about it.You will notice the mental children of this site pretty much right off the bat. Lots of adults on this adult board!
Nothing wrong with a female signing up on the board and not being a provider or having provider status. What you have to realize is that there are unwritten rules that change as the game players play so you will never be right and do not question the vets that have been around for a while. What you will discover is, instead of a tight knit community looking to have fun and enjoy adult entertainment, you have a few clicks of people on this site, including providers, that want to play cyber bully, question every thing you do/say and find something wrong with it so they can gloat when they tell you about it. Lots of adults on this adult board! Originally Posted by NearHauteRed
Thanks for your kind words. I get it. I've been around for a long time through many stages of my life. I met my husband on ASPD, I know many guys here IRL, my best friend was a regular poster here before he died suddenly and I originally came back last year to read his posts...

In real life I do work that benefits most of the people here, and I've discussed it repeatedly, so I sometimes get frustrated when I get questioned after I've spent hours responding to PMs and researching topics....

I should still be more gracious about it though, after all, ATTITUDES ARE EVERYTHING...people have questions and I should simply answer or perhaps provide a link...
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  • L.A.
  • 12-02-2013, 09:15 AM
LOL, I live how everyone without reviews has to explain themselves to everyone else. The review gestapo..... Out in force again. Originally Posted by pfmtony
She's a female on a provider/client board who isn't a provider.. If you are too dense to see the uniqueness in that and why I would ask her why, then you're even worse than I thought.

So Tony (whose word means NOTHING) I'm not asking some guy who is on here running his mouth on every subject why he has no reviews. I was asking HER why SHE is on here for two years and is not a provider.
SHE doesn't want to answer so be it...that's her choice.

OK so speaking of attitudes NHR.......Here is what YOU have listed as your category 3
3). The asshole troll hobbyists, defined as the ones who may or may not see providers for sessions, but are the ones who always seem to be in the middle of one of the multiple drama threads, mainly because they started the drama, even go so far as creating drama by hijacking a thread because someone they see as vulnerable to try to draw negative attention to because they do not like them. All they do is cut down, negate and generally try to screw with others, having a need to bait others to stoop to their level, and many times, the mods will only see the second punch thrown.

In one way or another most of your posts are trolling,
I can probably give 25 examples (likely many more) of you saying things that are meant to incite negative responses.
You've now written two reviews so I guess we know you see providers now. We know we know...you have 30 oks on P411...but this isn't p411 is it? The vast majority of your posts are in the middle of drama one way or another...many times talking about how bad the long time members are. In doing so you know you'll get the negative responses you're looking for. You are the king of baiting and trolling and don't even know it.
Yes attitude is everything......






She's a female on a provider/client board who isn't a provider.. If you are too dense to see the uniqueness in that and why I would ask her why, then you're even worse than I thought.

So Tony (whose word means NOTHING) I'm not asking some guy who is on here running his mouth on every subject why he has no reviews. I was asking HER why SHE is on here for two years and is not a provider.
SHE doesn't want to answer so be it...that's her choice.

OK so speaking of attitudes NHR.......Here is what YOU have listed as your category 3
3). The asshole troll hobbyists, defined as the ones who may or may not see providers for sessions, but are the ones who always seem to be in the middle of one of the multiple drama threads, mainly because they started the drama, even go so far as creating drama by hijacking a thread because someone they see as vulnerable to try to draw negative attention to because they do not like them. All they do is cut down, negate and generally try to screw with others, having a need to bait others to stoop to their level, and many times, the mods will only see the second punch thrown.

In one way or another most of your posts are trolling,
I can probably give 25 examples (likely many more) of you saying things that are meant to incite negative responses.
You've now written two reviews so I guess we know you see providers now. We know we know...you have 30 oks on P411...but this isn't p411 is it? The vast majority of your posts are in the middle of drama one way or another...many times talking about how bad the long time members are. In doing so you know you'll get the negative responses you're looking for. You are the king of baiting and trolling and don't even know it. Originally Posted by L.A.
Are you a provider? You seem like a provider and you've been on eccie for a long time but you don't have provider status so was just wondering what's your story? Originally Posted by L.A.
Since I have now officially dragged the thread off topic, I'm curious as to what I posted that made me "seem like a provider?" Just curious. And I'm not being facetious, I'm really curious as to what goes into that impression.

I don't think you meant to be rude to me and you were just a bit curious, but can you imagine if I came here and questioned a gentleman's reason for being here? Why do you hobby? What's missing that you feel the need to be here? Why do you only go to AMPs? I mean, all hell would break lose! LOL
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  • L.A.
  • 12-02-2013, 09:22 AM

In real life I do work that benefits most of the people here, and I've discussed it repeatedly, so I sometimes get frustrated when I get questioned after I've spent hours responding to PMs and researching topics....

I should still be more gracious about it though, after all, ATTITUDES ARE EVERYTHING...people have questions and I should simply answer or perhaps provide a link... Originally Posted by LilMynx69
Well in my defense you only started posting here in the Dallas forums very recently. I'm sure the places you've posted over the last two years are familiar with who you are and what your story is. So while you may have discussed it repeatedly I have no clue as you just recently popped into the Dallas forums. As I said it's unique for a female to be active on here and not be a provider. And as I said originally I was just curious because it's different.
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Thanks for your kind words. I get it. I've been around for a long time through many stages of my life. I met my husband on ASPD, I know many guys here IRL, my best friend was a regular poster here before he died suddenly and I originally came back last year to read his posts...

In real life I do work that benefits most of he people here, and I've discussed it repeatedly, so I sometimes get frustrated when I get questioned after I've spent hours responding to PMs and researching topics....

I should still be more gracious about it though...people have questions and I should simply answer or perhaps provide a link... Originally Posted by LilMynx69
That is another thing with a few of members of this site, they will question you about every thing and even pick apart each word you type, analyze it, then read something into it like they have a vendetta to call you out, make up something out of thin air and tell you that you are wrong, even accuse you of something and state it as fact so the others in their teenage click they are members of will stand with them and call you out as well. Questions are one thing, and if you do experience anything and would to advise the community about it, then you better have your ducks in a row and show proof beyond a shadow of a doubt to the vet members here, but remember, they will not believe it even if that proof was in front of them in black and white, so your best bet in that situation is to let others find out the hard way.