I think you've captured my feelings well. There are too many folks who jump in on either side of a trashing (of man or woman) with too much hostility. The more negative the message, the blander the verbal wrapping should be--Just the facts, Ma'am
I think it's fine for a guy to say "She was heavier than I expected. We had nothing in common (I'm a hockey fan and her only interest was NASCAR) and didn't hit it off on our 4 hr date, and I won't be back". When it's phrased as "What a lieing scum! She's a whale and any guy who's dumb enough to see her deserves what he gets. Besides that, she's dumb as a rock and didn't understand half of what I said even though I spoke simple Canadian--I'm guessing she's a 2nd grade drop out."
Keeping the blanket slurs out of a post and having a more objective focus would go a long way on both sides of the fence. Generlly I find the always demeaning Black Knights to be far more annoying, but that's me.
This is well said............. and my following comments are not directed at you specifically Old T
However for me I can tell you now that stellar reviews only mean that that lady had a good time with the guys that chose to write about their time. I know too many respected men of this board that have had bad times with a well respected, well reviewd provider. It happens, it's just the way it is when you put 2 individuals together and things just don't work.
It's one thing if you have the facts such as you stated like she was with you and you know someone wrote a bogus review, but to automatically call a man out for writing about his bad time with a provider that is well liked is IMO wrong.
I make my decisions on who I speak up for on an idividual basis and normally it has nothing to do with whether I know the person or not. It has to do with what's right and wrong. Of course there will be those that think it's silly to talk about right and wrong on an SHMB and yet turn around and preach it is wrong to issue them points or whatever.
I think it is wrong to automatically to say that a provider couldn't possibly have had a bad time with a client. It would be just as wrong for a provider to jump another provider for saying that the guy came in smelly, drunk and had an attitude because he is her regular and has never done that. If there is a less than flattering review written on a provider I have never had a problem or bad time with then the most I may say is "man that sucks, I've never had an issue with her. I'm sorry you had a bad time with her." Now if I went in and said "man I've seen her numerous times and never had an issue with her, this couldn't possibly be the same girl. She would never do that." That is just wrong.
Also I think that going on a review and just trashing a girl is wrong. I also think that if you have seen that girl and had a bad time with her then put your opinion out there tactfully and respectfully, you didn't write the review afterall so you must have felt it wasn't worth writing so why trash her.
I have never just called a guy a WK but I have asked them why they felt the need to act as if a particular provider could do no wrong......
I think it's kind of stupis to take a guy's side simply because he's a guy and visa versa....
Just my opinion on the subject.
Originally Posted by Eccie Addict