Owners/Mods/Designers....
BP, I agree with you for the most part. I think it's a little goofy to get too upset by threADs. Some mild annoyance is normal. You roll your eyes & move on.
Originally Posted by Sisyphus
Exactly.
I completely agree with that! The donks I identify with here...hell, I can talk to them anywhere! Finding sexy womenz that will put up with my nonsense...that's a lot tougher!
Originally Posted by Sisyphus
Yep. But I'll be the first to admit I've met some great guys in the hobby, including a couple of those who I think get carried away attacking providers.
But, strangely enough, that's one of the reasons I can't agree with the previous statement 100%. There's, at least, a couple of schools of thought. One is "calling out" the gals who make an "excessive amount" (whatever the hell that # is!) of threAD posts drives sexy womenz away. The other is allowing "excessive amount" (see disclaimer, supra) drives other sexy womenz away. And then, there's the notion that not all the sexy womenz are permitted to post threADs to the same degree drives still more sexy womenz away. Okay...maybe that's, at least, three schools...or 2a & 2b...whatever...I hope you see where I was going with this before I got distracted by the epistemology of it all...
Originally Posted by Sisyphus
Honestly, I don't give it that much thought. But one thing I have learned is that being rude rarely pays any benefits, and it's typically a sign of insecurity. It makes newcomers feel unwelcome. And sadly the level of rudeness has gone through the roof here in the past months. I'm glad to see the mods clamping down on it.
And I do think rudeness has its place. If you like being an ass online, get over to the Island. There you'll find that such behavior isn't only tolerated, it's celebrated. Of course, you'll be hanging with some folks who've elevated this behavior to a fine art, so you'd better be ready to take as well as give.
Anyway, point being, the best way to maximize the number of sexy womenz who participate here is a subject a LOT of the fellaz are gonna be passionate about. Throw in the odd suspicion...if not outright accusation...of bad faith on the part of those who are, theoretically, supposed to keep the playing field level... Powder keg....
Originally Posted by Sisyphus
I'm a big fan of fluid rules in cases like this. Set up hard and fast rules, and you're just challenging the miscreants to find ways around it. (It's just like teenagers looking for loopholes in their parents' rules.)
Get mods whose opinions you trust, and let them do their jobs. Occasionally poll the membership to find out if the mods have the members' support, and retire the ones who don't.
There you go....already a bone of contention. ClassySex never really bothered me with her "look at me" posts. She was good for as many belly laughs (albeit, perhaps not for the reason she intended) as eye rolls here. If I was in the mood for a puzzle, I might actually invest 10 minutes in trying to figure out one of her threAD posts. But, that's just me. I'm sure I'm the outlier in that regard.
Originally Posted by Sisyphus
My point exactly. We all have different ideas about what is OK and what isn't. So I think it's folly to expect your definition of OK and not OK to be codified into the rules. Here are the rules I think we need for discussion forums:
1. Play nice.
2. Don't talk about kids or drugs or felonies.
Those members who can't play by the rules get a vacation which gets longer with each infraction. At some point, they either learn to play by the house rules, or they're not invited back in. I believe that repeated attacks on new providers is a perfect example of breaking rule #1.
(And for the amateur sleuths out there, if you are a self-proclaimed master chess player who can out-think everyone else and sniff out all duplicate/fake accounts, why not volunteer as a staff member, and it can be your responsibility?)