Help save my marriage please

I am sure you have heard this but.....

Fess up to the massage. Say you heard about it from a guy you work with, you went to check it out, massage part was great and in a fit of stupor, new hands on you etc... you went for the gold. Little Juggalo took over. Avoid the hobby discussion.

I am sure you have heard this but.....

Fess up to the massage. Say you heard about it from a guy you work with, you went to check it out, massage part was great and in a fit of stupor, new hands on you etc... you went for the gold. Little Juggalo took over. Avoid the hobby discussion. Originally Posted by GypsyHeart

That would work on you?

Juggalo, Get some azithromycin. This is what's in a Z-pack. You can get an Indian pharmacy to ship to you without a prescription. Or use someone in the U.S., online or otherwise, and give them an excuse (you had sex with a prostitute and the condom came off and you don't want to give anything to your wife; you have an upper respiratory infection and Z-Packs work well for you, etc.). Get your wife to take 1 gram. Maybe put it in a drink, or catch her when she's got an upper respiratory infection and tell her you've got a Z-pack you never used. Make sure you're treated and haven't had sex with her since treatment.

I may have done something like the preceding, accidentally. A woman I'd been seeing was diagnosed with Chlamydia. Neither I nor my girlfriend ended up with symptoms (we've both been tested since), and it's possible that some azithromycin we used when we were sick wiped out the infection, if we ever had it.

Contrary to what ArisRose said, I don't think she's at risk for cancer. She may be at risk for becoming infertile. If you're going to do something like what I suggest, do it quickly, then encourage her to follow up with a gynecologist for whatever's ailing her, maybe a week after she takes the azithromycin. Originally Posted by Tiny

THIS IS SOOOOOOOOOOO FUCKED UP!

Serious question for guys and girls: Really? Do you think the wife will deal with "drunken incident" than "one-time appointment out of curiosity" better? I'm still trying to put myself in the wife's shoes but I couldn't see myself more upset hearing that my husband saw a girl in the hobby. Maybe cause I am in the hobby so I am biased?? I would be upset either ways but I think I would be MORE upset if my husband got drunk and had a one-night stand with some random woman. Originally Posted by samantha thom

I myself may be a provider but if I was married and my husband either got into the hobby (whether it was a one time or prolonged event) or had a "drunken night out" I would be pissed. I do this to financially provide for myself. Men do it because they don't get enough at home. I think relationships need to be open and honest. If juggalo lies to his wife and gets busted then he will be really screwed later on compared to just being honest now with her.

The majority of my regulars and men I've seen have wives. Being a hobbyist doesn't mean they are terrible husbands. Originally Posted by Lexa

Um...yes...it does. He entered into a legal agreement with his wife. That agreement carried an agreement by both parties to certain behaviors...namely fidelity. Violation of that is grounds for termination of the contract. He's not holding up his end of the bargain. Either be married, or don't, but stop being a hypocrit by staying married and then violating everything it means to be married. I wouldn't have said a word if that contract had carried mutual agreements that each of them could fuck other people...but it obviously doesn't...

They aren't being satisfied enough sexually at home so they join a discreet hobby that lasts only behind closed doors. Furthermore noble than an affair. Originally Posted by Lexa

Stupidest thing I've ever seen typed...

You're saying that fucking a hooker is different than fucking a neighbor? Look...I know you're a hooker, and hence, you're trying to rationalize your life, but stop...you're using the word "noble" like he's actually doing his wife a favor by fucking a whore for money. Good luck with that one...

Fact is...he's stupid. He's an adulterer who has no regard for his wife at all, and he's a hypocrit. He's just getting a lesson about making ignorant decisions, and I hope his marriage ends so it sinks all the way in, because if he magically escapes from the consequences of his actions, he'll go right back to doing them again...

P.S.-You ever stop to wonder why prostitution is so hated in this country? I'll give you a hint...it has nothing to do with sex trafficking...

Why are you on this board?

I like the doctor's suggestion. The cat box isn't bad either....but who's to say you didn't get it from her or had it yourself and it came out after all this time for real?

If you go or went to your Dr. and he told you you have it, and you were never with anyone else...you'd go to her and say " This makes no sense and 'is it you' but the Dr. told me one of us could have had it all along (even from a cat)" ... act that way and believe it.

Good luck

Um...yes...it does. He entered into a legal agreement with his wife. That agreement carried an agreement by both parties to certain behaviors...namely fidelity. Violation of that is grounds for termination of the contract. He's not holding up his end of the bargain. Either be married, or don't, but stop being a hypocrit by staying married and then violating everything it means to be married. I wouldn't have said a word if that contract had carried mutual agreements that each of them could fuck other people...but it obviously doesn't...


Stupidest thing I've ever seen typed...

You're saying that fucking a hooker is different than fucking a neighbor? Look...I know you're a hooker, and hence, you're trying to rationalize your life, but stop...you're using the word "noble" like he's actually doing his wife a favor by fucking a whore for money. Good luck with that one...

Fact is...he's stupid. He's an adulterer who has no regard for his wife at all, and he's a hypocrit. He's just getting a lesson about making ignorant decisions, and I hope his marriage ends so it sinks all the way in, because if he magically escapes from the consequences of his actions, he'll go right back to doing them again...

P.S.-You ever stop to wonder why prostitution is so hated in this country? I'll give you a hint...it has nothing to do with sex trafficking... Originally Posted by Wakeuр

You obviously aren't married. Leaving your wife because you cannot sustain a no-sex relationship is not as easy as you think it is.

Just as you hope for this guy's failure I hope one day you also walk in the shoes of many of us and think "Well SHIT! it wasn't as easy as I thought it was."

Also, I was wondering, how did you go about being careful when being with someone? Like washing first including hands, no swallowing, washing after - including face and hands and gargling... you may have oopsed or felt for the best, and skipped something. Did you have any open abrasions for better entry ways ? This could be helpful for others.... these things take minimal time and don't get in the way... don't feel it's an insult to the other person to be careful.

Did you use a condom? You still may have had it or her.

Did you just go to the Dr. or was it too long ago? You could go again so the date looks recent... or a different one all together.

Also, from this other concept on here:

No. 1: People don't hate prostitution. They wonder how one can do it with someone that wasn't based on 'natural choice selection' along with 'natural order'. That's their self feelings by lack of experience and not knowing how their bodies work or who they even are, or how they can know that the other may have a crush and know they won't later - you can only learn this by being involved somehow with someone like boyfriend - girlfriend relationships or marriage.

2. If having enough experience with a good find or crappy relationship that ends, but with some experience, one knows how necessary sex is for the mind and body. Being alone isn't the answer or masturbating too much.

3. Knowing this, seeking another outlet to have some sort of relationship with someone, and a real one, even though it may not be a magical true love but a decent private friend, that comes close to what actually means less wondering about 'who may be looking at who' jealousy crap, that comes with marriages, or getting sick of each other..can be better... true love magic feelings can still happen and don't destroy an individual as feelingless. All is still open if cupid strikes.

4. Based on this example of 'The wife not wanting too', I'm sorry she doesn't and wonder how long this could last anyway. There's a stereotype that women don't want too... people get 'Programmed' as I call it, and stay with each other anyway, happens all the time. I'd wonder about having her like it better, but being honest can be hard too and she doesn't know what to even look for to enjoy it. Also, love making is a base for love and all that follows and sex and function in a tight relationship still happens and it isn't all 'love making' all the time. Being someone who knows the difference - Sex and love making is continuous and I love it apart of my life even though it isn't magic love - but warm relations and friendships and freedom and I'm happy with that. No 'one' person is going to die on me either, having more can feel better over all. I can have it all the time, it isn't a problem, and I enjoy the process and how it works and I think it's pretty 'neat'. If you don't, or one doesn't, doesn't mean I or others are wrong because You don't understand for yourself. People that understand are the wiser, not the lesser people in society. There's'a bigotry that needs to be over come in America still today about this and I hope we do.

People are innocent in many cases to figuring love and marriage. And things may sift out in time, or, get nurtured and improve. Paper or not, what happens will happen and a paper can never be a contract for life. Love rules, not some words stated because they 'thought' it was it. If there were feelings of the specialness that ran deep during vows, they will always return to that because to have great love, is to cherish it, but people test things because they were also once free, and may test again to go back in time... and can then reknow how and why they truly like their 'special someone'. Or don't.

You obviously aren't married. Leaving your wife because you cannot sustain a no-sex relationship is not as easy as you think it is.

Just as you hope for this guy's failure I hope one day you also walk in the shoes of many of us and think "Well SHIT! it wasn't as easy as I thought it was." Originally Posted by adistantsecond

Who said it was easy to leave a marriage? The problem with people is that they never think through what being married means. Do they ask themselves, "what do I do in twenty years when my wife doesn't want to have sex with me anymore" BEFORE they sign a binding contract with another person? Nope. Idiotic...

These guys may be telling themselves "it's too hard to leave my sexless marriage" but the one thing they're NOT doing is giving their wife the option to leave their marriage because he's cheating on her. Selfish assholes, every one of them. Either suck up not getting any...leave your marriage so you can get all you want...or talk to her and see if you can both alter the arrangements of your marriage...anything else is pure selfish bullshit on your part...

I'm not sorry this happened to him...he should have had these discussions with his girlfriend before she became his wife, but failing that, he should have had these discussions with his wife before he started paying for blowjobs. Now he gets to deal with the consequences of his stupid ass decision making skills...have fun buddy...

Chlamydia is a risk factor for cervical cancer. Originally Posted by beezdat

You may be right. Based on a quick look on the internet, there doesn't appear to be strong evidence to point to a definite conclusion. But one of three things is probably true,

1. Chlamydia is not a risk factor. Most people who had chlamydia also had HPV, so that while chlamydia is associated with cervical cancer, it doesn't cause it.

2. Chlamydia can increase the probability of HPV causing cervical cancer. HPV infections last longer if Chlamydia is also present.

3. A certain strain or strains of Chlamydia are one of the causes of cervical cancer. Serotype G seems to be the culprit.

Anyway, prompt treatment is a good idea, regardless of the cervical cancer risk.

Um...yes...it does. He entered into a legal agreement with his wife. That agreement carried an agreement by both parties to certain behaviors...namely fidelity. Violation of that is grounds for termination of the contract. He's not holding up his end of the bargain. Either be married, or don't, but stop being a hypocrit by staying married and then violating everything it means to be married. I wouldn't have said a word if that contract had carried mutual agreements that each of them could fuck other people...but it obviously doesn't...


Stupidest thing I've ever seen typed...

You're saying that fucking a hooker is different than fucking a neighbor? Look...I know you're a hooker, and hence, you're trying to rationalize your life, but stop...you're using the word "noble" like he's actually doing his wife a favor by fucking a whore for money. Good luck with that one...

Fact is...he's stupid. He's an adulterer who has no regard for his wife at all, and he's a hypocrit. He's just getting a lesson about making ignorant decisions, and I hope his marriage ends so it sinks all the way in, because if he magically escapes from the consequences of his actions, he'll go right back to doing them again...

P.S.-You ever stop to wonder why prostitution is so hated in this country? I'll give you a hint...it has nothing to do with sex trafficking... Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Wanna know what's "stupid"? You're hypocritical, fucked up judgements. Get the hell off this board and took your "holier than thou" attitude to a forum that isn't about us hookers and horrible, cheating husbands


Eye-fucking-roll

Oh wait, I just got my first dose of trolling on a provider/hobby forum.
I guess people really are that bored.

Be upfront and get a divorce.