Reasons why seeing an escort is better...

NTXReggie's Avatar
Like everything in life, there are pros and cons to every situation. Utopia is as big a stretch as congress agreeing or the Cowboys winning a Super Bowl as long as JJones is still taking breaths.

Certainly a loving and caring partnership (marriage not necessary) with the person of your gender preference, with similar values and interests, and a matching sexual drive is by far the best option. Statistics bear out that few ever get there. Personally, I think our societal mandate towards monogamy hinders that substantially.

Speaking solely from a sexual perspective (and this is only one part of the human interactive equation), sometimes we want hot monkey-love scrogging and sometimes we want passionate loving. And the comparisons of wants and needs differing at various times could go on forever--friendship, companionship, nurturing, procreation, etc.

It is highly unlikely that you can get all of those needs met by a partner/spouse or a provider. So I circle back to monogamy and my disdain for that. Again, using sex as the jumping off point, we all, at least from time to time, want something "different"--bigger, smaller, faster, slower, taller, shorter, tighter, softer, skinnier, prettier, darker, stronger, younger, older--again the comparisons could go on and on and on.

Not that I am suggesting cheating is the answer--although on this board, in some way or form, most reading this could be considered a cheater...or cheatee. Cheating hurts--whether in a relationship or business or playing a game. I just think that we have been programmed for far too long that there is this one way things have to be to provide happiness. And it goes against our basic nature as nothing more than intelligent (some much more than others) animals.

So you get married and then you get bored or you don't get married and you get lonely. And you make decisions that get people hurt--emotionally, physically, financially. To me it is not relevant the CPF (cost per fuck) factor but more the overall happiness factor. No one person, just like no one drug or drink or food or movie genre or car, can meet all your needs.

If we were honest about this, as a society, we all would find ourselves much more fulfilled. But then what do I know...I too am only human!
Randall Creed's Avatar
Let's see. I can clean my car myself. A couple of gallons of gas tops is $7. Dozen roses or a nice setting is about $25 at the largest florist in the country. dinner at the comedy club with drinks about $100.

That is $132. Maybe $200 tops. Session will cost me $200 or more every time. And will.never be more than a hopefully great fuck. Yes, I may have to wine and dine a civilian a number of times but if we click the emotional fulfillment will far surpass what I can get from a provider.

There are many reasons to select a provider but given the right woman, the non-provider wins hands down. Originally Posted by OldButStillGoing
All the above plus, with a date you're probably spending the night. There's no rush feeling of having to be done in an hour, and if the mood strikes you, you can do it again (and again). Might even get some breakfast in the morning.

But, my problem is, it's hard for me to see one woman and not get bored, even if she's fine as hell. I don't know why I'm this way, but I am. I lose interest after 2-3 encounters, particularly if there's no in between of another woman. I thought this would go away as I got older. Mmmm, not so much.

I actually hope this changes at some point, because there is an occasional urge for an extended passionate atmosphere, not just for an hour.
damn I just calculated my last girlfriend.... I should hire her back.... she fucked me 7 days a week....lived with me a year....fucked me silly sometimes 2-3 times a day.... several times in the changing rooms at kohl's.... based on averages it was $7 per bang.... damn...not counting the after relationship her showing up for the bootycall.....I guess that kills the average....the best part? she told one of her friends how good it was.... and after she was gone her friend showed up several times for a good time... to see if it was true...
doug_dfw's Avatar
My perspective. Been married and divorced 4 times. i have a job I love and I have to travel. The grass doesn't get mowed; I am tired and want to sleep: in other words I am not a keeper but a target. Near broke after, I love the Hobby. Better Bennies and No down the road clawback. Dang tho be nice to snuggle every night as I fall asleep.
Thanks for sharing and putting into perspective to these wonderful gents what most us providers recognize.

Great thread
Don't Be Daft!'s Avatar
Because, you're a filthy bird! I've been ruined by whores. I just love filthy whores! Yes please.
If you have to spend 300+ on a civie everytime you want to fuck...just stick with hookers

Any money spent on a civie is more of an investment
A couple dates and free sex from that point and beyond
There are plenty of women out there who are just looking for companionship,sex and good ol fun.They dont require all the whining and dining at all.
Dating sites are filled with lonely women only looking for a good time.
You hook up with one and its free sex on steroids...no fees,no time limits,no screening process,no waiting list,no rolling in sheets other men have deposited their dna,no bumping into other clients in the parking lot,no dealing with pimps strapped for cash..

Providers are great but there is nothing like banging a chick u met in real life,dating site etc
Spending $$ everytime you need a nut will never beat free pussy
Providers are great but there is nothing like banging a chick u met in real life,dating site etc
Spending $$ everytime you need a nut will never beat FREE pussy Originally Posted by NubianPrince
Nooooooo such thing...lol.
Nooooooo such thing...lol. Originally Posted by Prolongus
You can say that again.
I agree with you, Jessica to a large degree................

What you left out is the drama associated in the marriage, and the fact that you are fucking the same woman, over and over and over. By you calculations of $800+ a fuck, as opposed to $250-300 an hour for a provider, and if it was a date, by your theory, it would be even more than that on the per fuck calculation, with all the wining and dining so it looks as though seeing providers is the better deal when you are wanting to get laid.

To throw a monkey wrench in the equation, for those romantic guys out there, what if you want an evening of foreplay with your SO, have sex, rest have sex again, then be able to clean up and snuggle with her, then fall asleep together, all unencumbered by the ticking clock. To get a provider to do that, it would cost $1500-2000 or more.

For those guys that are married and seeing providers, well, they are paying twice! Originally Posted by davidfree986
If wives and girlfriends did that, ECCIE and other sites like it wouldn't exist.
Bestman200600's Avatar
An escort provides a service for a fee. If she is good and treats you right, you will come back again and again. If the service is not there or if you feel hustled you will move on to the lady that takes better care of you.

Many SO's don't care if they provide any service. After a period of time, they feel like they are entitled and your lucky if you get 15 minutes every 2 months, and that 15 minutes may be costing you $4k plus.

Thank god we have some nice ladies in the hobby. xoxoxoxo
Nooooooo such thing...lol. Originally Posted by Prolongus
I guess I should have clarified..
Spending $$ to get a nut FROM A WOMAN will never beat free pussy
free sex is always better...

however recently ive been putting up with a ton of bullshit from a couple ladies who i sleep with but am not in a relationship with. and once that happens the sex becomes less exciting.

i can't wait to head to dallas in 2 weeks you have some of the best providers on the planet.
You&Me's Avatar
Jessica, you are 100% correct. It's sad, but it's very true. It's the reality of life.
If wives and girlfriends did that, ECCIE and other sites like it wouldn't exist. Originally Posted by Jake Perman
They do, and did regularly when it was courting time and on the honeymoon, just not as often as most guys would like after a while. Eccie and other adult boards would still exist because not every guy is married or has an SO, and instead of jacking to porn or trying to pick up girls at clubs and bars, they do the sure thing and contact an escort.

In other words, there are advantages and disadvantages of both scenarios, but to weigh both sides, as has been said, I do agree with the OP.