Consideration for the betrayed wife

Sorry for the punctuation errors and non-uniform text size in my post guys. I was in a bit of a hurry and did not get the chance to verify the form of the post before logging off.

i think sex with a provider is safer than random unprotected sex with strangers you pick up in a bar. many of my personal friends have unprotected sex with every new person they meet. I consider that very unsafe. All my sex is protected.

Married guys who hobby behind their wife's back are nothing but scared, hypocritical pussies...

I don't think people who hobby on both sides of the fence are morally bankrupt. They are human and make mistakes or errors in judgment. Now, they maybe hypocritical but not morally bankrupt. A morally bankrupt person is Ted Bundy or Joseph Stalin.

I've actually come across some providers who do have some qualms or reservations about playing with a married man, but in the end, it is a business decision.

I think a lot of guys would already be divorced if it made economic sense for them, but the state is far too one-sided when it comes to divorces as the woman seems to get the better end of the stick. For many guys, keeping it secret and going behind her back is the way to play but not pay the divorce game.

I think the odds of a man (or woman) leaving their family for a random stranger is greater than that of a hobbyist running off with a provider.

I think a lot of guys would already be divorced if it made economic sense for them, but the state is far too one-sided when it comes to divorces as the woman seems to get the better end of the stick. For many guys, keeping it secret and going behind her back is the way to play but not pay the divorce game. Originally Posted by Cpalmson

For some yes, for the majority its just pussified cheating. I thinck the sneaking around adds a sense of danger to the cheaters.

If they were real men, they'd tell their wives, and see if they were okay with it, or give them the chance to cheat on them too...anything else, the scared pussies should never have gotten married, let alone brought kids into the world to perpetuate their hypocrisy...

If they were real men, they'd tell their wives, and see if they were okay with it, or give them the chance to cheat on them too...anything else, the scared pussies should never have gotten married, let alone brought kids into the world to perpetuate their hypocrisy... Originally Posted by Wakeup

couldn't agree more

If they were real men, they'd tell their wives, and see if they were okay with it, or give them the chance to cheat on them too...anything else, the scared pussies should never have gotten married, let alone brought kids into the world to perpetuate their hypocrisy... Originally Posted by Wakeup

couldn't agree more Originally Posted by bjwstw

Just another case of some folks saying, "What is right for me is right for everyone". It wasn't that long ago we had an extended chat about that topic. You were overly simplistic then, and you still are. And now you claim it somehow is a determinant of whether someone is or is not a good parent. The more you speak on the topic, the more one has to suspect there is some of your own family life in the telling.

I tell my friends.
If you truly love your wife, you will not let her catch you.

So it was her "Friend" that found her husband's porn and escort habits? Surrrrrrrree....

She sounded a little too bitter and judgmental for it to be her "Friend"....

But what do I know....

I have been cheated on, and I have done the cheating. And she is right about one thing, it is not always done due to not being satisfied at home. Sometimes, people just like a little bit of strange once in a while. This is why I have been very happy in my open marriage for the past 15+ yrs.

IMO a marriage is held together by a whole lot more then just sex. If sex can break a marriage, then it wasn't true love and not meant to continue. If my man wants to fuck his new secretary at work, and she's game, who am I to stand in their way? I even consider this to be selfish on my side if I did stand in their way, bc how often does the opportunity arise when you can play out scenarios that are often only found in porn? I've even sat up a few scenarios for him. And he's done the same for me... believe it or not, it is one of many ways we show that we love each other. Again, this is just my opinion.

And if this gentleman came to see an escort, and he did his research and used safety practices, then it really is not as risky as one would think. Actually, a whole lot safer then hitting a bar for a one night stand.

Finally, I also believe I help more marriages stay together then what I break up. The man gets his fantasies fulfilled, or gets his strange... or is able to have a girlfriend on the side without much risk and no interference in their real life.

I do have a heart... I just have different beliefs then most. I don't think that just because you are in a relationship, that you should be restricted.

You were overly simplistic then, and you still are. Originally Posted by Old-T

Nope...nothing complicated at all...just a bunch of scared pussies...

I have been cheated on, and I have done the cheating. And she is right about one thing, it is not always done due to not being satisfied at home. Sometimes, people just like a little bit of strange once in a while. This is why I have been very happy in my open marriage for the past 15+ yrs.

IMO a marriage is held together by a whole lot more then just sex. If sex can break a marriage, then it wasn't true love and not meant to continue. If my man wants to fuck his new secretary at work, and she's game, who am I to stand in their way? I even consider this to be selfish on my side if I did stand in their way, bc how often does the opportunity arise when you can play out scenarios that are often only found in porn? I've even sat up a few scenarios for him. And he's done the same for me... believe it or not, it is one of many ways we show that we love each other. Again, this is just my opinion.

And if this gentleman came to see an escort, and he did his research and used safety practices, then it really is not as risky as one would think. Actually, a whole lot safer then hitting a bar for a one night stand.

Finally, I also believe I help more marriages stay together then what I break up. The man gets his fantasies fulfilled, or gets his strange... or is able to have a girlfriend on the side without much risk and no interference in their real life.

I do have a heart... I just have different beliefs then most. I don't think that just because you are in a relationship, that you should be restricted. Originally Posted by Mary Ann

Your point of view is slightly tinted in a different color by being a provider. In the real world, the women that share your view are few and far between. Sex is not the foundation of a relationship but the intimacy, or lack of, is a good barometer of issues in that relationship.

Posting taint photos help all ... ijs.

Your point of view is slightly tinted in a different color by being a provider. In the real world, the women that share your view are few and far between. Sex is not the foundation of a relationship but the intimacy, or lack of, is a good barometer of issues in that relationship.

Posting taint photos help all ... ijs. Originally Posted by pyramider

Actually, I became a provider because I already had this point of view...
I think if more people embraced it, we would have more marriages lasting, and less miserable people in the world. I would also lose business... lol But I think society still has a long way to go with being more open. It probably won't ever happen, which in my opinion, is a tragedy.