Seeking Arrangement

Yeah, I just use my pics, and have a good profile.

Bumble so far has not been much better than pof for me.

In marketing to males: Seeking Arrangement (SA) heavily baits their site with fake profiles, TGTBT photos, and robotic auto-messaging that teases guys into paying for their service. After a couple of months, most guys realize there's a serious shortage of actual girls available in their area, often none. For example, if you search Lawrence, or Pittsburg, Kansas (or any other small town) on their site, it will pull up dozens of cute profiles, many showing "online". C'mon, guys, really? Are you gonna' believe there are dozens of hot, willing cuties in these small, rural towns?

In marketing to females: In addition to baiting profiles, SA encourages joining by telling girls they can easily earn $3,000 to $5,000 per month plus tips, world travel, and countless other perks. They don't tell them that maybe 1 in 1,000 men can/will commit more than $300 a month toward this endeavor.

SA is the house, and the house always wins. They are selling a fantasy. They sometimes advertise and even place baited "success stories" right here on eccie and other similar sites.

On rare occassion, our male and female members have posted of some level of success. But for most of us, SA is a rip-off.

Buyer beware, do some serious research! Originally Posted by outbound_7

Couldn't have worded this better if I wrote three times as much.

Avoid that site, and return to reality.

Yeah, I just use my pics, and have a good profile.

Bumble so far has not been much better than pof for me. Originally Posted by RocketSurgeon

Bumble is for the top 20% of guys. If you were a top 20% , you would not be on this site.

Yea, i just joined s/a and its insane how many ads there are. Something does not sound right about that many ads.

Yeah, I just use my pics, and have a good profile.

Bumble so far has not been much better than pof for me. Originally Posted by RocketSurgeon

Your pics work?? I use Malwoodys and it aint done shit for me!!

Works much better than no pics, or fake pics.

Malwoody's pics would work well, but only on Belton Tinder.

At this very moment Ive been back on SA exactly 1 month and ive been overwhelmed.
I have 24 conversations via text right now. And if it wasnt for a funeral this weekend Id be on 6 straight days of meet ups!!

My rules:
1) I dont compensate for first meet and greets, drinks, lunch, starbucks whatever.
2) Always meets first in public
3) i never send or give any money until we move forward to a second date
And even then if intimacy isnt on the table the comp will much much less if at all.
4) my time is just as valuable as hers and once again I choose how to spend.
If she has a better option, then go for it.
5) The MaryJane816 rule: Now I refuse to be lured into an exclusive sb connection only to realize they dont wanna play by the same rules... I knew better and learned a lesson.

Works much better than no pics, or fake pics.

Malwoody's pics would work well, but only on Belton Tinder. Originally Posted by RocketSurgeon

BELTON??? OH you give him way too much credit!!

BigD,
Common longstanding rules.
As for rule 5, although being distracted is a valid excuse, whiskey prevents distractions.

Couldn't have worded this better if I wrote three times as much.

Avoid that site, and return to reality. Originally Posted by JRLawrence

I respectfully disagree. SA is good. But you need to be careful. There are a lot of **staff edit - RS** and messed up girls. But you can find a few good ones if you try. I stick to Starbucks for the first greet. Also. Don’t pay for the first one. If they refuse to meet wo money then that’s a red flag. Most women are down to meet fast. I have also noticed that mommies from the suburbs are best. They will Hit the bed fast if you play it right. They need the money and don’t want to waste time. I actually stay away from SA bc i will go broke lol. There’s been weeks where I have slept with 3 or 4 girls. I will keep the best one for the long run.

I respectfully disagree. SA is good. But you need to be careful. There are a lot of drug addicted and messed up girls. But you can find a few good ones if you try. I stick to Starbucks for the first greet. Also. Don’t pay for the first one. If they refuse to meet wo money then that’s a red flag. Most women are down to meet fast. I have also noticed that mommies from the suburbs are best. They will Hit the bed fast if you play it right. They need the money and don’t want to waste time. I actually stay away from SA bc i will go broke lol. There’s been weeks where I have slept with 3 or 4 girls. I will keep the best one for the long run. Originally Posted by jm7501

Also, the last SA ran I ended up dating some of the girls I met. We would just hang out wo any money. One of them wanted to be my gf 😬
If you play it right. It can be a lot of fun.

BigD,
Common longstanding rules.
As for rule 5, although being distracted is a valid excuse, whiskey prevents distractions. Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

I should have run those by you before I posted that way you could have advised me that my post was not needed.
Thanks UC

At this very moment Ive been back on SA exactly 1 month and ive been overwhelmed.
I have 24 conversations via text right now. And if it wasnt for a funeral this weekend Id be on 6 straight days of meet ups!!

My rules:
1) I dont compensate for first meet and greets, drinks, lunch, starbucks whatever.
2) Always meets first in public
3) i never send or give any money until we move forward to a second date
And even then if intimacy isnt on the table the comp will much much less if at all.
4) my time is just as valuable as hers and once again I choose how to spend.
If she has a better option, then go for it.
5) The MaryJane816 rule: Now I refuse to be lured into an exclusive sb connection only to realize they dont wanna play by the same rules... I knew better and learned a lesson. Originally Posted by BigDeal

Are they making the first contact or are you emailing every girl that look half way decent? Dude, i'm too tense to even breathe.

Bumble is for the top 20% of guys. If you were a top 20% , you would not be on this site.

Yea, i just joined s/a and its insane how many ads there are. Something does not sound right about that many ads. Originally Posted by new2thescene

You'd probably be better off not making assumptions about why an individual is on this site. FWIW, I got plenty of hits on both pof and bumble, but just not what I'm looking for. I'm picky, have limited time, and have very particular interests for ladies. In general, I'm only interested in about 1-2% of the profiles I see on SA, pof, Bumble, and most other dating sites. I can afford to be selective, so I am.

On SA, the ratio is about 6 to 1 of SB to SD in the KC area. There are currently about 8,000 SBs w/in a 100 mi radius of KC and about 1,300 SDs. Most of the female profiles are real, but you're dealing with problem women ... bad habits, serious money mgmt issues (or shopaholics, or got rinsed by their last husband or BF) felons, con artists, scammers, women trying to market their pics/vids/webcam crap instead of being an SB, ultra high maintenance and materialistic, single mothers with little time, etc.

Some SDs are willing to put up with some of those things, but I don't put up with much of that. By the time I weed out the ones with bad habits, the felons, the con artists, scammers, camgirls, single moms w/ no free time, and the ones I'm not attracted to, I'm left with about 0.5% to 1% of the women within 100 mi of KC, or about 40-80 women. Out of those 40-80 that remain, some are not into me, some wind up having hidden deal breaker problems, some aren't looking for the same type or arrangement that I am, etc.

Are they making the first contact or are you emailing every girl that look half way decent? Dude, i'm too tense to even breathe. Originally Posted by new2thescene

I currently have unread messages from almost 1,000 women for one of my research accounts on SA that has been active for a couple of years. Some of those women are out of the area or even country though.

In general, some will make contact with you, and others you'll need to contact. Whether they contact you first depends in large part on whether you have pictures in your profile, what your profile says, and how aggressive, desperate, or interested the woman is.

Are they making the first contact or are you emailing every girl that look half way decent? Dude, i'm too tense to even breathe. Originally Posted by new2thescene

You are way to wound up looking for quick results. Both BigD and RocketDoc, along with others, have been in the game for years. Thus, most contacts with potential SBs have been developing over a time frame. And I'm not talking a couple days. On any board, you must have patience, and be picky, or you'll end up with a date you'll regret.

I should have run those by you before I posted that way you could have advised me that my post was not needed.
Thanks UC Originally Posted by BigDeal

Eah. You had a bad week. Whatever happened to the tshirt awards. You earned one for that