Reasons for not seeing someone. Provider or Hobbyist

Great topic. I've participated in discussion boards of many different types since the late 90's and every board, without exception, is the same...the topic is all that changes. Most people will say things in the board discussion they would never say in person. It's the nature of hiding behind the keyboard (that goes for #1 here too). Too often if have found myself "spouting off" when I would have been much wiser to shut up and go on. I'm trying to learn to do that more.

1. If a girl NCNS's I'm out! I hate my time being wasted. I realize it happens both ways and I think it is equally bad. I think I said something about that recently,
2. I don't remember the gal, but I do remember that for several weeks most of what she said sounded like she was downing new posters with comments like "another one managed by a butt hurt guy." It was that bad and worse. It just gave me the sense that she hated guys and was trying to walk over every other girl posting. Complete turnoff.
3. It's been said that bad press is good press. That is one of the reason I don't post anymore about a certain provider who has been notorious for NCNS's in the past, and to her credit she seems to have cleaned up her game. Having said that, I have booked with a gal who it seemed like she was at the bottom of the dog pile just to see for myself if she was as bad as all were saying. As it turned out, I've seen her about three-four times. This is rare, but I have done it on two occasions.
4. Mostly, I follow this procedure:
*I look at price first as my pockets are just not that deep. I wish they were, but it is what it is. If she is out of my price range, I simply move on, no sense looking any further. No disrespect meant, I just know what I can and cannot do and have accepted that.
*I look at pictures, after all, if I'm not attracted visually, then it's not going to do me any good in person.
*next I look at activities. If activities match what I like then I will proceed to the next step.
*I will then read all the reviews or until I am satisfied, but I usually read them all. I want to see the big picture.
*If I'm still not quite sure, I will read posts, but usually it's the posts that have sparked my attention to begin with. I won't so much look at her ad as I will look at her interaction with others. I'm reminded of another provider that I will never see simply because 90+% of her posts are bitching about this or that and adding her unwanted "advice" (this is obviously my perception of her and no doubt it is skewed due to my disdain for her. She turned me off with her first non-ad interaction and continues to to this day).

Having said all of that, I've also learned that most people are completely different in person than they are behind the keyboard. For example, I can come across as more outspoken than I really am. In fact, I'm more of an introvert than anything in person, which is one of the reasons I will never attend a social, I would probably show up and then sit in the corner somewhere ... I know me.

The people who "think" before hitting enter are usually the ones who are more like they are in person when posting. I'm trying to learn this. I've typed and deleted about 15 posts in the past week. Looking back, it was very wise to do so. I'm also trying to learn that most people don't care about what I have to say as much as I do ... so therefore........

One last thing and I'll stop - I don't, D-O-N'-T read ads that are loooong and wordy. I can only speak for me, but I'm visually motivated. Don't try too hard to convince me with words ... convince me with pictures. (Says the guy who just wrote a small book here) Originally Posted by onei

I love your comment about thinking before hitting enter. Great post.

Don't worry, I will have a yard sale every now & then, Fletch!

I can't say that I am exactly the same on the board as I am in person. That would be WAY too much! I just really like expressing myself thru writing. I am much more laid back and even quiet, at times, in person. I hate crowds. I am much better one on one or in a small group.

Chemistry and comfort level is a big factor in how we interact with each other.

There are some people you can totally tard out with and others you just try your best to find some sort of common ground with. Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

You had me at salad tossing.

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Morning Sofa

Salad Tossing or was it the sparklers?

I don't get it Jessie. I looked at your ads, they are not long and wordy so why the emoticon? Unless it's directed at my long and wordy post, which I already acknowledged. Originally Posted by onei

I'm sorry sweetie, it was the wordy post. I realize you had acknowledged it but it struck me funny. I did read the whole thing even with my ADD and concur.

Reasons for not seeing someone:

If they are harassing/blowing up my phone or PMs. That is an instant turn OFF.
If they are rude on the boards, most likely I will not see you.
If I see you and your hygiene isn't pleasant, you will not be seen again.

That's pretty much it. I post a lot on the boards and have had many men tell me that X post is what made them want to meet me.

I definitely use eccie (and before that ASPD) and sometimes some other sites to do a lot of research before seeing someone.

Things that I look for in postings: Intelligence, grammar, cogent arguments, solid reviews, number of reviews (I tend to shy away from ladies that seem to be higher volume), and, of course, pictures.

I had plenty of reviews on ASPD, but these days I use eccie and others for the research and P411 for the appointment requests. So, I prefer ladies that have a P411 profile also.


And I feel obliged to say that I had Claire in my top 3 to see until she started the sybian thread. That hooked me and I enjoyed our meeting even more than I expected. I'd absolutely recommend her with the caveat to be careful, she could be VERY addictive. At least from my perspective.

And I feel obliged to say that I had Claire in my top 3 to see until she started the sybian thread. That hooked me and I enjoyed our meeting even more than I expected. I'd absolutely recommend her with the caveat to be careful, she could be VERY addictive. At least from my perspective. Originally Posted by taste_tester

Awwww, thank you sweetheart!

Yes!!!! I have my list of to do's and to don'ts

1. If she is known for shitty TCB or has a rep for NCNS off the list
2. if she is known to have a pimp, Manager, handler etc.. off the list. ( I have been fooled by this)
3. if she is known to be to high volume I wont see her
4. if she sees a few board members that frankly disgust me I wont see her (yes I am shallow)
5. if she is a regular smoker I will not see her
6. if she has a rep for up-selling I wont see her
7. if she is know to have to much drama I wont see her
8. if she works out of a shared incall with more than 2 Providers, I wont see her
9. certain parts of town I wont see her
10. if she is CBJ, I wont see her

I say whatever the fuck I feel like, and I don't care if because of my post you won't see me, cause I'll just send you a p411 request and you won't know shit! And at least 3 of you have seen me, 1 of you twice

As far as ladies, there is only 2 I have encountered that I will never see because of attitude.

@sin after sin

You just displaced Dracula and the Wolfman from spots 10 & 9 on my most scary monsters of all time list.

lol I'm in good company then

I say whatever the fuck I feel like, and I don't care if because of my post you won't see me, cause I'll just send you a p411 request and you won't know shit! And at least 3 of you have seen me, 1 of you twice

As far as ladies, there is only 2 I have encountered that I will never see because of attitude. Originally Posted by sin after sin

You seem devious; I like that shit!

You seem devious; I like that shit! Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

Didn't your parents teach you NOT feed the strays or give money to panhandlers? It will only encourage them.

You seem devious; I like that shit! Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

lol I do hear that quite often

If your ad reads !iķ€ $0∏€₮ḧ!ñg ₮∏e NSA Ɔan;₮ ₯e₰₱er, pretty good chance I won't call since I won't be able to figure out a phone number.
Lies, and most of them are pretty obvious for NCNS like I had to take my sister's baby's, cousin's, daughter's, mother-in-law's son to the hospital.