The condom broke: could he tell and he just kept going?

ACP. . . I wished I could fit into those Magnum condoms. I'm a Lifestyle Skyn guy that fits perfectly.

So beth..... Did you know? I mean how could you possibly not be able to tell the difference in a bare dick and a covered one?

Just asking.... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Hey, no sniping. Snipe at the other posters if you want, but not me, and not over this.

Kind of amusing to me that the women are mostly saying "he knew" and the guys that have experienced it are saying "not necessarily".

By the way, it's happened to me and not necessarily... Originally Posted by riday

And this is why I'm glad I posted. I mean-- in the hobby we are not supposed to trust anyone at their word, but to me in this situation with this particular guy, I really do feel like I want to give him the benefit of the doubt because I do believe him.

y too much about it. These things happen whether in personal life or in the hobby. Just get tested and take a pill and move on. Also if you ever come on tour to Omaha, NE make sure to post it. Would love to see you!!! Originally Posted by supersinister

Thanks. I really thought hard about posting this here, since I didn't want it to adversely affect potential clients' opinions of me, but I thought it was the best place to get answers.
So thanks for that *small smile*

Oh, and luckily for me, the pills (I got the type you take twelve hours apart) didn't make me feel like shit. Doesn't mean I won't feel like shit later, but at least after the first pill I didn't. I hope it's the same today with the second.

SugarBeth - if nothing else, I beleive your post will help you and help your potential clients feel safe with you. You have just proven yourself to be a great provider.

I've had it happen twice over many years of fun, but never with a provider. I could not tell the first time one broke. The other time I could -- things got just slightly warmer -- but I think part of the reason I knew may have been because I was more aware that it was a possibility.

When one comes completely off it's pretty obvious, the tight band around the base is gone.

Avoiding trapped air in a condom is essential.

Hey, no sniping. Snipe at the other posters if you want, but not me, and not over this. Originally Posted by SugarBeth

beth I really wasn't sniping..... I had a decent idea what your answer would have been if you had answered which would have been you couldn't tell or you would have stopped yourself. I think you answered your own question.

My apologies for it coming off as an attack......

Also if we arent suppose to take anyone at their word here then why even ask here.....

So beth..... Did you know? I mean how could you possibly not be able to tell the difference in a bare dick and a covered one?

Just asking.... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Honesly.. there is a difference.

Don't think EA was being Sniping at you, SugarBeth. It was just a question that he reversed to the ladies about the feeling of a dick covered an uncovered and if you felt any difference once it broke. I hate that your going through this and hope it works out for you. BTW, has the guy tried to make contact with you to make sure your doing OK since the date, SugarBeth??

I've read this entire thread and what I find interesting is the "He definitely knew" comments. How the fuck do any of you know what he felt? If you have had it happen to you and you knew it then it must mean that everybody would know, right. If that is the case then the OP poster should have known because Skylar knows when a condom breaks.

To the OP, if he is a good guy and you have had no reason to distrust him in the past then trust him now. Do your testing and morning after pill and move on. I see know reason to accuse this guy of any nefarious actions. Originally Posted by Budman

welll geeez sorry I know my body well enough to know when i feel a break in a condom and god forbid I have ultra sex super powers and have the rare ability to sense things like that. and just because I have a different opinion doesn't mean you have to act like a smartass. now does it?

there is only one person that knows what he felt or didn't feel.

Honesly.. there is a difference. Originally Posted by Naomi4u

its so easy to misunderstand posts lol.....

you completely missed the sarcasm....

Also if we arent suppose to take anyone at their word here then why even ask here..... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

because there's truth in numbers. If only one person replied I'd be like, okay...that's the truth maybe for them, or maybe not. However, there's been a whole bunch of people responding, and from the guys I do feel like it is a case of "sometimes I can feel a difference, sometimes I can't" with most guys saying the first time it happened they didn't know-- so asking did help.

Honesly.. there is a difference. Originally Posted by Naomi4u

If I think about it, I guess I can tell that it felt maybe wetter? more gushy?
We switched positions and I thought it was just the position and that he was perhaps getting slightly more flacid.

But I'll definitely be triple checking condoms throughout the session which kind of sucks, but also trying to figure out how to avoid air with johnsons that big.

I have to tell you, this happened to me once. It was with a regular who had a huge crush on me, so who knows what his intentions were. It was partially my own fault, because I gave him a hand job WITH LUBE before placing the condom on him. So stupid of me!! Well we became intimate and when we finished I noticed he came in me and the condom was INSIDE OF ME!! I looked at him and there was no condom on him. I freaked out. I was grossed out. I went to the bathroom and took a pee. All his jiz came out and so did the condom. I wanted to puke, I became so sick. He was blushing tho. He acted concerned, but I could tell he liked having his fluids in me, he liked being "closer" to me in that respect. I've always thought it was an accident, until I read this thread. Now I'm starting to think that perhaps he knew it came off but didn't care and continued? That was along time ago. About 3 weeks or so later I quit the biz, and I told him he had to find someone else to meet for I was retiring. He continued to email me because he had a crush. I never responded to those emails. He may have played musical chairs with the condom that night and gotten away with it, but he was not going to be my pen pal after retirement.

Don't think EA was being Sniping at you, SugarBeth. It was just a question that he reversed to the ladies about the feeling of a dick covered an uncovered and if you felt any difference once it broke. I hate that your going through this and hope it works out for you. BTW, has the guy tried to make contact with you to make sure your doing OK since the date, SugarBeth?? Originally Posted by shorty

He sent a message a few hours afterward saying he enjoys my company more than I could know.

This was before I found a pharmacy open so I was feeling particularly emotionally raw so I just said to be careful that he doesn't grow too attached because that never ends well, and that I'm looking forward to seeing him when I could be more leisurely and not have to run out fifteen minutes past the end of our date (since the time before we'd done an open ended date.)

I then let him know a couple hours after getting the Planned B that I'd gotten it.

I think before I sent him the slight nudge towards a reality check, he was all up in lala land about finally finding his ATF. In my mind, him talking about how great the sex was makes me think "well, no shit, towards the end your penis wasn't covered," and that he's not necessarily appreciating ME as much as that-- though I know he really does love spending time with me even when we're just hanging out.

Also, I think I may have handled it too well and so he doesn't think it's a big deal. I'm glad I didn't worry him since I assured him about the Planned B, but still- you know? We both have sex with other people.

So yeah, I'm not mad or scared or anything extreme, but my equilibrium is disturbed and dealing with uncertainty is never really what I'd consider fun,
and this is the type of uncertainty in terms of STDs that I'm going to have to go through several rounds of sex testing before I feel absolutely sure, and I just hope that he does too.

And I have to wonder if this is going to change things between us. In some way, it's lucky that I'm leaving today so I can focus on travelling, put some geographical distance under my belt, and clear my head.

It'll be fine. This is just me being a worrier. Thanks for everyone who was comforting.

EA-- I get you weren't sniping at me, but you really wanted to direct your comment at someone else who you disagreed with. Having already more important shit on my mind, let's just say that I felt like redirecting you and not handing you the smart-ass response to match yours. You wanted me to respond so you could be like, "neener, neener" to the woman you disagreed with. That, to me, is using me to snipe at someone else-- even if you weren't targeting me for your sniping.