Fellow Kinksters,
What is our goal? Visual pleasure to the dom? Restraint to the sub? Denying air--the ultimate form of torture/teasing?
W
Originally Posted by Willen
I can only speak for myself, but for me it's all about control through denial (not of air, I'm not OK with breath control). Denial is one of my biggest buttons and being denied the chance to fully engage with a favorite partner gets me all flavors of riled up.
The means to meet these ends are varied -- blindfolds, restraints, trio play, a partner with a strong will, hell, even French where I'm not allowed to hop on does it for me. Being stripped of a sense during a high sensory activity is a sure-fire way to make sure that my big button is pushed. It's more difficult (but possible) to push it without props.
(Thaaaaaat being said, it's also a button that requires a combination to push and not all boys have access to the code. And oddly enough, I never know who has the combination. Kink is tricky like that.)