I read the posts of Stag, wolfking, and Birddawg & I hear echoes of my experience too. Originally Posted by regreq+1 here. To which I'll add: 20+ years of going to bed in the spoon position with a hard-on nudging her in the butt, expressing a need that was met a few times a month early on, mutating to once every few months, to once every seven years and counting. She gets pissed if she catches me whacking off or watching porn. WTF am I supposed to do?