Song... hell it should be a forum! LOLhahahhahahaha , totally!!!!!Originally Posted by Still Looking
- NinaBrooke
- 05-13-2012, 05:36 AM
- alluringava
- 05-13-2012, 07:54 PM
It certainly doesn't help either that many people's views of the hobby, of the clients and providers, are shaped very much by societal notions that we're all 'losers' or that what we do isn't valid or valuable. And sadly, even in the sex industry, escorts are at the bottom of the totem pole. Ever notice how a stripper or porn star is so quick to say " But I'm not a whore?" WELL SO WHAT IF YOU ARE?? I'm so tired of that. Worse than judgement from civvies is a judgement from someone else in an industry that is already marginalized to begin with.
- Outdoorsman
- 05-14-2012, 08:10 AM
If we are human, we all judge others at times. I try hard not to, but I am human. When choosing a lady to see I have to make some sort of judgment calls, from looks, to menu itmes, to reviews, etc. etc. That is a form a judging. Same thing when screening a man by the ladies, convict, lies, bad rep, she is judging to some point. I know plenty of convicts and some are very good poeple just did something very stupid in their past.
So, society judges our hobby and your work. Society also judges homosexuality, obesity, baldness, etc. etc. etc. I also understand not wanting to be judged. I am not a man with drop dead good looks that has women woeing him to fuck them, I do not have a flashy car, I do not boost about my financial status, and many women judge me. They do not even know me yet, but the way I decide to look at it is this: Their loss! I am good man, that has money, morals, values, decency, character, honesty, dignity, etc. etc. If that type of man is not her type than move on lady!
Just me.
So, society judges our hobby and your work. Society also judges homosexuality, obesity, baldness, etc. etc. etc. I also understand not wanting to be judged. I am not a man with drop dead good looks that has women woeing him to fuck them, I do not have a flashy car, I do not boost about my financial status, and many women judge me. They do not even know me yet, but the way I decide to look at it is this: Their loss! I am good man, that has money, morals, values, decency, character, honesty, dignity, etc. etc. If that type of man is not her type than move on lady!
Just me.
- alluringava
- 05-15-2012, 03:01 AM
My point was that the very first thing these people I disagreed with was to immediately start calling names in terms of what I did for a living. There wasn't any need for that shit.
- B.Wayne
- 05-15-2012, 05:00 AM
Unfortunately it is the actual bad apples and movies that shape societies way of looking at this. I understand because I used to think that way. Not about this issue per se but I can make a connection with this here. I dont know you at all but one thing those people don't pay attention to...or maby they did more than others ( I don't know) is what kind of a friend or person you ARE before they found out. To many people that will not be important. But to some it will be and they will not care, they may not agree entirely but in the end they will know what is important. It is sad but true. As if things outside of this board are different? I know some women that I have worked with in the past that did not care at all if a guy they were with was married or not. It is one of the reasons I don't plan on ever getting married. I got trust issues, and I over analyze EVERYTHING..(its a gift and a curse.) Unfortunately I don't think anyones opinion will change anytime soon on this issue. Interestingly enough, I have found some similarities (be it traits or just due to the nature of the environment) in the few experiences I have had from this board.