Okay I have a question.You have the first two things down... relax and lube. The best way to start off is think small! Next time you take a shower, soap up your bottom and gently start playing with your anal bud (carefully if you have long nails). If you are nervous then use your other free hand and play with your clit some, or your breasts. Basically anywhere you can touch yourself that feels really good and erotic. What you are wanting to do here is both relax as well as getting your mind attuned to the concept of pleasure when playing with your bottom.
I'm a complete anal novice. I've been thinking about getting a butt plug, but I am not sure what's a good choice for a total noob. The graduating beads with the ring on the end are a little intimidating. Actually it's all a little intimidating! Anyone have a link to a good starter plug? What shape? And why does the shape of some of them look like it would be difficult at best to get that thing out?
Okay, two part question, and I am really not trying to hijack but I just have a lot of questions, haha. It's sorta related anyway:
Anal tips/tricks for beginners? I've got 'relax' and 'lots of lube' down, but it still hurts like a MF. Do I just need to cowgirl up, so to speak, and take it? Does it get better or something? Maybe I should try it with a dildo first?? My head is in the right place and I would really like to enjoy it, and I want to do it, but so far no luck with liking it. Make me like it, dammit!
Okay, sorry about the hijack, but thank you for any advice you can throw at me.
OXOXO ~D. Originally Posted by Dannie
At some point you are going to need to advance to using a plug. Again, start out small, and also soft. There are a number of choices out there, though to start off I'd recommend getting yourself a nice silicone plug, then when you are lying in bed one night go ahead and do the lube/play with yourself issue till you are feeling very aroused. Then stop touching yourself!!
But only for a while. Lube your bottom up some, ideally sliding a finger inside to coat your rectum with lube, then take your plug and smear some more lube on it, then gently begin trying to insert it into your bottom. Ideally it should slide right in, especially since it is small. Once you have it in place lay there for a few minutes and just absorb the feeling of having something in your bottom. Next, before you pull it out, you should definitely use your fingers or toys on yourself and have an orgasm (or two, or three). When you have had your pleasure, go ahead and gently remove your plug. Then, as time goes on, do this regularly to yourself, or have your lover/partner do it. Become very comfortable with your current plug before moving up in size. Once you have gotten comfortable with about a medium size plug, you are probably at the point where you can start experimenting with dildoes, differently shaped plugs, all sorts of anal toys. I'd reccomend looking at some websites on anal play as well. Tristan Taromino has an excellent one. As for toys, its best if you can go to a local adult bookstore, but check out The Stockroom or Good Vibrations.
And let us know how things turn out!
