Ladies who say "No AA" and this African American mans experience as a new Hobbyist

So, in relation to the OP going to a lady's place and finding out she would not see him after the fact, I really can't believe that anyone thinks that is his fault.

If she didn't ask, 9/10 it would indicate she didn't care. It's not up to him to scour her website and ads to try to figure out if she's NBA.

He didn't say that she claimed she lied. Occam's Razor explains this...

He is a professional, well-spoken, polite and charming sort of guy. He came off well in his emails and she simply assumed he was a white guy and never asked. Since she didn't turn him away immediately, I give her a few points to try to power through. I give him points for recognizing that she was uncomfortable and leaving. It was a misunderstanding, but he didn't do anything wrong.

As to the opinion that if he really respected a lady's preference to see whomever she likes and that he shouldn't ask why...I think that is ridiculous. This is a discussion board. It's what people do.

That said, see also:

That's racist....why post a pic with a black girl beating a horse?

I agree B, it's on the provider and especially if she sees someone is new to make sure he knows her rules/limitations, etc. Even if I had no AA in my info I wouldn't just assume someone saw it. I always ask for age and a description for the simple fact that I like to know who I am corresponding with and while I love older guys because I have a dirty old man thing, I am seeing more and more an influx of younger guys who love cougar types and I do have a lower end cut off.

^^^I know B and she's in no way racist so I'm sure the photo is just a random photo she pulled.



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He's joking...

I was waiting for someone to say that, LOL. But I picked it because it kind of looks like me today and I feel like I'm repeating myself on this. Blue dress, hair in a bun, dark skin (I wish it was that dark...working on it).

.... Blue dress, hair in a bun, dark skin (I wish it was that dark...working on it). Originally Posted by B Three

Tan Lines?

I only take golden showers from pale skinned white girls. Anyone got a fucken problem with that????

I heard some few stories that White clients that see Black Providers were usually blacklist by certain White Providers. Now, I knew a guy that told me this before and he said he did give her references and when she saw he has seen a Black provider, then she said she changed her mind. The guy (The White client) told me got mad afterwards.

I hope this is false what he told me, but if it is true, then we have ourselves an identity/race problem maybe, but honestly it starts with the whys and the hows.

Why is this relevant?
I am not a White Client, but how come they are demi-blacklisted for seeing a Black Woman Provider?

Is it the same for White Clients as to those White Providers do not see White men who saw a Black Woman escort? What is going on here?

This conversation again huh. Let me help you, it's because they're racist. It'll be "sugar-coated" and explained away by 90% of anyone who replies with the same ol. The AA men I've encountered have been dangerous, thugs, pimps, it's a preference, because in the hobby the majority of AA....
It's not that hard to see, just read through the comments here.


Even better, do some searching and see how many providers you come across with ANY type of no see policy for any other race. And I'm sure someone will throw out the "it's their body and their choice" and they are ABSOLUTELY right. And you are ABSOLUTELY right to recognize the situation for what it is, or point it out.



In short, and as usual, it's due to stereotypes, bias, and/or racism. Spend your money where its wanted, plenty of other providers that don't discriminate



As a helpful tip, don't bother with the no AA providers, and cautiously avoid those asking for race or ethnicity as a prerequisite.

I heard some few stories that White clients that see Black Providers were usually blacklist by certain White Providers. Originally Posted by Sexy Snake

I've never heard this before, and if so, I'd probably make the list because of a review of an AA gal from last year.

My first thought was, holy Jim Crow, that kind of sucks. But it is the lady's choice, after all.

In real life, I would distance myself from someone with an attitude like that pretty quickly anyway. Even in the hobby, it would be an instant turn-off, so it wouldn't likely be much of a session with that kind of thing hanging over it.

But it's up to the lady how she manages risk from her point of view, and I have no business intervening in the screening.

Actually the OP posted because he was confused as to why ladies don't
see AA clients and wanted to know why some ladies dont see them! He also expressed his personal experiences with ladies who for some reason didn't clearly post their preferences to not seing men of color in their ads or expressing so before he shows up for appointments.

Every ad I have ever seen on eccie and oh2 have always just strictly said No AA! I have never seen and ad that says NO AA along with... because they are ghetto, because they are pimps, because they have big dicks.. because they rob me, because my white clients will be butt hurt I'm seeing AA clients. So nope it is still a preference for the lady as it is a guys preference to see a tiny spinner over a bbw. You post up a link to an ad that says exactly above and you are right! She does not have to explain herself and you have no right asking why she will or won't see you. Be happy she took the time to put it out there for you and you did not waste your time driving to a location because another provider didn't have the nerve to put her preferences in her ad/profile.

Sorry life unfortunately is not fair. I'm judged by strangers for being a bbw, having an opinion. A personality etc and so on and I don't take it personally. I as a person don't judge people and will see anyone as long as they are respectful and pass my screening. However I do not expect all others to do the same nor do I judge them based on their preferences.

Second these posts are not saying I like bbw, I like spinners, I like asians. They are specifically saying I'm looking for an Asian lady, a bbw, a spinner, a girl that does anal, a girl that is 18-20 who must swallow. I could post tons of links to back this up but quite frankly I dont have the time or energy to prove my point. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

Well Brittany, that is exactly what I was told one time, by a provider whom I don't think is here any longer. She said some of her usual clients actually asked if she saw black men, and told her if she ever did that they wouldn't see her anymore. I was pissed at first about the whole no AA thing, but then I figured what the hell am I upsetting myself about for someone else's preferences.

I'm sort of digging this post from Dallas Coed on the subject. I'm not saying I agree 100%, but I appreciate his viewpoint and he makes some good points.

Yeah if a girl says NBA, I assume her screening methods are poor. Her reasoning is that she just has "a preference" or that she's practicing sound risk management.

The preference thing makes no sense because there's no way she's attracted to every non-black guy...probably not even 1/3. The issue of risk management let's me know that she'd trust just about any white guy and doesn't screen...which means she doesn't handle her business well or someone is handling it for her.

Don't mind if someone is NBA but I loathe the attempts to make it seem rational. Originally Posted by Plains45

You guys keep searching for ways to shame and/or intimidate a provider who already has a set policy.

It appears that some of you have no respect for her choice unless they conform to yours.

Rock on Social Justice Warriors!

Well Brittany, that is exactly what I was told one time, by a provider whom I don't think is here any longer. She said some of her usual clients actually asked if she saw black men, and told her if she ever did that they wouldn't see her anymore. I was pissed at first about the whole no AA thing, but then I figured what the hell am I upsetting myself about for someone else's preferences. Originally Posted by LuvYogaPants

Yes that is one that I have heard of most often. It's unfortunate that people think like that and worse that a client would put a provider in that kind of predicament. Personally it is no ones business who a lady is seeing so they are out of line for even thinking they deserved that kind of information.

Don't understand the fascination with a lot of black men going the interracial way, there a lot of beautiful black woman out there "MY GOD" especially in Houston. You know the city that Beyonce was born in.

Yeah man. I learned to spend my money where it is wanted. If it says no AA. I don't even try to reason it, I automatically move on