KP13...you would not have this dilemma if you had screwed her brains out just prior to finding out she married your friend because the deed would have already been done. In that situation, would you keep it secret or let him know? IOW...are you capable of keeping that sort of secret from your friend? That is the question you are grappling with. Only you know yourself well enough to answer that question. FWIW....I have found out that most people cannot keep such secrets.
You know outing her might get her in trouble. But consider this. He either met her in the hobby and they fell for each other in which case you should not bring up and let them keep it their secret from the world even though you know. Or he knows about the hobby, is OK with it and again you would want to let them keep their presumed veil of secrecy. Or he doesn't know about it in which case he didn't really know her well and rushed things...that is on him.
In any of those three situations, you could still meet with her and follow through with the activities provided you can keep quiet. If you are unable to contain yourself, then don't meet with her.
And if she is the wife but doesn't want to do the deed once she recognizes you, pretend you didn't know or suspect anything about her and keep it to yourself.
Originally Posted by CS25
Not sure if you've seen my previous post
CS25 right here,
http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=...8&postcount=30. That's a line I'm not about to cross.
How's that? I'm only going off the info you provided. Is she or is she not your friends wife? That is the question! The rest is just the facts of life! Go ahead change that? Back to my original advice, don't be "that guy! You know the guy? That guy!
Originally Posted by thebuffmantraples
It's because of below
thebuffmantraples. You keep throwing out this card when it has nothing to do with a "provider having an SO" or the other way around. As Alyssa has simply put it "It's not a, "oh my gosh.. A provider is married." It's a, "oh my gosh.. A provider is married to my friend."
Still over complicating a simple matter of,if his horny take care of it, its not taboo. Would we be here if such things weren't dealt with daily.
Again how many ladies have an SO? I realize most don't at one time, but then again? What percentage of the well paying hobbyists are married? And we need to blush and hide cause this one provider has a husband?:mf_swordfigh t: I
Originally Posted by thebuffmantraples
I'm only 90% sure that that's her and there's still that 10% of uncertainty. In any case, I get what you're saying about not being that guy and that definitely make sense.