Relationships Beyond The Hobby

But I can't imagine why I would forever think of her as a "prostitute" if she no longer was...and was instead going through life being my mate. Originally Posted by Rudyard K

Which is worse Rudyard?

Which is worse Rudyard?









Originally Posted by WTF

But what if the man doesn't see being a prostitute as a bad thing? At least prostitutes are honest about exactly how much money it will take to sleep with them, unlike civvie women who all have a price but won't reveal it and use sex as a weapon. Originally Posted by gulflover

Exactly there gulflover. I personally think we are all prostitutes. WE all do things for $$$$$$$$$. How many have kissed the bosses ass when they would have preferred to kick it? There you go.


I have never met a politician that wasn't a huge prostitute.

Men that have families that are trying to put food on the table will put up with all kinda shit at work. Prostitutes.


What I think we are really talking about is are you willing to play out of your league. As a rank armature prostitute do you wanna go up against a pro.

Hell if you love some woman that happens to have been a professional prostitute and feel the need to hide that fact from friends or colleagues or family....you are just a prostitute to their morals.

I think Kris Krisstrofrsen had it right when he sang "Freedom just another word for nothing left to lose..............''

But I can't imagine why I would forever think of her as a "prostitute" if she no longer was...and was instead going through life being my mate. Originally Posted by Rudyard K

I have heard a man (client) tell me (he was dating an ex escort) that she wants kids now and he really wants kids too. I asked where the problem was then? He told me frankly that he can`t imagine being an ex-escort as the mother of his children. So here we go.

On the other hand i have also seen many relationships beginning in the hobby and ending in marriage and with kids. It depends on the people. But the ones that do end in marriage are most often the ones taht are a bit bohemian anyways. Like they are either sexually open , swingers, or polys or that kind of stuff. I never saw a conservative burgeouise man marrying an ex escort and it has not eventually been a problem at times.
The ones that end up happy are the ones where sexual liberation is not an issue.

At least prostitutes are honest about exactly how much money it will take to sleep with them, unlike civvie women who all have a price but won't reveal it and use sex as a weapon. Originally Posted by gulflover

I love this line!

Isn't the fundamental problem that pussies wear out from excessive use.

I love this line! Originally Posted by pjorourke

What is the joke that ends with.."We've already established what you are we are now just determining price''

Churchill: "Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?"

Socialite: "My goodness, Mr. Churchill… Well, I suppose… we would have to discuss terms, of course…"

Churchill: "Would you sleep with me for five pounds?"

Socialite: "Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!"

Churchill: "Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price."

Churchill: "Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?"

Socialite: "My goodness, Mr. Churchill… Well, I suppose… we would have to discuss terms, of course…"

Churchill: "Would you sleep with me for five pounds?"

Socialite: "Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!"

Churchill: "Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price." Originally Posted by pjorourke

Thats it!


We are all interchangeable in those two parts...sometimes the Prime Minister sometimes the Socialite. Life is just a series of business deals...sooner folks learn that the happier they will be.

Thrice.

Once it lasted many years and we remain close friends. The second time lasted a little while and ended on good terms. The third is just now unfolding. Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

Lauren! and a everyone else who has had a successful non-monogamous relationship. In any world.

The truly polymorous who can live without jealousy can indeed have multiple partners and even multiple loves. I am truly blessed that I got over jealousy long ago. I had a wonderful relationship with a dancer who loved to swing. We had a great time together, and she taught me so much about life, love and sexuality.

I believe that there is no reason to love only one other person, as so many are worthy of our love and affection. We are all capable of an unending supply of both, so why limit either giving or recieving in any relationship. Monogamy is a crock, IMO.

Which is worse Rudyard?









Originally Posted by WTF

Touche'.

I never saw a conservative burgeouise man marrying an ex escort and it has not eventually been a problem at times.
The ones that end up happy are the ones where sexual liberation is not an issue. Originally Posted by ninasastri

Well again, I can only speak for myself, but if one goes through life holding someone's past as a sign of the future?...then there are going to be very few folks who you can make a life with.

Other than me...who has been perfect in every way up til now...there are very few of us.

Oddly, it seems from what I hear that there is more stigma atached to dating a former escort/prostitute/choose your term ...in England than there is in the US. I say oddly because being an escort/prostitute etc over there is not nearly as big of a deal to civvies as it is here. So it seems it's ok to escort in the UK it's just not ok to quit

I have never met a politician that wasn't a huge prostitute.

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Heres the quote from "shit my dad says":

"He's a politician. It's like being a hooker. You can't be one unless you can pretend to like people while you're fucking them."

I love this line! Originally Posted by pjorourke

me too! i completely agree!!!

Lauren! and a everyone else who has had a successful non-monogamous relationship. In any world.

The truly polymorous who can live without jealousy can indeed have multiple partners and even multiple loves. I am truly blessed that I got over jealousy long ago. I had a wonderful relationship with a dancer who loved to swing. We had a great time together, and she taught me so much about life, love and sexuality.

I believe that there is no reason to love only one other person, as so many are worthy of our love and affection. We are all capable of an unending supply of both, so why limit either giving or recieving in any relationship. Monogamy is a crock, IMO. Originally Posted by topguntex

I think monogamy has a place in the world, some people can't handle multiple partners, and working through all the emotions and ideas would be a long and difficult process. I think the only time there's a problem is when different people spend their time trying to convince others they are wrong, rather then acknowledge they are not the same person and should not lead similar lives. People have an astoundingly hard time understanding that what makes them happy would make other people absolutely miserable.

I have always said that love isn't some finite substance, it isn't a pie being split up. I don't have less love for one person because I also love another. Love is infinite. I do find that I can only have one dedicated partner, because time IS finite, only so many hours in a day. So I generally have a dedicated partner, then I have playmates. As long as no one is mislead I find it works nicely.

Are you jealous of the ocean's generosity?
Why would you refuse to give
this joy to anyone?

Fish don't hold the sacred liquid in cups!
They swin the huge fluid freedom.
(Rumi)

Amusingly, all men I dated have been monogamous, save for one. I'm not sure how that keeps happening - but there it is! They all know when they get involved that monogamy from me isn't an option, and if they are hoping it will be one day, they're wasting precious time and should look for another partner.

They know they're free to wander, but don't. I can't imagine they were hiding relationships as that would make no sense since I don't give a damn and encourage them to explore. Interestingly, they are happy to accept me as I am. I haven't quite figured out this puzzle: how a monogamous man can seem perfectly happy dating a polyamourous woman. When relationships have ended, my wandering never played a role. I have been fortunately in that I could always talk about my life and experiences without any jealously from them. I think jealousy doesn't flare up because I'm very careful not to give them any reason to be jealous - being in a polyamours relationship means investing a lot of time into your partner's emotions. I suppose this should be true of monogamy, but there's more room for conflict when there are multiple partners, so it brings that need to the forefront on a daily basis.

I have had limited good luck in introducing my male partners to each other when I think they have much in common - in one case the two became amazingly good friends and seem to talk to each other as often as they communicate with me.

It's a fun world, full of unexpected goodness and adventure for those with the natural inclination to explore.