I'm not a fan of responses because I don't think the drama from a hobbiest saying something informative and accurate like: "the provider has stretch marks from a recent childbirth that I found unattractive, and were not apparent on her photos." Only to have the provider go on a rant about how she said she was back from having a baby in her ad and "everybody" should know that women could have stretch marks.......blah blah blah., is conducive to the all important board harmony.
If it comes to hobbiest having to defend every opinion they had of a provider looks or service, who would write any review other than positive ones. And then after the first few of each provider what use would any others be.
I think it is prudent for a provider to make a rebuttal if,
The session never occurred.
Some event during or after the event other than regular performance caused the negative review.
Any threats or intimidation occurred.
Or anything that was out of the norm that led to inaccurate information or unfair characterization.
Everything in his non-review was his opinion. Even his supposition about her heritage was not expressed as fact.
But do what you like. I think in most cases the provider winds up stirring up drama and causing more people to not see her.
Originally Posted by diud-diud
I completely agree with your statements about the drama aspect. Some guys are more critical reviewers than others. And if one feels that mothers with stretch marks don't make for beautiful or talented companions that's is their prerogatives. And as long as the BCD activities are correct, no one should complain. But in an industry where first impressions of the reviewed can make or break a woman's business, as a newbie to all of this I just applaud her efforts to stand up for herself. You're thinking about this like a client, but you have to put yourself in her shoes. If you care to.
I hope you understand it takes a new breed of sanity to be a provider. We're expected to be perfect in every way, and at the same time accept your imperfections and shortcomings. Personally, I do this for the ultrahuman symbiotic aspect, and in that, no one is greater than the other. And if I get the feeling from a person that I'm being viewed as subhuman, I don't care to see them. But as women, with all of our baggage and body image issues we still put ourselves out here to be available to you. Stretch marks and all, we still think we have something to offer you. But you guys bring your baggage as well, and it is very evident in your reviewing style. Just like most of you men don't want to be judged and reviewed about your physicality, sexual prowess or your attitudes towards women, that bit of subtlety should be reciprocated. I think, just like you, negative reviews should only be given if
*the lady is CLEARLY not the same person
*she doesn't provide the services offered (and not the YMMV ones either)
*if she rushes you
*her attitude was just not positive one.
I think this approach would definitely create board harmony. But it shouldn't be like this, where peace is only attained when either the gents or the ladies shut their traps. Shouldn't we both respect our opinions, and just see these people for who they are and react-or not react accordingly?