I know, right?.. I've had ladies say, "Tran, you're not near the Jackass I thought you would be"!Exactly. Just like...all the ladies aren't as hot in person as they appear on the boards.
Originally Posted by Chung Tran
Here you go with your same bull shit today PAWB!!!! Casey or no woman’s has to see anybody that they not interested in. I’m a black man and if she didn’t see black men that’s her choice, she is not a damn restaurant, so therefore it’s not discrimination lil boy. Like Casey said No means No. A woman has the right to change her mind even if a guy got to her incall and she said no thank you. Your ass have to leave period it’s her body and she can fuck and suck who the hell she want. The hobby is her business but not her body, so no man can show up and say I’m clean, I’m respectful, I have my donation, so you have to sleep with me lmfao, bull shit she does. Take your ass someone else with that crap. Originally Posted by suiram77This is no different than the Colorado bakery case. Federal judges ruled bakers could make or not make any cake they want as long as they weren't selling the cakes. They couldn't discriminate what cakes they made when selling to public. Bakers couldn't make a religious cake and not make a cake for gay couples.
I don't mean to sound like a creepy weirdo guy by saying this, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a little persistence. It's taken me 3-4 tries to see some ladies, but, when I finally got through and saw her, we both had a good time. Multiple visits ensued. This has happened with more than one provider. Hell, they've even leaned on me for real life favors, and apologizing for those initial, not so pleasant first contacts.Edit: And board personas are overrated. I've heard more than once from providers, "You're nothing like in person how you seem on the boards." We adopt identities on this board, which may or may not be who we really are. Bruce Wayne and Batman are two completely different personas, but they are played by the same person.
My point here is, not every guy that is a little persistent is a douchebag. At the same time, how many of you ladies have had guys that you thought were the greatest hobbyists ever, only to do something stupid and get on your shit list??
Just saying.
Edit: And board personas are overrated. I've heard more than once from providers, "You're nothing like in person how you seem on the boards." We adopt identities on this board, which may or may not be who we really are. Bruce Wayne and Batman are two completely different personas, but they are played by the same person. Originally Posted by Randall Creed
Words from a truly sexy independent provider who runs her business as she sees fit, and does Not allow the majority to dictate her choices.
And just for FYI I have never not taken anyone based on race. That is not the way I choose my clients.
Casey Originally Posted by casey_carlin
Misogynist arsehole answers like that are what he was talking about. So, what you are saying is that it's the victim's fault because sometimes they change their mind.
No wonder we can't have nice things here. That's one of the reasons the other providers have walked from here. Too many game players. Originally Posted by micktoz
I tell them why. I don’t beat around the bush not my game.I give you credit for telling them why. I think that is more honest, more decent, and frankly leads for fewer misunderstandings.
One rejection was due to not wanting to text or call for directions. My suggestion was to get a hobby phone or use an app. I like to be in contact with the people visiting me the day of our appt. Another was because he kept insisting I offer a QV. Several insist I see them after my stated hours, and one his referral never got back to me and he keeps telling me to trust him because he’s safe. Oh and if your a jackass on the board that’s a huge nope.
I tell all of them there are so many providers out there that would love to see you. I have 4 hrs a week to spend with clients and I choose people I feel are going to have a good time together.
And just for FYI I have never not taken anyone based on race. That is not the way I choose my clients.
Casey Originally Posted by casey_carlin
This happens all the time. If it didn't work the guys wouldn't keep hounding providers who turn them down. Originally Posted by greangrean, you're not there yet.. closer than you were but I'm still cringing at your responses.
I don't mean to sound like a creepy weirdo guy by saying this, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a little persistence. It's taken me 3-4 tries to see some ladies, but, when I finally got through and saw her, we both had a good time. Multiple visits ensued. This has happened with more than one provider. Hell, they've even leaned on me for real life favors, and apologizing for those initial, not so pleasant first contacts.
My point here is, not every guy that is a little persistent is a douchebag. At the same time, how many of you ladies have had guys that you thought were the greatest hobbyists ever, only to do something stupid and get on your shit list??
Just saying.
Edit: And board personas are overrated. I've heard more than once from providers, "You're nothing like in person how you seem on the boards." We adopt identities on this board, which may or may not be who we really are. Bruce Wayne and Batman are two completely different personas, but they are played by the same person. Originally Posted by Randall Creed
I give you credit for telling them why. I think that is more honest, more decent, and frankly leads for fewer misunderstandings.
I can't offer an personal insight into the issue, but I think that there are two possibilities. I'll mention the one I think is most likely first. I always thought the hobby would be full of guys who were interested in women and enjoyed women's company. And there are some guys like that, I think. But I am constantly amazed by how many absolute, over the top, straight up misogynists there are here. And for the life of me I can't understand that. But these types seem to have an almost pathological need to mistreat and demean women. Perhaps they think that by continuing to call you and waste your time, that they are degrading you.
A second possible explanation, and one that might explain the behavior of a few rejected guys, is low self-esteem. I know that when anyone suffers from depression, that they take every event that happens to them and internalize that event in the worst possible light. If they are rejected by a provider, they don't think "Gee, maybe I just wasn't right for this girl for some valid technical reason, but I'll be great for the next one, or the one after that." Instead, because of the toxic stew in their system of neurotransmitters, that becomes, "Shit, even a women that gets paid to sleep with strangers won't even sleep with me! I must be the most pathetic excuse for a man in the whole world." And instead of moving along to the next gal and getting the dopamine rush that comes with a professionally induced orgasm, he thinks, "Maybe I'll call her up and catch her on a better day." Because even if the next gal will sleep with him, that doesn't erase the invalidation that came with the rejection by a working gal in instance number one. It's the old "He's so pathetic he couldn't get laid in a whorehouse if he had a fist full of hundred dollar bills" syndrome. Just some speculation from a guy who has spend some time in the company of depression off and on through the years, albeit mostly in other contexts. Originally Posted by TexTushHog
grean, you're not there yet.. closer than you were but I'm still cringing at your responses.+1 totally agree , Chung.
why not assume the lady means NO, and if later on she decides to bend "no" a little bit, fine? the ball is in your court to accept or reject her at that time.
and I disagree with your statement here.. guys who hound do so because they are low-life stalker Fucksticks, with many personal issues. do you really think a lady changes her mind BECAUSE a Dude hounds her, and she becomes enlightened? of course not. Originally Posted by Chung Tran