Something awful has happened

i am so sorry. i hope you and your family are going to be okay...you have my condolences...

omg sorry to hear that you are in my prayers,my heart goes out to you, stay strong

Only a parent can know how deep the profound loss of a loved child truly is.

It is like someone suddenly and savagely took an axe and cut your chest open and ripped your still-beating heart out.

I know the infinite pain that you feel intimately, but all I can say to comfort you Alli, is that your son would want you to be strong and not grieve eternally.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

. . . You will be rejoined with your son in due course.

It is with complete devastation that I write this I was told not to ,but I consider u all family in a way.

My son died friday. I am devastated.

So if I seem distant and dark that.is why.
I am struggling with this very hard , because as some of you know my close cousin died in may. I just dont understand and im brokenhearted.

I just felt I needed to let u all know whats going on you all are a big part of my life.

Thanks for letting me get that out

Heartbroken ,Alli Originally Posted by AllisonofHouston

take ur time...and a step back. i lost a nephew at 2 years old and watched it tear up my sister and family. while i dont know all that ur going thru....i have seen a lot of it first hand. one day at a time....one hour at a time....surround urself with positive people that will allow u to grieve.

Allison, my prayers are with you.

My condolences for your loss. I will be lifting you up and pray that you find comfort in those around you.

Thank you all so much the outpouring of love and support is overwhelming , thank you

I'm sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose someone so close to you. They feel so far away at first, but you will get to a place where you can think of him with a smile on your face and feel his warmth around you again.

When I die...

When I die
when my coffin
is being taken out
you must never think
i am missing this world

don't shed any tears
don't lament or
feel sorry
i'm not falling
into a monster's abyss

when you see
my corpse is being carried
don't cry for my leaving
i'm not leaving
i'm arriving at eternal love

when you leave me
in the grave
don't say goodbye
remember a grave is
only a curtain
for the paradise behind

you'll only see me
descending into a grave
now watch me rise
how can there be an end
when the sun sets or
the moon goes down

it looks like the end
it seems like a sunset
but in reality it is a dawn
when the grave locks you up
that is when your soul is freed

have you ever seen
a seed fallen to earth
not rise with a new life
why should you doubt the rise
of a seed named human

have you ever seen
a bucket lowered into a well
coming back empty
why lament for a soul
when it can come back
like Joseph from the well

when for the last time
you close your mouth
your words and soul
will belong to the world of
no place no time

~RUMI, ghazal number 911,
translated May 18, 1992,
by Nader Khalili.

My sincerest condolences and prayers go out to you. I wish I could give you a big, long hug and comfort you in some small way.

(((((((((((ALLI)))))))))))

My Dear Allison. This is truly shocking news. I too havent seen you in a while, but vividly remember how excited you were to go shopping for your son after our session. Take all the time you need deal with this. We will all be here waiting for you.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"
Psalm 34:18

Sorry for your loss. You have my prayers and sympathy.

I've lost my mother and brother in the past 3 yrs. I have not lost a child so I don't know what u are going thru. But I do know what it's like to lose someone u love very much. Again, my sympathies are with u.

I cant imagine how hard it would be to loose a child. You have my sincere sympathy. I pray that your grief is followed by peace.

I am so sorry. I lost a baby daughter at birth and that was a grievous wound to my psyche, and I cannot imagine what it must be like to lose a son that has been part of your life for however long you were lucky enough to have him. Only time heals this kind of pain, not completely, but tolerably. I find the following verse beautiful and comforting:

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sun on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

--- Mary Frye, 1932

im probably going to get reamed for this but i have always spoken my mind when i feel strongly about something...

first of all i am extremely sorry for your loss - but in any situation i find it conductive if we can try to find a way to look @ it in a more positive light -i didnt read the whole thread and i apologize but time constraint does not allow --if your son was in any way shape form fashion in pain be it extreme emotional or physical pain..you can find positive in knowing he has graduated from this --no matter what He Has Graduated...death is part of life..its the end result of our physical and that is all--- if you sit back in nature away from others i am sure you will feel him - remember the love ..and dont regret any of the relationship ...try not to feel like there was something you needed to say etc..

.Because - in the end ma----it was exactly what it was supposed to be--maybe he learned his lessons down here and was ready for a new adventure

im not necessarily a christian girl but i do believe our energies and our faith in ourselves and the human experience create our present and our future...try to see the brightness that was and remains your son ..and look forward...trying to make decisions with the awareness you would be making him proud

So sorry to hear Allison, I will be praying for you and your family in this tough time. My sincerest condolences