Ladies!!! What are your thoughts on getting a drink with a hobbiest

My question was simply asking about getting a drink not a night on the town just a drink where I can feel more like someone who is meeting a beautiful woman such as yourself at a bar and not just a business deal. Originally Posted by Texas32

This is exactly why I do it. And it's a niche market. Some guys don't drink. Some guys don't want to be seen in public. However, there is a whole whole group of guys who want a hybrid social and private time date, but don't want to pay a ton for the pleasure, especially on top of an expensive dinner with wine, etc.

I don't think there is anything negative about a traditional escort experience, but as you said, many guys want the fantasy of meeting a lady at a bar and proceeding from there. It definitely feels less transactional.

This is exactly why I do it. And it's a niche market. Some guys don't drink. Some guys don't want to be seen in public. However, there is a whole whole group of guys who want a hybrid social and private time date, but don't want to pay a ton for the pleasure, especially on top of an expensive dinner with wine, etc.

I don't think there is anything negative about a traditional escort experience, but as you said, many guys want the fantasy of meeting a lady at a bar and proceeding from there. It definitely feels less transactional. Originally Posted by B Three

I love your perspective on this, and will certainly try and set something up for us when I’m in your area.

Nice to know I'm being admired , thanks love
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Gina, first let me say that I am a huge admirer of yours!! And hope to meet you in person some day. And I’m sure as established as a provider as you are you can buy us all drinks although I would never let you buy me one. My question or questions are more along the line of eidetic and not so much “giving me free time”. I too am capable of paying for more than drinks and would love to but as a couple of hobbiest have mentioned I use some of the general knowledge gained from the coed threads to be selective in who I want to spend my time and money on. I would never expect anyone to do something they don’t want to for free or otherwise. I doubt that any woman I have ever spent time with here on eccie or otherwise would not consider me a giving person. My question was simply asking about getting a drink not a night on the town just a drink where I can feel more like someone who is meeting a beautiful woman such as yourself at a bar and not just a business deal.

And to all the other guys trying to advise me as to what women want well unless you are a women......I didn’t ask you. Everyone else sharing an experience (or several of you experiences) and those of you who are contributing positively to this post, thank you and I appreciate your contributions. Originally Posted by Texas32

I've had a few atfs in the past who would come by and have a drink before the session and a drink and dinner after the session off the clock.. Maybe even an extended session. Depends on the connection you guys have. Most are all retired now

I do not want providers to know much about my life and, therefore, I prefer to not know much about their life. A drink just seems too familiar, if you know what I mean.

Yep, like I posted. Most guys fall into two categories. Ones that want more interaction and ones that want near absolute anonymity. That’s cool. WALDT.

This is exactly why I do it. And it's a niche market. Some guys don't drink. Some guys don't want to be seen in public. However, there is a whole whole group of guys who want a hybrid social and private time date, but don't want to pay a ton for the pleasure, especially on top of an expensive dinner with wine, etc.

I don't think there is anything negative about a traditional escort experience, but as you said, many guys want the fantasy of meeting a lady at a bar and proceeding from there. It definitely feels less transactional. Originally Posted by B Three

ALL of this. I could not have said it better, so add me to the list of having a drink or a meal aside from session is a fun time for me. Typically follows our appt as it's no fun to play on a full stomach.

Thank goodness there is someone for everyone!

You ladies are awesome thank you for answering the call and giving me/us this valued information. I know that this experience is a “give and take” but it’s nice to know that it’s not just all “take” for all your beautiful ladies.

I know what we are ultimately here for but the little things like this matter to someone like me that doesn’t just want a quickie type arrangement (although sometimes that’s all we have time for). I like the experience to be something that makes me want to come back as soon as I leave. Which i would think is a win win!

Texas32, you should know by now that, if you post something in Coed, even if it's addressed specifically to "Ladies," a whole bunch of guys are going to chime in, whether it's because they can't read, they are trying to be helpful, or they're just assholes trying to fuck up the thread.

Either way, there's no real good forum for addressing questions to, and getting responses from, only women, so you have to accept the results and ignore the guys. Though I mist say, that was as good of a "fuck off, assholes, I wasn't asking for your opinion" as I've seen in quite a while.

Texas32, you should know by now that, if you post something in Coed, even if it's addressed specifically to "Ladies," a whole bunch of guys are going to chime in, whether it's because they can't read, they are trying to be helpful, or they're just assholes trying to fuck up the thread.

Either way, there's no real good forum for addressing questions to, and getting responses from, only women, so you have to accept the results and ignore the guys. Though I mist say, that was as good of a "fuck off, assholes, I wasn't asking for your opinion" as I've seen in quite a while. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

Yea I know it’s sad that some people would have to be negative about something that wasn’t even presented to them. I don’t mind other guys adding to something I post that is addressed to women but when they start attacking me or my intentions that’s when you get on of my creative “fuck off” comments.

That being said I love hearing from the ladies so I won’t let any of it stop me for asking the questions that come to my mind.

friends are given extra time and treats as my way of saying thank-you...
there is a very well stocked bar at my place...
gentlemen will bring rare and special order bottles to share and enjoy... Originally Posted by LindseyLacey

I generally don't go out "for drinks" because I'm not a drinker.. but I've gone out for lunch many many times. Whether or not I expect compensation for that depends on the gent... most of the time I just go out for meals with my long time regulars-- and I don't charge them for the privilege (they do pay for the meal, but not the time). Originally Posted by Grace Preston

This is exactly why I do it. And it's a niche market. Some guys don't drink. Some guys don't want to be seen in public. However, there is a whole whole group of guys who want a hybrid social and private time date, but don't want to pay a ton for the pleasure, especially on top of an expensive dinner with wine, etc.

I don't think there is anything negative about a traditional escort experience, but as you said, many guys want the fantasy of meeting a lady at a bar and proceeding from there. It definitely feels less transactional. Originally Posted by B Three

What they said .

I've gone shopping or to eat because we were just enjoying each other's company and got hungry. Or ran over on a dinner date, because the conversation during the meal was engaging and we lost track of time. If we have an established friendship, time isn't always a factor.

And I think the reason why some ladies aren't replying the this thread is because they don't want to be haggled or have their generosity taken advantage of by creeps.

I'll chime in that I have also, on occasion, shared a meal with a provider friend off the clock after a session. Always with a lady with whom I'd already established a rapport after multiple visits. I never expect that I would do so with someone after just one date, either. We have to already have a connection, and then it comes up organically.

I once met a provider on ECCIE for a 1hr session at her apartment. After the session ended we started talking and she offered me a drink which was followed by more drinks. I ended up staying 4 hours and we just chilled the entire time.

I'll chime in that I have also, on occasion, shared a meal with a provider friend off the clock after a session. Always with a lady with whom I'd already established a rapport after multiple visits. I never expect that I would do so with someone after just one date, either. We have to already have a connection, and then it comes up organically. Originally Posted by Ipthirteen1701

As this points out, you can't really push for it, or plan for it. They are skeptical and you usualy need to establish that friendship and trust for it to happen.

As this points out, you can't really push for it, or plan for it. They are skeptical and you usualy need to establish that friendship and trust for it to happen. Originally Posted by rcinokc

And keep in mind that not everyone here will do this