So much of what I enjoy about dates with a regular is the communication. From the flirting before to the exchanges in person to the thank you notes afterwards. That is why the question of communication is one I spend a lot of time thinking about.
Angel, your examination makes sense to me as a reason some ladies may not want to explain what works best for them. I had not thought of that. No one has said such, but I can accept that possibility.
James, I have heard variations on what your friend said. That one often leads into the metaphysical discussion about what one is really seeking in this place. I have run into similar situations where I was hired to do some work, and the client was concerned about doing things for me—and I felt some of what you mention. But in this business it business it is often difficult to completely separate who is providing enjoyment to whom. Often my enjoyment IS connected to hers, especially if it is someone I have developed a friendship with. Seeing a lady smile and knowing she is enjoying the romp as much as I am makes my enjoyment more complete/intense. The whole “tis more blessed to give that to receive” thing. After talking about it there is often some mutually acceptable solution. The greatest aphrodisiac really is the taste of a lady’s orgasm.
When I made my comment I was primarily thinking about one particular lady. We have talked about it a few times, usually when we are spending a leisurely day off the clock and at a show or picnic or having her over for dinner. If I have ever had a pseudo-mistress arrangement it is with her. And that is what makes it all the more puzzling to me. She is open about essentially everything else, including things having absolutely nothing to do with the business. We have often looked for a fountain of youth because if I was 20 years younger I would have very different designs on her and she knows it. But no, I don’t push it. As MM points out that is not proper treatment of a lady, and anyway all it would get me is a smack up-side the head!
Max, I wasn’t clear and should have been. It has never been about, “I want to do XXX”. It is more, once we are already engaged in doing something, wanting to know how do it better for her. DATY is a prime example—every lady has different preferences. Sometimes very different. Hard, soft, fast, slow, etc. Asking her preferences in things like that is what I meant, and absent an answer, paying as much attention as possible to how her body reacts. Angel’s explanation is probably the best I have heard.
Thanks everyone, for the comments. Hopefully we will have more.
