If you recognize me in a public place... please just ignore me! I swear, you won't hurt my feelings...

ignore.. that is the only acceptable answer.. and BTW, for Providers, texting outside of setting up and confirming a session, should be limited to "Hi", or "good morning".. don't text "can you see me today?" or "I'm running a special".. intrusions can come from areas other than physical public spaces.

Will a pink elephant appear? Watch your tone.

1. You are strangers and never have meet before.

Given that, treat each other that way.

You don't go into a cafe and walk across the room to some random person and say, "Hows it going?"

2. If it would be weird if you didn't say something because of their proximity, mind your tone. If you bump into them in the movie ticket line, your response to a person you did not know would be, " sorry, pardon me." THIS IS THAT EXACT SITUATION. Then go about business. If you cannot pretend to not know someone, then pretend to have a sour stomach or some other ailment and LEAVE!


It isn't the same response you give when you bump into the family you know down the block. There is no , "Hi! How are you?" That tone just isnt okay.


Think sbout this past week. When you did have an interaction with a stranger, think about your tone and your response. Replicate that.

So there's no special wink/nod/whatever that means "let's go bang one out real fast before anyone knows we're gone," type thing?

That said, actually saw a provider I had a session with the week before while we were with our families. While we didn't make eye contact, caught my dad checking her out which I chuckled about.

Several years ago I had been on a conference call and missed lunch,
midafternoon I ran to a restaurant in north Dallas for a sandwich.
As I entered the restaurant I noticed a provider that I had seen several times
with a man and small child. I asked to be seated on the far side of the room hopping
She did not see me enter. After ordering I glanced in her direction and she waved
And winked. I did not respond but when they started to leave they came over to my
table and she introduced me to her husband and little boy. After exchanging hello's
he said that his wife said I always treated her nice and she always had a great time
when we met. It was very uncomfortable for me.

The next time I saw her she told me that at home her husband really gets turned on
When she tells him details about her sessions. How sick is that!!

Not even a wink, please. Just ignore ignore ignore ignore.

Several years ago I had been on a conference call and missed lunch,
midafternoon I ran to a restaurant in north Dallas for a sandwich.
As I entered the restaurant I noticed a provider that I had seen several times
with a man and small child. I asked to be seated on the far side of the room hopping
She did not see me enter. After ordering I glanced in her direction and she waved
And winked. I did not respond but when they started to leave they came over to my
table and she introduced me to her husband and little boy. After exchanging hello's
he said that his wife said I always treated her nice and she always had a great time
when we met. It was very uncomfortable for me.

The next time I saw her she told me that at home her husband really gets turned on
When she tells him details about her sessions. How sick is that!! Originally Posted by Redsan

There's different kind of men out there, I had a pawg side chick that was married and her hubby would eat my CP right out of her, she would masturbate in front of us and could tell he was very turned on my it while I'm thinking WTF am I'm doing with him here. Those were my wild days hahaha

The most a person will get from me is a smile and a nod. There is a difference, I believe, between acknowledging a person's existence and indiscretion. In my previous experience, if we happen to see one another and make eye contact, I'll smile and nod. I do that to the random woman in Whole Foods and to the guy in the squat rack next to mine.

So it would not be a good time to text and ask for a discount or a small loan? Just kidding, but that would be interesting to watch the reaction.

I have read this thread (and others) and agree with all the serious comments and not the "I'm Gordon Keith and have to make a joke about everything comments". (Hi, Gordo, saw you tonight at GNO.)

I agree with the 3-4 threads that state don't be totally indifferent but treat it as a regular interaction with a total stranger. I am an outgoing guy and will say hi to people if we bump our carts into each other at Trader Joe's. Or holding the door open and say something. My SO would probably start thinking dark thoughts if I acted "not friendly". But definitely act as if the other was a complete stranger (think Six Flags, a concert, Klyde Warren park.

I have never seen (to my knowledge) a provider in a public area. But a provider saw me at a business I was involved in and chose not to come in. She texted me afterwards and let me know.

My favorite example was on this same kind of thread a few years ago, I think. A guy took his wife to a concert and a few rows in front of him was a provider he had seen. She started waving at him so he waved back. The SO said who is that? He said "I don't know but she waved at me so I waved back". That is my personality and the way to handle it. If it was me, and I did not wave back or acknowledge anything, then the SO would be "thinking" the rest of the night.

I would just give a passing 'hello' or 'what's up', like I do with most other people.

I sure as hell wouldn't do the "Hey, you're _____ on Eccie!!! Woo hoo!! Your big tits look better in person. I love reading your reviews, and really love your NEW PICS, of you, in provocative positions! I wish your RATES were lower, so I could see you. You are ONE HOT ESCORT...ON ECCIE, which, btw, is an adult escort site!! YEAH!!

Btw, your secret is safe with me. I won't tell anbody...that you're an escort, on Eccie. Here, lemme show you a link!!"

If I saw a Provider in public I would do what our esteemed, honorable President of the United States would do: walk over, grab her cunt, force a few kisses and say: "I'll be dating you in 10 years."

While as I've never had anyone approach me, I've been texted or PM'ed that I was seen or recognized out some where in public. I'm a social butterfly and out often in DFW area so it's not hard to miss an appearance somewhere.

The most common place I'm seen is the airport. I can't tell you how many times someone has locked eyes, winked and nodded.

Nightlife. Certain clubs I frequent and always the strip/gentlemens club someone knows me.

One or 2 Soccer Dads that live in my area have seen me in Soccer Mom mode out on the field cheering but nothing was ever said and I appreciate that more than anything.

I've yet to have anyone approach me in public but the craziest story was a certain medical professional who knew for over a year who I am before he let the cat out of the bag and crossed the line. BALLSY!

I'm pretty public about myself and life...it's bound to happen that some of you will see me out and about at some point, I appreciate the discretion also, especially if you see me with family or I happen to be with someone else.

It seems to me that anyone with minimal social intelligence and a basic level understanding of hobby etiquette would know that it's inappropriate to engage a provider/client in a civvie context without an invitation to do do.

It seems to me that anyone with minimal social intelligence and a basic level understanding of hobby etiquette would know that it's inappropriate to engage a provider/client in a civvie context without an invitation to do do. Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

...well said Lena... quintessential answer!

As with most things, this falls under the cardinal rules of life: don't be a dumbass and don't be a dick. More specifically, pretend you don't know each other, that you know nothing of the hobby, and that you're kind of shy.

Context also matters. If it's a situation where approaching and talking to random strangers is normal, like at a bar, then maybe. At random on the street or at a restaurant with other people? Hell no.