When the drunk girl spends the night

You took my line. It happened to me a few months back. she did not spend the night, she passed out. Scary as it was not just booze. Very popular girl and I slept on the couch. Sometimes outcall sucks. she did leave the money. I no longer do outcall to my place. she has since taken a break and I hope she gets it together from a substance side of things.

Women don't have to play games to get a guy a to sleep with her! Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

Very true, but for reasons foreign to me, they still do.

Omaha2dallas, I don't know if you did the right thing. The way you tell the story, I'd say she was in control of the entire situation. This bit of wisdom keeps running through my head...

"The best way to get over a man is to get under another one."

You might have done her a favor if you'd done her.

What if you tell her, when she's sober & calm, that you were tempted but did not want to take advantage? "I'd like to see you when you're happy"

Apparently you've been with other dancers at the club. You probably helped your own credibility there.

You did the right thing man. It's only natural to second guess yourself with all the what if's but it wouldn't be right to take advantage of her situation.

Anyway, about 10 pm she called me crying and asked me to take her home. I went and picked her up. She said her asshole boyfriend had broken up with her by text message, and that she had been crying all night and the manager sent her home.

So I start driving toward her place when she asked me to let her come home with me. OK. Wow! I of course said yes and turned around and took her to my place. Problem is she is so upset, she is crying, she clearly has had way too much to drink, and she is asking me to hold her. So that's what I did, I just held her and tried to console her. She spent the night with me, but I did not even try for sex. It just didn't feel right to do so. Originally Posted by omaha2dallas

Who cares what anyone else thinks! You have morals and you stick to them, no one can knock you for that. You my friend have class so my hat off to you.

If I was in your shoes I would've done the same. Getting laid isnt everything in life. When you feel you did the right thing never have regrets about it my friend.

Ladies, take note of the posts and those posting when determining if you will accept an appointment from these gents. Originally Posted by Sweet Heather

Nailed It!!

many say why ruin her trust....I say.....what about the small percentage of times someone turns them in and says "he raped me?" an easy target under those circumstances is not worth it unless it is ur spouse. Or its the guy who gets sexed by a female.

You can always pay for a girl to have sex with you, you can't pay for somebody to be a friend and cuddle and comfort.

You did the right thing. So long as you hinted you were up for it and she did not respond.

I have had many girls sleep with me with no sex, some of them were so drunk I knew the sex would be lousy. Don't ever have sex if the girl is not conscious and willing and into you.

Have you called her? Is she fit? Do you want her as a friend, or fuckbuddy, or is she a freeky stripper? If you haven't called her, why not?

You definitely did the right thing, But from reading your posts, It sounds like you are stuck in "the friend Mode" FOR LIFE! Not trying to be mean, just honest:
There are many diff kinds of guys out there, for example theres the guy women wanna F*** and there's the nice guy women only wanna to be friends with.

Make sure you are not in scenario #2. Stop being so available to her. Stop giving her so much attention and she might look at you in a different way when she misses your support and attention.

my 2 cents.. I used to be that nice guy wayyyyy back then..

This almost sounds like that scene from "When Harry Meet Sally", when Bill Crystals character went to comfort Meg Ryan's and they got it on.....won't spoil it for those who have not see it how it turns out!

Did the right thing. Of course, she'll end up back with her loser boyfriend leaving you high and dry, but hey at least you won't be compared to Ben Roethlisberger Originally Posted by Cpalmson

No truer words have been posted.

You did the right thing. But remember, NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED. I have been there and done the right thing, but I was left with nothing.

You did the right thing. Tell her how you feel. She may feel the same way.

Must agree with AlphaMale, you are in the friend zone, never to get laid by this chick. Guys that do nice things stay in the friend zone. Funny that Crash talks about the move Harry/Sally, I remember something about that movie saying the sex thing always gets in the way of being friends, so doubt you will be a friend with benefits either.