Screening processes

Well then, pay for p411. Not sure how big it is in the area you're in, but it's a great system if there are active women where you are or want to go visit. You'll have a lot more credibility PMing a provider through the p411 system than you will through Eccie alone.

There's still women who want you to be verified through another provider first, but you can actually do a search based on basic membership, so you'll know exactly who you can choose from without having seen any providers, yet. And even then, many of the ones who want you to have seen another provider first will make an exception on a case by case basis. But you'll have to come across real well.

You just have a better chance of doing that on p411 than anywhere else I've seen. As long as you're willing to spend the money.

I'd like the answer from a newbie.
What are you willing to give as a way to verify who you are for a providers safety and yours?

Being new myself I can understand both sides of the coin, wanting the company of the women of choice is exciting but not having the right refs can be fustrating in the least. But for the safety of all involved I can appreciate the process. Safety is twosided!!!

I'd like the answer from a newbie.
What are you willing to give as a way to verify who you are for a providers safety and yours? Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

i'd be more than willing to provide a name, cell phone number, a work phone number, occupation, area of town i live in, etc, because i'd only solicit a provider i trust by doing my homework. i wouldn't provided specifics, like my address or work address, but enough to make her feel comfortable. i'd even be more than willing to get lunch or a coffee or something with them a few days before hand to test the waters and get to know each other first.

besides, i know that i wouldn't do anything to make her try to find me out of revenge or something, and most providers aren't stalkers. from what i've read on here the last few weeks, it seems to be mostly the other way around. anywho, all that, and i know that she'll most likely just throw my info away once the date is over. it's not like she's going to sell my info to some spam mailing list or anything.

Thanks speeedracer

Yes what you stated will get you further than a newbie who is scared to even give his name.
Mutual safety is a must and discretion is absolutely necessary.
I like real world info as you stated and what i do after screening your complete info is deleted and destroyed immediately after verification.

Thx

I have, on several occasions, met with the lady and taken her to dinner for her regular fee for the hour as a introduction. They have to eat, it's a safe way to get to know a person and it is perfectly legal. Not all girls are willing but it has worked for me in the past.

My first potential provider we shared very good rapport through a few messages and was willing to see me based on that. She was too far away it turns out and ended up disabling her account just a week later (uh oh!) I think now I can appreciate a good screening process.

I'll chime in as a newbie. I work in a very isolated environment, so a call to my 'office' would leave everyone scratching their heads. Maybe five people have my work number, and they don't call unless it's an emergency. For that reason alone, I'm not doing P411 until I have some references under my belt for verification. Apart from that, I'm pretty open to jumping through a couple of hoops for her peace of mind. I'd rather go the extra mile for a quality provider than settle for someone careless or desperate.

So back to the ladies - what's another acceptable and preferred method in cases like these? I'm not opposed to real name, IDs, grabbing a drink, or whatever. Just don't mess with my work!