Am I too sexy for the RW?

You're not a 16 year old pretending to be a virgin. You're a grown-assed woman. Unless you bust out some sex toys or take the dirty talk too far you shouldn't worry about any grown-assed man freaking out unless he himself is sexually prudish. My wife pretended to be much more sexy when we were dating than I found out she is married. If you can maintain your sexiness with one man over the years, you may just be the perfect woman.

Good luck in the real world and stay sexy.

Obviously there is a difference between providing and RW dating. There are things I experience, dare I say expect, in a session that I have rarely experienced with a civilian hookup. TUMA & faked orgasms might be good examples.

There are BCD activities you do as a provider that you know please us, but that you are less enthusiastic about. IMHO those can saved as it can now be more about YOU and YOUR pleasure than in a session. You can build up to treating your new man like a king instead of needing to show all your tricks in a first visit. Do not throw out all the tricks you learned as a courtesan; just save them for a few weeks so your new BF doesn't feel--as Prince sang--"a little ill when I saw all the pictures of the jockeys that were there before me."

Then you can go ahead and make him think sticking your tongue up his ass brought you to orgasm.

Nicole, what will you do when the new boyfriend absentmindedly tosses some money on the dresser or bedside table after ya'll are done?

Nicole, what will you do when the new boyfriend absentmindedly tosses some money on the dresser or bedside table after ya'll are done? Originally Posted by cpi3000

Take it!

Take it! Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

Money Grubbing, Gold Digging, Thief!

As far as getting asked out. Do the same as you do now. "Market" yourself (basically flirt) or show interest and they will do the rest if they are interested. Pretty much the same thing that happens here, lol.

Although some guys may have problems with it, I don't mind when a women asks me out.

Be yourself and the asking will take care of itself.

In today's RW, nobody really expects to be asking out a virgin. If and when it proceeds to the next level, be yourself and the gentleman will pretty much think he hit a gold mind.

Have fun in the RW and enjoy the dating experience.

Just know that sex skills aren't the only skill you've developed while
you were a provider. Most experienced providers have exceptional
"people skills"....use those to determine if your new found love is
ready to have "Niclole" unleashed on him in one fell swoop. Trust
the instincts you've refined over the years and take it one step at a
time.

And one last piece of advice... never never never mix the RW witth
the hobby world. Keep it in your past.

Unless you are at a point where you're having sex withdrawal - just slow everything down a bit. If he's the usual horn-dog male, he'll be so fired up initially and his "little" head will be applying the spurs to him anyway. Slowing down a little bit will be read as "fumbling" since he'll be hot to trot and ready to roll.

If you're just in it for the sex, then your question is moot in that you're going for the nutt and not all that concerned about a deeper relationship. So, just let it all hang out and have a good time - under those circumstances, who gives a rat's arse (nod to our buds across the pond).

You may want to give more thought to certain other behaviors/attitudes learned in the hobby that have more to do with the emotional and relationship building aspects of interpersonal relationships. Those could get in the way of building some sort of deeper relationship - if you're interested in that sort of thing.

Just take care of whoever you really are and start writing your life on all of those blank pages that lie in front of you.

And always remember those hallwed word's my ol' daddy used to say: "Fuck 'em, if they can't take a joke."

Thanks! This really was a serious question, so thank you for the great advice.



Do I need to fumble with the "rain coat" or expertly apply?

So my next question: How do you get a guy to ask ya out? Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

In my limited experience in RW condom usage, it is the guy who applies the "rain coat" on himself and is responsible for procuring said apparatus....so let him fumble with it. Now it is ok when a lady has a few condoms on hand herself, but not a lot and not a lot of varieties. So that paper towel-sized dispensor of a condoms you keep on hand by the bed might be a tad too much.
Also keep Magnums on hand and tell them everything is bigger in Texas.

"How do you get a guy to ask you out?" Are you kidding? You're irressitable and a Texas Princess.

Your "past" is history. We do not live for yesterday - We live for what tomorrow offers.

Ok, obviously I'm leaving in a few weeks to venture off into the RW, and I'm excited about dating for the first time in years. I've been a provider for 10 years and I've learned a thing or two BCD...

Now let's say I meet a special someone and decide to 'go all the way'...should I tone it down a bit at first? Would utilizing my special skills be too much or raise a red flag? I certainly wouldn't want someone wondering where I learned those moves, but I don't want to be a prude either.

Can a woman be too hot in bed in the real world?? Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

You are so Hot and sexy!

Don't say a thing......................
Be yourself in bed when it gets there....................
Play hard to get........
Don't make it a relationship based on sex, because you can never keep that pace up.

Nicole -
I've admired you from afar since an earlier time on aspd. Unfortunately, I've never had the pleasure of your company. This lyric sums up my best advice.

Take love easy, easy easy
Never let your feelings show
Make it breezy, breezy breezy
Easy come and easy go

Never smile too brightly brightly
When your heart is riding high
Let your heart break, oh so slightly
When your baby says goodbye

That well known flame is mighty hot
As all of us have learned
So handle it with velvet gloves
And you won't get your fingers burned

Take love easy, easy
On the free and easy plan
And if you can't take it easy
Take it easy as you can

(J. Latouche/D. Ellington)

Nicole:

You will be missed. Your a babe. We hope the best for you but if things don't work out you have many friends here. Take care.

Nicole, what will you do when the new boyfriend absentmindedly tosses some money on the dresser or bedside table after ya'll are done? Originally Posted by cpi3000

That money is for the maid or little ones lunches.
If she does it right she will hold out and get a rich one for RL.
She already has had everyone else in this OW.