Such a wonderful topic!
Here is my lil' .02 about the matter at hand...
I'm one who's been in this field for a long time with starting out under "Madam Alex" and then going with "Heidi Fliess". I was young and I am not at liberty to, nor would I ever indicated just how young I really was when starting out. I was not caught under any crossfire at all, (Oh' - Thank you Lord!), nor was there any sort of "loose lipping" - NO WAY concerning Alex and Heidi and any one else for that matter would ever occur then, now and in the future, EVER! Anyways, when the journey began needless to say, things were vastly different back then, than they are now. They were different in the sense of how much molding and mentoring came about, the safety net involved, etcetera. Upon taking a long break for real world work, having offspring, higher education, etcetera, I found myself having the utmost desire to return to "the life" as the, "legend" (not my self descriptor mind you, but rather ALL who have spent time with my unique being, penned me that), I once was back then, Oh wow - Oh wow, when emabrking on returning, did I learn that things had changed and big-time where the days of the "Madams" were gone and the days of independent internet "provider" with screening like lil' detectives which means providing one's own safety net - Well, as much as possible anyways, laptop, phone's, as safe and anonymous credit cards, the creation of a fictional character and persona apart from the Alex and Heidi days obviously, the necessity of "fictional review stories" about created fictional character and persona to be authored by known and respected "hobby" male fictional characters posted on known and respected "fictional internet boards", becoming verified, trusted and impeccable (again), placing classifiieds, having photographs, etcetera had taken over and still is what "the Life" entails today. The ways of today are much more stressful. Thus, one must be an extremely strong well-balanced person in all areas of life so to not have the "hobby" get to you by becoming cold-hearted, jaded, etcetera.
I have not changed since my journey began. I was and still am extremely sweet, genuine, "real", have utmost honor and respect, am not about that er'-um, proverbial "clock and number", but rather about, substance and connection all the way, etcetera. I know what this "hobby" is all about and all - It's about drama-free, no strings attached, pay one to leave thing with utmost honor and discretion but for me anyays, things still have to mean something and I convey such to the umost degree for every one that Graces my unique being with their presence. Being UTR for a long while like I have been though does affect me in the sense that I become nervous and giddy like a youngin' - LOL, but oh' so adorably cute, I am nonetheless!
I must admit however, I have changed with respect to tolerance and as a result, I have become somewhat jaded upon the real world "civvies" because no "civvie" treats my unique being like you Gentlemen do (which is utterly awesome and fantastic!), that partake in this "hobby".
Love & Light,
Mary Magdalene