What I'm trying to say is that anyone who grows up in an extremely dysfunctional or chaotic environment where they weren't nurtured or protected is never going to be "all there". Yet, as long as the world spins one has to make enough money to survive.
Taking the risks of being a provider is not considered a feminine thing to do. If you are looking to have sexual escapades with a woman free of any kind of neurosis, perhaps you ought to look for a woman who does not hobby. A person cannot give away there most intimate, sacred space to a stranger in exchange for money without any thought or care about the repercussions. Perhaps if you haven't considered the soul behind the face, you
ought to take a look in the mirror and wonder why you are expecting a gfe for a bargain price.
Originally Posted by cinderbella
First, I know several ladies that I believe are providers because they enjoy what they are doing and don't need the money. These ladies are quite selective. The notion that they are not feminine is out of date. In fact, I heard more and more college girls are establishing 'hook-up' relationships. If we decide that women controlling their own sexuality is unfeminine, we are moving a bit backwards. Now the ladies who control their sexuality by not having sex are still out there. Maybe that is why the gents are paying. As far as thinking about the repercussions, food and shelter are higher on the needs scale than sex. I'm sure some of the ladies have thought about the repercussions and decided to eat and have their children eat. I look in the mirror and expect a GFE for a bargain price because I wouldn't have a GFE otherwise. That particular fantasy is part of the trade. Ladies who can't manage to fulfill that fantasy, and their are a number, should be doing something else. Therefore, in a discussion of 'who is all there' the item of 'is there head in to the act' is very relevent. There are some gents just in to the four Fs. I wouldn't consider them all there. I definitely think that ladies looking for an ATM machine regardless of their level of service need to think about it also. Two heads in the game is better than one and absolutely better than one just looking for a good time on a one time basis. In the latter case, there is only the gents little head in the game and it doesn't count!