The frustrations involved with not being able to get it up, get it hard, and get it on. Let's discuss.

BSB -- you and i had this issue on my visit with you about a year ago ,, you was one of my first " big league" provider and we did ok for a while then the pressure and a little ED took over .. you worked with me but nothing made it return ,, you did fine ,, it was just one of those times ,,

We have all been there one time or another.

Sometimes it's because we are nervous, sometimes it's because someone forgot to take the little blue pill, and sometimes it's because . . .

Well, let's not talk about the obvious.

Guys, what is the best thing a provider can do in a "limp" situation other than "abort" the mission?

Talk? Be patient? BJ? Popsickle sticks and some string? Black Magic? Originally Posted by BrownSugarBaby

massage

The best approach is not to show frustration or impatience. And to be loving

A nap usually works...

I just had one

BSB I can't imagine that happening with you, but what would you do?, looking at your picture.

Interestingly, when I have experienced "issues", it seems the most likely/popular scenario is intense focus on the little dude that doesn't seem to wanna play. Melannie is so right, it seems to me that focus almost anywhere other than the little dude is better. Nuzzling, light kissing, DFK if mutually desired, back rub with some liberal swipes down to the ball rack, breast worship, BLS and all sorts of stuff OTHER THAN harder tugging/sucking on the little guy are more desirable for me and more likely to get little guy back in the game...

Would love to have seminar to discuss/try out these ideas with Melannie (or/and BSB)...

Would love to have seminar to discuss/try out these ideas with Melannie (or/and BSB)... Originally Posted by jimmylbob

BSB and Melannie?! You sir, are a genius.

Interestingly, when I have experienced "issues", it seems the most likely/popular scenario is intense focus on the little dude that doesn't seem to wanna play. Melannie is so right, it seems to me that focus almost anywhere other than the little dude is better. Nuzzling, light kissing, DFK if mutually desired, back rub with some liberal swipes down to the ball rack, breast worship, BLS and all sorts of stuff OTHER THAN harder tugging/sucking on the little guy are more desirable for me and more likely to get little guy back in the game...

Would love to have seminar to discuss/try out these ideas with Melannie (or/and BSB)... Originally Posted by jimmylbob

There are tons of other activities to be done, and you've named some of them. The last thing one should do is take frustration out on the lovely cock.

Prostate play, DATO , BLS (my favorite) and various worshipping (booty, breast) are all great activities.

Luckily the ED occurrs the 2nd or 3rd round whenever it does.

It is almost Halloween so turn down the lights get sexy and run a million volts of electricity through the one eyed pants monster while shouting maniacally "It's alive " !

I have experienced this as I am one of the 50s crowd. It can have a dozen explanations from stress , to meds , to too much porn, to a provider who won't stop talking about her chihuahua's diarrhea !

I think the best advice so far has been get sexy with lots of dirty talk and lots of erotic touching. Don't even try to get it hard and have fun doing other things. Personally the hottest thing for me is a woman cumming so maybe she could masterbate for me? Her cumming from DATY is also a real turn on for me so I might go for that if I got distracted and was losing wood.

Attitude and sexiness are key as others have said , the guy feels terrible and then it's even harder to get hard ( all pun intended ) so definitely don't let more mental pressure be applied. Sometimes wood is just not going to happen or the guy won't be able to cum. Have fun for an hour doing other things and say I'll see you next time !

Melanie - I love the charm in your posts! Also, the "Nuggets" part made me giggle! Thank you so much for the insight and advice. This has helped me, and I hope this helps others as well!

On a side note, you need to look into writing hobby erotica! Originally Posted by BrownSugarBaby

Thank you BSB..
You are very beautiful and sure you can make a volcano erupt as well as give after shocks! Now we have these boys all riled up for some action!! lol
I definitely would make out with you like a drunk college girl on spring break

BSB -- you and i had this issue on my visit with you about a year ago ,, you was one of my first " big league" provider and we did ok for a while then the pressure and a little ED took over .. you worked with me but nothing made it return ,, you did fine ,, it was just one of those times ,, Originally Posted by cockofold

Well, Thank-you! You don't have to apologize though darling. You are a sweet, kind, and passionate gentleman. That alone makes for a great session! There is so much more to great session that just straight fucking. I can always do that with my fingers and/or vibrator!

If the timing ever works back out again, you know where to find me.

Thank you BSB..
You are very beautiful and sure you can make a volcano erupt as well as give after shocks! Now we have these boys all riled up for some action!! lol
I definitely would make out with you like a drunk college girl on spring break Originally Posted by melannie_star

Thank you Doll!

Melannie - I think we have garnered some interest for a doubles session in this thread. Someone here is going to be one lucky guy! *Wink Wink*

Again, a big thanks for all the comments, suggestions, and advice from the lovely ladies and gentlemen who have posted in this thread!

I might have to print this booger out, highlight some pointers, and keep it in my provider manual for emergency situations!

Greatest thread EVER![

...changes name to One Lucky Guy...