Why Providers and not Affairs?

dearhunter's Avatar
Come on down to Houston.......Wakeup will fuck you......I promise.
It all boils down to safety, security, and plausible deniability.

Never ever ever get caught or put yourself recklessly in a position where it is remotely possible and not plausibly explainable.

It is not about you it is about your actions and their affects on others.

Discretion rules and sometimes to get what you want requires enormous patience.
It all boils down to safety, security, and plausible deniability.

Never ever ever get caught or put yourself recklessly in a position where it is remotely possible and not plausibly explainable.

It is not about you it is about your actions and their affects on others.

Discretion rules and sometimes to get what you want requires enormous patience. Originally Posted by catnipdipper
Agreed, with one additional item in my opinion....each person's preference.
its_good_2_b_me's Avatar
No, I'm saying that for whatever reason (MARRIAGE included) if you can arrange to have quality pussy for free, why pay? Originally Posted by SillyGirl
My two cents.. I've now had it both ways. I've pulled the tail and played the game all the while being married. The "quality" tail I pulled eventually wanted more and more of my time, the more I was away with her, the more questions I had to answer at home. For whatever reason, women have that intuition and the little lady knew something was going on. Had to tell the Mistress it was over, for good. That in and of its self opened a whole 'nuther can of worms!!! (constant calls, texts, im's). Someone said it best earlier in this thread, When you pay a woman for sex, your paying for her to go away. Lastly, I quote Hugo's latest hit "I got 99 problems and a bitch ain't one". I for one prefer to keep it that way! Cheers.
BottomFeederKC's Avatar
You don't pick up a mistress in a bar. That's a slut.


For the record: I have went home with women like Lilliana from bars. I'm sure many guys here have too. It takes a few hours and tons of $ on drinks, but it's not hard.

D

It is very hard to take people seriously when they cannot be bothered to read. Questor I'm looking at you for this one too, maybe instead of getting offended you actually try to see my point.



No one on this board can pick that woman up at the bar. I picked Mya deliberately because she is an objectively beautiful woman. And if you can, I ask again.......why do you hobby?

Um.......why the fuck not? You enjoy having multiple expensive women that you then have to go and get MORE expensive women because you apparently can't get any of them to.....what? do blow jobs? stop fussing and make you a sammich? Why have a mistress that DOESN'T satisfy every desire?

So instead of getting all offended (ahem half this thread) why not look at why your mistress is so inadequate that you have to pay yet another woman to do what the mistress should have been doing all along? Originally Posted by SillyGirl
Beautiful & well educated?

I call shenanigans!
You don't pick up a mistress in a bar. That's a slut. D Originally Posted by BottomFeederKC

Sounds intelligent to me!!

Sometimes it's better to than continue
looking stupid. But that takes intelligence.
Must be the foot in the mouth cutting off
circulation to the brain.
Bottom Feeder from your last post I am interpreting that you are calling Lilliana a slut? "You have went home with people like Lilliana before" You don't find a mistress in a bar you find a slut? I don't think she is a slut.

I guess that makes you a slut fucker when you take home a one nighter?

In my life I have learned that people look more attractive later in the evening than from when you started. True beauty is only a light switch away.
Not that BottomFeeder needs me to defend him in any way, but... Catnip... I think you should re-read what he wrote. Context is very important man... and it seems like you've missed a few dots whem making connections.
Beautiful & well educated?

I call shenanigans! Originally Posted by SillyGirl
Yes. Well educated & beautiful... You have to keep in mind, even well educated, beautiful women have game. Sometimes, the really good ones just like to make you think it was your idea to have them go home with you... Reality is that most women know if they want to fuck you within moments of meeting you. You simply increase or decrease your odds when you open your mouth... or buy them drinks.

Then again... some of those same smart & atractive girls will fuck you in the parking lot and then go back inside the club to dance with her girls because that's just what she wanted to do that night.
Sens55's Avatar
Well someone either thinks poorly of girls at bars or the guys on this board to think that no guy on this board would ever be able to pull a good girl at a bar without her being stupid and skanky. Are you saying the girls on this board have never done a one-nighter from a bar for free? I don't believe that for a minute.

Here's a different perspective. I travel. When you travel enough, business travelers tend to congregate in the same hotels/bars/restaurants. I have met several girls that are on the road 5 days/week, might be married as well, but want some sex. They know they'll never see the guy again. Well at least until next year at the same convention. I've met girls that are Presidents/VP's/Directors of large companies. Hot (way hotter than me), Smart (way smarter than me) and made a helluva lot more money than me. But guess what. I was the lottery winner that night. She used me...and I was SO upset about it I cried.

The point is, guys don't just pay for it because they're not capable of getting anything on the side worthwhile. Sure that may be the case for some, but certainly not all. For many it's that for the time, money, effort and randomness of it all, it's just easier to schedule a date, have the fun, and then move on.

And like Good2BMe, my last mistress, who was hot, fun and a total nympho wanted more and more and more. Texted constantly. Called me at times I couldn't answer. If a few hours went by without hearing from me she'd get upset. I just don't have time for that. It wore me out. And the misses started wondering why I was getting texts and calls at all hours and they were "nothing". So while I didn't have a "cash arrangement" with her, it was hardly free. In fact, it was probably more costly than if I'd just paid for it.

There are many men and many women in here. Men hobby for varying reasons. Women are providers for different reasons. It wouldn't be fair to say a girl here does this because she couldn't do any better for herself in another job. Might be true for some, but not all. And while some guys may not be able, willing or knowledgeable enough to pull "free" tail, others can and choose not to.
FlameSnake;

Because it is you that said it I went back and reread the post.

He called her a slut in my opinion.

He named 1 nighters in a bar as sluts not mistresses and then continued by saying he had WENT home with girls like Lilliana which by his $ and drinks description meant from the bar.

I just thought it was disrespectful.
When I was still active chasing puss..I did not do it at bars....it is everywhere and you just have to be diligent...and if you have game...it comes.

I may be wrong but I think what Bottomfeeder meant was a high percentage of the girls at bars are Floozys. Why weed your way thru the Floozys to find a few gems.

But getting back to the original question....why does a guy prefer to pay for it versus get it for free....and the answer for me is very simple...it is the same answer to the question "Why does a dog lick his balls?" BECAUSE I CAN
I guess sometimes we see what we want to see, KittyCrackScooper.
FlameSnake;

Because it is you that said it I went back and reread the post.

He called her a slut in my opinion.

He named 1 nighters in a bar as sluts not mistresses and then continued by saying he had WENT home with girls like Lilliana which by his $ and drinks description meant from the bar.

I just thought it was disrespectful. Originally Posted by catnipdipper