Question for the Over 40's Crowd!

Quote:Originally Posted by cheatercheater
Will you marry me??

yeah, but I am warning you.... I snore. Originally Posted by Reese Foster

ms. foster, they do make CPAP machines for that!
then all he'd have to listen to is the whitish noise it produces.
... and the whitish noise and the ooooh aaaaahs that the magic wand produces

forget him and marry me - i snore, too.
besides after we finish our activities, we'll both be snoring...

50 years old, married 18...working on twice a month, up from once a month, up from 4 times one year. Add one child, subtract all interest in sex.

Thank God for a good job, and discovering the hobby, or there may have been a hostage situation somewhere along the line...

Glad I got my game together. I'm 62, SO is fourteen years younger, exotic HOTNESS, in great shape and she's ALWAYS in the mood for some lovin' and I do mean ALWAYS. If there is such a thing as an average it's 3-4 times a week, but sometimes she wants the goodness more often. Been down the aisle twice with good gals who, bless their souls, turned out to have a profound affection for the bottle. I hang out here for the grins and drama but do LOVE to window shop.

You know it's funny, I'm almost 49, going through menopause, but my sex drive is off the charts! Maybe it's because I don't have an SO anymore and when I did, we still had sex at least twice a week! Bless the poor soul who tries to date me! LOL! Originally Posted by Lana Warren

Lana I am way over 40 and we have sex 2 to 3 times a week.
Guess I am one of the lucky ones.
When my SO went through menopause it was off the charts
for her too. It was an enjoyable time for us and it helped to
get her through the other side effects of menopause.

50+ yrs old, married 33 yrs
no sex with SO since 2008
before that 8 to 10 times a year
haven't done hobby since 2009... need to start again soon

mid forties and I haven't had sex at home in over five years... not sure how many times a week she has sex though you'd have to ask her

Enlightening, interesting, and depressing.... got divorced about 6 years ago. Prior to the end we were still having sex once or twice a week and she hadn't lost desire. I was 54 then. Now my friends are telling me, if I find the right SO to be sure she's say 38 - 45 or else the sex issue will be a problem. Scary stuff here... maybe I better set up a hobby pension plan...?

49...married 18 (2nd time around). She's 41. In the early days - it was 3 - 4 times a week. After our son was born 16 years ago, dwindled to 1 a week. Got pissy over my lack of spending time with our son - no matter how much time I spent it was never enough - so it became a game of points for sex...play some games during a week get sex; discipline the kid; no sex for a month; been like this for about 11 years now. Some times we've gone as long as 3 months with nothing (longest dry spell was 5 months 22 days - I keep a log for my urologist due to some prostate issues). We go through cycles now from 1 a week (about once a quarter) to 1 a month (most of the time). Too tired, no connection...blah, blah, blah - she's on beta blockers and I think that is the chief culprit (but she won't see a cardiologist like her doctor and I have asked). So I have returned to the hobby when I have the money - but mostly I have returned to the lifestyle community from my premarital days. Loving couples who like to share.

49...married 18 (2nd time around). She's 41. In the early days - it was 3 - 4 times a week. After our son was born 16 years ago, dwindled to 1 a week. Got pissy over my lack of spending time with our son - no matter how much time I spent it was never enough - so it became a game of points for sex...play some games during a week get sex; discipline the kid; no sex for a month; been like this for about 11 years now. Some times we've gone as long as 3 months with nothing (longest dry spell was 5 months 22 days - I keep a log for my urologist due to some prostate issues). We go through cycles now from 1 a week (about once a quarter) to 1 a month (most of the time). Too tired, no connection...blah, blah, blah - she's on beta blockers and I think that is the chief culprit (but she won't see a cardiologist like her doctor and I have asked). So I have returned to the hobby when I have the money - but mostly I have returned to the lifestyle community from my premarital days. Loving couples who like to share. Originally Posted by fireguydfw

That's extremely sad that she refuses help! Doesn't she know that she's missing the best years of her life right now?

Wow! All of you guys are married?!

62, 1-2 times a month, maybe, and when she is in the mood.

Forunately, I golf a lot and sometimes don't make it to the course.

53,married 28 years, haven't had sex in YEARS...honestly-thats what led me to eccie. I am very very cautious about everything I do, and in fact, feel a little uncomfortable about writing this post, but i's comforting to know others experience something of the same nature. btw- I am your normal, testosteron laden horney male- I stay that way- and it drives me nuts to see a hot women knowing I haven't been able to enjoy anything in forever. Actually would be concerned about bedroom action-afraid I wouldn't know what to do.

this just keeps getting more interesting!

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, my story will sound all too familiar.

46, married for 13 years. This is my second marriage. First marriage lasted 7 years after marrying at the age of 19. Had a substantial gap between marriages...current wife and I are separated (likely headed to divorce) and she's 1000 miles away. Not that it matters, as our sex life had essentially dwindled to nothing. In a good month, maybe one encounter. At worst, 4-5 months between encounters.

It's not even about achieving an orgasm. It's more about craving the gentle touch that only a woman can provide. Even if it's paid for and an just an illusion, hobbying still fills that void as best as it can.

Sierra 977 - you are one lucky guy!
My last one lasted 10 and the last 7 were totally sexless (she REFUSED to get help)! I lasted 5 before I found the hobby. I have met some VERY interesting women over the last couple of years and I consider a few of them as friends! The way I look at it is that all women (and men!) have baggage behind them at our stage of life ... so why is it relevant that they were doing it for pay or play?