I gotta say, if your wife cuts you off for 3 years for no acceptable reason (I can't really think of any, but maybe something medical would suffice), then she is crazy for not expecting you to have sex with someone else. I get sick of spouses of either sex bitching about their partner cheating if they aren't committed enough to the health of the relationship to at least attempt to ensure that intimacy needs of the other are being met. That's at least half on them.
Originally Posted by Denali68
At 25, my wife injured her back, two slipped discs and some nerve damage. The nerve injury caused her body to stop producing estrogen, her cervix began atrophying, and she lost all interest in sex.
Her mother died of cervical cancer when she was 12. So she has a huge fear of cervical cancer. HRT [estrogen therapy] might help her, but she is convinced that it would kill her.
Her genitals at completely atrophied. Any touching is painful. Digital manipulation of labia will cause them to rash, the skin cracks easily and bleeds.
She is light-skinned and allergic to just about everything [most lubricants and some soaps].
She hid that her nature was to be 'asexual' during our courtship, and the first 3 years of marriage. She never liked sex, and she has never experienced an orgasm. But she was willing to be playful, for my sake when we were newlyweds.
After her spinal injury, she let herself embrace her natural dis-interest in sex.
She knows that I have a sexual need, but she does not want to know about it in any manner. She wants me to take care of my own needs in a manner where she would never be reminded that my needs exist.