Here's the bottom line that we all need to learn from this encounter (plus a couple of other lessons that need to be shared).
1. If a provider asks for a deposit, automatically assume it's a scam, even though they might have an impeccable review history. Move on to the next provider.
2. If a provider asks for personal info for screening (personal info is anything you are not comfortable giving out), move on. A big part of this hobby is confidentiality / anonymity. They aren't giving you their personal info, you don't need to provide yours. Too often personal info and real world identity has been leaked.
I'm sure there is lots more, but these will be the first two commandments.
Originally Posted by arealone
I'm a newb to the hobby - this quote really hit me. I'm totally clueless as to how much personal info is enough. I gotta say, I'm really uncomfortable sharing it.
I tried booking an appointment this summer - and I had to provide pictures of my driver's license and a list of information. Then she asked me a series of personal questions - the kind of information that insurance companies, banks and big tech firms ask. She asked one question and I just couldn't bring myself to answer it; but I felt like I already gave too much.
Now, I'm pretty confident that she was a legit provider. She had p411, Tryst and her own website and was traveling out of Kansas City. I"m not here to slander anyone. But that seems like a lot of information.
Luckily, I happily landed with Jennifer in Fort Smith. Happy Endings and all. But I would like to know as a noob - where is the line? What info is acceptable? Can I blur ID#s out?
PS I'll never give a deposit. Ever. Way too paranoid for that shit.