Should I cheat, file for divorce, or lead a life devoid of blow jobs?

quite simple...if she does not work...and does not suck dick...she needs to go.

And NEVER admit to cheating. You fucked up. Tell a pastor or a therapist. But do not tell her. Originally Posted by cpi3000

I agree 100%. Got that advice from my ex-father-in-law a day or two too late. He told me he didn't care if she caught you with your nuts touching her ass, never admit it. When I told him I already did, he just walked away shaking his head......

On another point, your description of your marraige is exactly what sent me out. I tried the civilian thing, it rarely works. It becomes personal no matter how much each of you say it's just physical.

I have no real advice on how to apprach it as I think each is different. I can get my cock sucked while I talk to her on the phone and never let on, but hey that's years of training to reach that level. It seems to me you already know what you want and are just looking for some sort of support. I say it's all on you buddy.

bottom line. if you are taking care of them then they should be taking care of you. if not you need to get it elsewhere. its for your peckers health. use it or lose it. if they are one way before marraige then change after u tie the knot then they are dishonest bitches who saw you as a meal ticket. you got took guy. so dont feel guilty. all you are doing is enjoying gods creation. i wouldnt call it cheating. this is the only country to call it cheating.
just be careful, stay with proffesional ladies. you both will lead long happy lives.
dont go picking up a streetwalker.

you work hard, u need to play hard.

You are not going to stop wanting BJs and you have broken the seal on infidelity.

If you decide to stay in the hobby, you can do your research here for who give top quality CBJ. (It is a different skill than BBBJ in my opinion.)

Most of all, if you decide to stay in, even for 1 more try, NEVER confess. Let your guilt be your punishment. Ratting yourself out will only make 2 people miserable instead of 1.

Most of all, if you decide to stay in, even for 1 more try, NEVER confess. Let your guilt be your punishment. Ratting yourself out will only make 2 people miserable instead of 1. Originally Posted by kingforaday

+1

Originally Posted by cpi3000
I am not saying that the hobby cannot be good "therapy", but it has more consequences for the married man. I thank you ladies for the kindness and the special skills it takes to rebuild a mans confidence in himself. Many of you are wonderful providers of more than just some physical fun.

If my wife hadn't died, I would probably still be leading Men's bible studies taking out the trash when I left in the mornings. Men are easy. Give them good uninhibited sex and make them sandwiches and we will do anything.

Wow...thank you cpi for your sensitivity and understanding of what some of us strive to do.

I'm just curious...NBNice...how are things are going?

It's seems pretty simple to me…
Scratch B all together..!
Go with A, if you unfortunately get caught…
Go with B, and live happily ever after.
I'm just sayin....

Er.... did you mean Scratch B or C?

Scratch B…. Go with C….
There we go. Thanks for the help.!

Scratch B…. Go with C….
There we go. Thanks for the help.!

We fuck every week or two (which gets both of us off) but she never gives me head and doesn't like to engage in any of the D/s play that we both enjoyed while dating. Originally Posted by NaughtyButNice

Get a divorce. I'm getting married soon and I don't know about you, but I made it fairly clear to my fiancee that I was happy with our sex life and that I would not be very happy if our sex life suddenly became less interesting after getting married. BTW, if you owned your house prior to getting married, it's still yours. In Texas, what you come into the marriage with doesn't automatically belong to both of you by virtue or marriage. You should see a lawyer to find out exactly what you have that would fall under marital assets. One things for certain, though. The longer you stay married, the more you'll acquire as a married couple and the more you'll end up dividing if you get divorced. Better to do it now than later.

I agree with undercover1. There is nothing wrong with a little excitement in a man's sex life.