Question for the Over 40's Crowd!

Thanks abd. You have my sincere empathy. I put up with seven years of mostly sexless second marriage for the sake of my kiddos. Would still be living that dead life but the ex's alcohol and substance issues got the better of her. After paying all child support with a single check and making certain kiddos are cared for I reached back and found the game still works. Picked up a nice bachelor pad that belonged to a local SC owner, hooked up with a great Russian gal and having more fun than when I was twenty. Russian is in Italy for a couple weeks and ladies here are looking tempting... LOL

Well, I'm pushing 60, on my second marriage, current SO is 15 years younger than me, since she had the baby, we have only had sex 10 times in 3 years!!!! She is always to tired or to busy...

I, on the other hand still want sex several times everyday... I would go insane if it were not for the wonderful ladies I have met here...

At 51 still 3-4 times a week. Helps the SO is 34!

Wow, this is depressing..........

over 40 and divorced for 15 yrs. After reading some of these post, I made the right choice to remain single..................LOL

There is no way I could tolerate a lack of sex or interest in it with an SO for such long periods.

If you don't use it.......you lose it.........Hell, I wear it out on both sides of the fence....Civvie and hobby.............

I have talked about this before and most of you know that I was married for over 20yrs! Our sex life was great! In fact, up until a few weeks before we separated, we were having sex at least twice a week or more! But, as we all know, sex isn't the key to a happy marriage!

my guy and i have wild sex at least 4 to 5 times a week....the other times are just hot quickies

I think my "job choice" has kept me a "horny" gal...I love it all!!!!! lol

After 18 years of being together, once every 10 days is the norm. The reason why I hobby!

For some reason, this thread has caused me to jump from long-time lurker status (dating way back to early ASPD days) to emerge from the shadows and comment.

The statements made by many here ring so very true; they cause me to reflect on a failed 16 year marriage that initially had all the sexual excitement, spontaneity and sensual/sexual gratification one could hope for. After living apart for a few years and then finalizing the divorce several months ago, and now casually dating, these posts have hit me with a reality check like a Mack Truck. Why would I repeat the past when there are so many alternatives?

To answer Lana's question when all was good early in the marriage (for the first 3 or 4 years), we had sex 4 or 5 times a week and it was terrific. After having two kids, the frequency dropped off to once a month, at best, no matter what I said or did - and I tried like hell.

Desperate for a sexual release, I started hobbying many years ago, which now leads me to believe I should simply continue with it and not get sucked into the vortex of traditional dating, which could very well lead to a new SO. Since I find women around my age most attractive, that means they're likely to be (or soon) going through "the change" and with it all the risks of diminished frequency of sex.

Maybe the notion of, "If it fucks, flies or floats, rent don't buy" has some real merit?

Since I find women around my age most attractive, that means they're likely to be (or soon) going through "the change" and with it all the risks of diminished frequency of sex. Originally Posted by XXXHermes

First of all, glad to see you post after lurking for so many years!

Secondly, I'm 49 and going through "the change", and my sex drive if off the charts! Wanna know why? It's because I've chosen to stay sexually active! If you don't use it, you lose it!

I think I may have set the record for a sexless marriage. SO and I haven't had sex since just after our son was born. Let's just say it's been 15 years. She has body/self esteem/health issues. I gave up trying about 13 years ago. Don't want our son to be from a broken home, don't want to go through the divorce hassle and I don't have enough $ to hobby like I'd be tempted if I was single. Hobbying has helped. I also have no problem with "taking care" of myself.

I went through the change but I'm still horny as hell myself. That's why I'm here. I don't get laid in my real life, and the hobby isn't bringing much in the way of luck either. Maybe I should become a nun? lol

I had a relationship that ended because of no sex. We did it every day at first but after 8 years it just stop. She went looking for someone younger and last I heard she is still looking after 3 years out. I was with providers before her and now having a better time with out her. I like the girlfriend treatment and now realize how much I was missing out on with her. I am 50 now and injoying all the classy ladies I can fine. If I every remarry it will be with a provider.

My wife stopped having sex when I was 39.....at least with me....that was over a decade ago...

These study results from the Kinsey Institute may be relevant here:

http://news.google.com/news/more?pz=...JYJZTM&topic=m

I am 50. I hooked up with a x-dancer 12 yrs ago. Sex was great for the first 5 yrs and went down from there. After that ride I swore I was done except punching the clown. Then I found the AMPS. They got closed and now I found ya'll.