Anyone who has lost a loved one to cancer has the right to feel betrayed. This is not a matter that hoaxes are usually made out of. Originally Posted by trynagetlaidReally? I lost someone very close to me at the end of January 2011 and no way do I feel betrayed over this issue. I felt sad that another good person supposedly died before his time and glad once it was determined he is still around and was even healthy enough to take a vacation out of the country! YEAH for him.
I hope the mods/owners sort this out and take the appropriate measures to make sure this never happens again. Originally Posted by trynagetlaidThese are some of the most bullshit laden words of this entire thread.
What actions? Where did ANYONE on this board do something wrong? Is acting in good faith after getting a phone call about something that Nitwitboy and SPTL had talked about in the past wrong at any level?
SPTL, I'm truly shocked that upon learning of the death of a close friend you didn't find out about arrangements, sending flowers, etc. Your eulogy was touching but if you had just asked one or two more questions of the caller this hoax wouldn't have reached first base. Originally Posted by trynagetlaidExcuse me? have you ever actually read any of the threads about discretion? What should she have done? Stalked his Facebook page? Driven to his house where family members might be gathered and say, oh hi, I'm an escort who is also a massage therapist and I was told he died and want to express my condolences?
Part of the discretion of the hobby is knowing when to get involved. IF there were more discretion actually practiced, then ASPD Amber's family would not have been outted when SHE died. When nicky of ASPD died, how many of his close hobby friends were also his real life friends who would not have been out of place at a service? Having just attended and been part of handling a funeral for a family member, let me tell you, flowers sent to the house or funeral home get extra attention from those who are mourning because wives and children want to say thank you for the condolences.
People in the hobby die. Some get noticed. The vast majority do not and to think that one should stalk his real world life to check such a rare thing, a hoax about a man with cancer dying and she gets a call from his roommate? What a load of shit.
And Nitwitboy, you need to explain your absence/total ignorance of this hoax being perpetrated on lots of people who loved and respected you, and prayed for your well being when you were fighting that dread disease. Were you staying in an aborigine village totally cut off from the rest of the world? Originally Posted by trynagetlaidNitwitboy owes you and this board no apologies for the actions of another when he was out of the country. He acted when he got back and called SPTL and she was in shock. He went and got laid.
And his handle is DISABLED by the staff and until HE asks for it to be activated, he can't post anything.
Pot meet kettle. kettle meet pot when it comes to apologies and explanations.
EDIT TO ADD:
The family member I lost was a huge practical joker. The things he did to many family and friends over the years brought tears to our eyes as we sat and thought about him after he passed. If he had the energy or the strength as he was getting closer to the end, he might have done this to one or two people but he would have thought it too far over the edge because of how much he meant to too many people but as calls were made, there is no way anyone would have thought it was a joke or a hoax so the mere fact YOU think that way (might be a hoax) reflects more on you than on anyone else.