MrGiz, are you saying that because I don't want to spend additional time off the clock with a client, that I am not quality entertaintment?? Originally Posted by incognito isis
No Ma'am.... that's not even close to what I meant! It just appears to me, that so many disappointing encounters may be the result of negative attitudes not even allowing the possibility of a good time.... so why even bother? I don't believe it's one of your tasks, to cheer me up!
Giz Originally Posted by MrGiz
Jeeeeeezus!!Although Giz had no fat in the fire, let me try and pull it out anyway. I think he was talking about my negative attitude.
I was referring to the negative attitude of the customer!!
But then again.... I could be wrong!!
Giz Originally Posted by MrGiz
...so fellas, why don't you refrase it? Instead of putting us on the spot with "you can stay if you want" why don't you ask instead:If I had to phrase my question a certain way just to prevent from offending her or putting her on the spot, I wouldn't bother asking in the first place. Remember, you're talking about men here. We travel in a straight line. If you want us to act a certain way, you have to spell it out for us.
Are you tired? Are you going to be ok to drive home? I know it's a long drive, so if you are too tired, your welcome to rest here. That way I can respond: thank you for the offer, but i'm ok to drive home. I'm not put on the spot. Originally Posted by incognito isis
I would prefer a client to say to me: are you tired? Are you ok to drive home? If not, you are welcome to stay and rest....Instead of hoping and expecting men to say all the right things, come up with an answer that you don't have to use the word "no". Something like; thanks for the offer, but I do need to get home. I think your life would be easier if you learned to politely bow out, instead of expecting to hear all the right things from other people.
THAT would be different because then it would show true concern over my safety. However, when you say to me at 7pm or a beautiful night, "you can stay if you want" truely does put me on the spot. I don't want to say no, because then I'm admitting that I don't want to......so fellas, why don't you refrase it? Instead of putting us on the spot with "you can stay if you want" why don't you ask instead:
Are you tired? Are you going to be ok to drive home? I know it's a long drive, so if you are too tired, your welcome to rest here. That way I can respond: thank you for the offer, but i'm ok to drive home. I'm not put on the spot. Originally Posted by incognito isis
sometimes you just don't want things to end if your having a good time & I did Originally Posted by Sweet N LittleWhen reading London's thread I was struck by exactly this thought and then found it posted by SNL which is kind of ironic. I've been asked to stay and it's very flattering, but doesn't happen all the time. If it never happens to you Isis then you might ask yourself why? Not saying that you should or shouldn't but just find it interesting that you never want to. Actually upon reflection it kind of becomes sad, I would want a little more happiness or maybe even bliss in your life.
If you have no interest in staying, you don't need an excuse. Just say "I enjoyed meeting but no thank you, I have to get home" Why make this so difficult or made to feel pressured. Fuck it, leave and don't look back. Be polite but firm. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser
Instead of hoping and expecting men to say all the right things, come up with an answer that you don't have to use the word "no". Something like; thanks for the offer, but I do need to get home. I think your life would be easier if you learned to politely bow out, instead of expecting to hear all the right things from other people. Originally Posted by AnsleyI stand on what I said early on. I really think you are making a much bigger deal out of this than is really there. We are all pigs anyway!! I don't know why you would feel pressured, if you don't want to stay...don't. Just bow out gracefully.