Any guy in his early 20s (hell any guy under 50) with enough money to hobby, who can't get laid easily by civvies, is a sad case. It doesn't matter if he's not gorgeous. These days, any guy who's willing to spend some money can get laid and go home. It astounds me to keep seeing these posts from young guys. If that sounds insensitive, well sorry.
Originally Posted by Bobave
Yeah, and any guy with a rifle can go hunting.
But there's no guarantee that he will be successful. And even if he is, he'll still need to spend time on traveling, cooking, cleaning up, etc. Sometimes it's easier, more convenient, and more pleasurable to just go to a good restaurant and order whatever you want.
What was it Chalie Sheen said. He's not paying them to have sex with him. He's paying them to go away when he's finished.
Originally Posted by TexTushHog
Exactly!
The "hobbying" idea would have appealed to me when I was in my 20s (1970s.) Of course, the sexual revolution that began in the 1960s was in full bloom. Being a single guy in Dallas was like being a fat kid in an ice cream shop with a $20 bill. I met more girls than you could imagine in Dallas's popular clubs and discos.
But those activities entailed spending more time than I wanted, and in many cases staying up later than was ideal. On weekdays, I needed to get up by 6:30 am and be ready to hit the ground running, as I had ambitious career goals like most of the rest of us.
On some evenings, it would have been very nice to just have someone come over for an hour, enjoy some fun, and then hit the sack early enough to get some needed sleep.
By the time I was in my early 30s I figured that out and found a balance between "civilian dating" and P4P that worked for me.