Interesting topic Elizabeth. I have tried the sounds and I liked em, the violation of another taboo orfice thing. As far as CBT, I am a fan of that too and find it difficult to find a provider that will take it to the level I desire altho I believe Lindsy Lacey might be the one. She has lots of intersting toys including estim equipment
Next visit I get to go to the mythical Red Room. Ball tugging is always good fun, but most ladies are reluctant to attack the boys with the relish needed. I like to tie a cord using a slipknot around my nutsac and have my partner tug on it while we doggie, that way she sometimes forgets herself and pulls harder than she would otherwise. Chewing on the boys is another turn on and even a little tooth action on the head and shaft can rachet it up a notch or two. An adventerous lover can be an amazing thing. The more mature the provider the more likely you are to find that spirit. Just MHO. One mans torture can be anothers ectasy.